My gf hates her clitoris being stimulated and I can't make her orgasm :( (18+)

FEMALES who have not felt the orgasm yet. Here is from a female's perspective: My Story. I actually havent felt the so called "female orgasm" not until recently and unexpectedly. Both clitoral and vaginal orgasms. I experienced the vaginal orgasm first. I was shocked when I felt that feeling..oh my god..it was frikkin good.. I bet any female who has not felt the orgasm would wonder what was the feeling like? I was in that situation before. The feeling is easy to explain but hard to understand. Hope this explanation helps. First off, in order to feel the orgasm, you have to really enjoy the sexual act to the max as if you want it more and more. I felt vaginal orgasm when I was on top. Once you feel of wanting his penis more and more, going up and down, start grinding or rubbing ur pelvic on his pelvic while his penis is inside, stop doing the up and down part, instead, do the rubbing part and concentrate on his penis inside of you all deep inside. When I did that, I felt an itchy feeling inside. I want to rub my pelvic to his pelvic faster and faster and deeper and deeper for his penis to be so deep inside and the sensation of itchy feeling becomes stronger and stronger which feels so so so so gooooood until I would not be able to rub it because of the intense feeling of great itchy pleasure as if I was coming. Second one is clitoral orgasm. its basically the same thing. You really have to enjoy the feeling of touching your p***y as if you are longing for someone to touch it. It depends on you on how you stimulate the feeling of orgasm. there is always two ways of how it will turn out, the same as vaginal orgasm: it's either you stimulate the orgasm or you stimulate the pee sensation. Once you feel the pee sensation, you will never gonna be able to feel the orgasm so i suggest you to pee first before doing sexual acts. Anyway, I would stimulate mine by touching it in a circular motion so I could get an arousal  and get wet and touch the area around the clitoris and not the clitoris. Once you get an arousal sensation and your wet, your clitoris will not be sensitive to touch. Now, start doing circular motion with the clitoris and you either do it faster or slower. Later on, once its feeling so good, you will feel the itch same as the vaginal orgasm and as a result, you will rub and rub your clitoris faster and faster until it becomes sensitive to touch which makes it painful. Once you feel these two orgasms, you will want to feel it every single time.

Has she seen a doctor? Some women have a painful thing called Vulvadinia. It's pain to the touch of the vagina. Maybe she could ask about that?

I don't know if you ever got your answer but I'm a female and the only way I can cum is if I do it myself. My boyfriend knows exactly what her is doing but I get so turned off when my clip is touched. I still hate my gspot. Not every girl enjoys that sensation of having to pee it's just a complete buzz kill and when it happens we have to stop. But try different things that will make her feel tingly down there by just thinking it. Me I don't do anal because it is painful but it's always exciting to think about it while I'm on top and then boom the sensation builds. Maybe if she is on top play with her anus. Don't stick your finger in it just touch it. Rub it. (Please don't do that dry) also maybe you can just kiss and shuck on her lips if she has labia suck on them. It's amazing. Don't go straight for the vlit. It just hurts. You have to work your way up to it and for me I can NEVER directly touch my clit. I touch around it. But even for myself it's a 25/75 percent chance I'll cum. So it sucks. Some women never cum because they just cant. Just don't go straight for making her cum enjoy the moment.

I'm that girl... I hate my clitoris being rubbed... Never came before.. Always had to pee... My ex got me really high "for the first time" and surprisingly that made me "cum" so hah . It may work. :p

I'm a girl (21) and I have had a few boyfriends but thought something was wrong because I could not orgasm. Now, I have a boyfriend who I have been with for over 3 years. About 2 years ago, when he would finger me, I admitted that I couldn't cum because it made me feel like I had to pee. We googled it and found out maybe I was a squirter and that I needed to be "in the moment". Now, I can do it A LOT lol my advice is, make sure she is COMPLETELY relaxed, and that she's really turned on. Try kissing/making out for a while, then touch her boobs and vagina lightly.. try to drive her crazy. Then, when she's relaxed, start fingering her and slowly speed up. If she feels like she has to pee, reassure her that she WILL NOT PEE, and that it will feel really really good. Make sure that you keep telling her that you want her to do it, it'll make you really happy and turn you on, and you'll l
LOVE it. That worked for me and it sounds like your girlfriend and I had/have the same problem... idk if you've solved your problem yet (I hope so) but if not, hopefully I can help.

Do you have a recommendation for a specific type or brand of clitoral vibrator?

I wish you were my man!! I hate my clit being touched!! It's amazing that you are looking to get some tips/helpful ideas to satisfy your woman !!

This was. Really great and supportive way of explaining things and taking time not to mention she has some mental blockers she has to get through first. Great for you for being so understanding!!

You described me exactly (except for the bit on vibrators, I don't use them because they make me dizzy, not because I don't see the need). I can't really help you because I'm just like your gf, but I do get turned on by fantasies that typically don't involve sex. Perhaps there's something she likes that's considered "foreplay" that gives her enough stimulation to at least make her feel good, if not actually come to orgasm. Personally, I have never orgasmed but I don't really mind.

She probably a squirts put the fingers in flick them back four in and out if she is a squirter and has never squirted once yet it will be hard to get out first time in and out flip your fingers up towdas the stchomic and in and out lot of pressure on the g spot she should adventuall squirt first time I did it to my gf took five hours lots of cumm.defiantly worth it u be addicted if u bang a different girl that donsent squirt the sex sucks I like it too much I don't really like internal orgasms from wemen too much squirter have high climax its extra fun practice take s time but once u can make her cumm she will never for get u because u will know her body better than her

I can see that this post was written quite some time ago, so a reply to you specifically seems like a fairly outdated idea.
That being said, I thought I'd give your post some "experienced attention" for anyone who stumbles across it at any point in the future, even now, as I have.
Your then, girlfriend, was 'me' early in my experience with Sexual Activity.
I first began to experiment with 'all things sexual' at the age of 16, I'm now 42- (Yes, I've learned a thing or two (or twenty) since then:)
When I first decided to explore my sexuality -it was 'Love' and my CoPilot was my Far More Experienced 18 year old boyfriend of 1 year.
We had only kissed (made out), and of course there was some serious over the clothes rubbing/grinding for the first year of our relationship.
When I was finally ready to take it to the next level I was very comfortable with my boyfriend, although I was terrified of the unknown as far as penetration. What I didn't know - (besides nothing), was anything about foreplay, the pain of sexual penetration for a virgin, and the most shocking to me "Oral Sex, (for) Women). When he introduced that into the mix I was completely blown away. Not because it was "so great" but because I had no idea people did that. I didn't know what to think- good or bad. It definitively didn't have the same physical or psychological effects on me then, as it does now. .
Here's how things progressed. My lack of experience made things get off to a very slow start. I didn't really enjoy sex for quite a while. As far as oral, it was just, eh, cool, but I didn't see what the hype was about.
Orgasms. What's that? I was 24, a 6 year Sex Vet, when suddenly all those years of Trying, Wanting, Giving Up On, and being a Stranger to Orgasms, was Redeemed in a What The, What The, Who The, Why The, Oh My Dayum, What Just Happened- Pulsating, Contracting, Full Body Quivering -Orgasm!
Even then I couldn't control when or if they happened & it still took years before I learned how to take control & "get it done:)"
As far as Clitoral Stimulation - that was another -Eh, No Thanks. It was just a lot of intense unfamiliarity I didn't know how to capitalize on, so I tried my best to pretend it was pleasant, but it was torture.
Masturbation- That's for Freaks. Or is it? I was knocking on 40's door before I had my Ah Ha Moment with that little Wee, Yes Please :)
My motto until then was: I can't tickle myself, see, I tickled my armpits, doesn't tickle, I guess I just don't turn myself on. Besides, who wants a piece of plastic without a penis or a soul attached to the other end? Made sense to me.
Until....A Rough Break Up & My Sexual Prime. I was Really Struggling with the Newly Single Transition from Daily Intense Sex, to Notta. I thought something was wrong with me. All I could think about was how hot my $!#&@ felt, how hard it throbbed, and how much I wanted dirty things to happen, and why am I just now, in my late 30's, having all of these kinky thoughts in my head, and the more of them I had, the kinkier they were. Something needed to happen, so I figured there were two options. #1- Full s*** Mode, better later than never, #2- Give this Materbation Business One More Shot.
I have to say, it was a little questionable in the very beginning, but I felt some potential- so I kept trying until 'Woah' where have you been all my life!? At first it was just me, my hands, and some very inappropriate thoughts. That was definitely not the worst thing in the world, but after years of hearing about bedside buddy's - I decided to give a gadget a try. What the What. Yes Please.
In Conclusion, I think the whole program is about Experience, Experimenting, Open Mindedness, Feeling Comfortable in your own skin, and/or with your partner (yeah, I said partner:), and plain old time.
It took over 20 years before my sexual prowess had fully arrived. I hope things continue to give me the kind of pleasure they do now, for years to come. No pun:) And I'm pretty sure there aren't any limits in my mind as far as where or when the Level of Intensity will "Peak."
Don't get me wrong, I'm not contemplating becoming a swinger or moving to a Sex Ranch. I'm in a Long Term, Committed Relationship (probably for life), but things have certainly evolved in wonderful ways.
It's never too late for college, or orgasms :) Good Luck! :)

Hey there, it looks like your comment is fairly recent. If not, well I'm sure you've experienced a Newly Heightned Sense of Sexual Understanding by now. If it is -in fact, recent, don't give up:) I used to (always) say the same thing, ( a long, long time ago:). I figured, "Oh well, it still 'feels good, ' - no big deal...
-besides, what can you do about it if you've 'tried' to no avail -?"
I too, was content with a life -less orgasms. Or so I thought. Then it happened...The Elite Orgasm belonging to an Exclusive, Members Only Club; one I thought I'd never join- but not by choice. I was 24 years old when 'it happened,' and it had been 6 years since I first became sexually active.
I think it's important that you don't put too much pressure on yourself to achieve the Big 'O.' It'll just distract you & make it that much more difficult to obtain. It's Largly Psychological in the first place. The last thing you wanna do is overthink & subsequently sabotage your chances of a Big Win.
Chemistry is another Key Element. It Plays a Huge Role in Relationships in General, and especially in terms of Physical & Sexual Attraction. You can't hope it will, wait for it to, or make Chemistry happen. It's there, or it isn't; and you'll know.
Save yourself from some MISERABLE after effects like: A Sore, Burning, Swollen, & Sometimes Worse- Vag. Don't try so hard that you let your significant other 'Beat it up like it owes him money.' Been there!
Maybe keeping an "I don't mind" attitude toward not having orgasms could actually help- but you have to mean it. Being Relaxed, Comfortable, and Completely Free from Distractions is Vital in "Getting There" -especially when & while you're new to that level of sexual intensity. After you've made it to the all consuming finish line & you're more familiar with what works, and doesn't, to the point that it becomes second nature - you won't need to plan out such an involved environment with absolute silence and pre sex meditation in preparaion for those 30 seconds of total bliss. Once you're my age you'll be able to snag your significant other on the fly & tell him: "Buckle up, this won't take long but it could get rough." :) Anywhere, Anytime- even your kids won't be able to stop you 'cause the once difficult to obtain without all the right circumstances and ample time -won't be a factor. You won't need Romance or Absolute Perfection. Romance - Schmomance. All you'll need is 3 minutes, at least a small amount of privacy (preferably in a room, with your partner, or alone) or an impromtu trip to the garage before anyone notices you're gone. You'll be able to switch the laundry, have a mind blowing orgasm and be back in the kitchen making dinner without anyone knowing you're recovering from that Challenge turned Effortless- Blissfull 'Yes Moment.' Good Luck:)!
I wrote another reply a few comments down. It's sort of a continuation of what I've said here. Maybe seeing what I wrote will help you relate, and ultimately find clarity. :)

The clitoris can be extremely sensitive and can at times generate those sensations you are describing. I think what you need to do is to make her fully aroused and really turned on before touching her clitoris. I am sure the softness of your tongue could help. Many times guys rub too hard and if the girls clitoris is in that extremely sensitive stage of arousal she may feel negatively to you touching her clitoris. Talking from personal experience, I think this is a passing phenomenon and I think you need to get her fully aroused and almost reaching an orgasm before you start working on her clitoris. This has happened to me a few times and when I first started having sex, I preferred oral sex and penetration rather than clitoral stimulation.

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I'm in need of help too

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