my entire penis head is grey and not pink and I had phimosis

May I also add, my penis is really curved, to the point where when standing up it comes somewhat close to touching under my stomach.

Hi Guest

Your penis size for your age is just fine you still have lots of time to grow.
It would be a good idea to see your doctor about the other issues in your post.

Telling your parents will be a little awkward but you don't have to go into details about what is going on.
You could just ask them to make you an appointment and when they ask why just say it's private and you would rather not explain.
If they insist on knowing just say there is an issue with your foreskin.

It does sound like you need to see your doctor to resolve the issues so it's time to talk to your parents.

When your erect it is normal for it to be close to touching.
How are you with cleaning under your foreskin?
With it being really sensitive it will be uncomfortable but it need to be done daily.

You could also use a little bit of baby oil on the head after you clean it using baby soap to clean your penis would be a good idea as well.

I clean the best I can daily, when my penis has been in contact to water after 10-20 minutes it starts to minorly desensitize, allowing me to clean a little more thoroughly, also, my glans seems wrinkly, not the wrinkly like an old man or anything I just mean that when you look closely you can see all of these tiny wrinkles, however if I get a biggish erection they flatten out, is this normal?

Hi Guest

Yeah everything sounds normal for sure.
The water will make it easier to stretch and retract your foreskin the more your head is exposed it will become less sensitive.
Great that your working on cleaning it and retracting your foreskin.

I have two sons, one in grade 4 and the other in grade 7. My youngest one have all kinds of challenges with his sexuality. That's why I joined Steadyhealth, to get some support and help. I often post threads about his challenges and progress. Perhaps you can have a look at my other posts. I understand fully why one's privates can be a huge stress factor and my heart goes out to you.
I know that not all father-son relationships are the same but most fathers would really like their sons to be open to them about any problem, especially sexuality. We as men are very shy to talking about our issues and we need to work at it. But, in the mean time, keep on posting, it does help to post about our struggles and fears.
To come back to your problem, pulling your foreskin back as far as it can go and washing it, is okay. If you are not in pain and your foreskin don't get stuck when you pull it back, it is okay for now until you are ready to ask your parents to take you to the doctor. Even if it takes a year or two. But please, if you experience you can not waist any time, you have to tell your parents immediately.

Experience pain. I wanted to say, if you experience any pain, you can not waist any time, you have to tell your parents immediately.