My gf hates her clitoris being stimulated and I can't make her orgasm :( (18+)

Almost exactly the same situation with my ex girlfriend I dated for 3 years when I was in college. I was her first and She HATED any contact on her clitoris (I tried it all as gently as humanly possible) but it was very uncomfortable to painful. She enjoyed sex a lot and was amazing, but never could orgasm. I thought maybe it was about endurance so I went 2 hours once thinking maybe 30 min wasn't long enough. But no crossing the finish line. I wasn't sure if It was something physical or just to much pressure but I'm sure she was frustrated. I felt bad for her and did everything I could to be supportive but there is only so much you can do. Sadly, she just accepted it as never going to happen. Now that I am older I think it was more about the abuse (a psychological issue than physical). An adult made her and her male sibling abuse each other around 8-10 years old. To make it worse her parents blamed her and sent her to "confess" at church and then told her she could never talk about it again. Sorry I don't have a solution for you. Just do everything you can to help her enjoy herself and not feel weird about telling you what she wants and enjoys. The stats are like 1 in 3 girls are abused (SHOCKING there are that many sickos out there) so that may play into it also though if that's the case she will tell you when she is ready.

hey i have the same problem! but a position that i often orgasm with is me on top but not facing him, i move however i want and him for little moments moves too but very fast.

My thinking is try using a desensitizing lube to relax that wound up clit. Then pleasure everywhere else. If that helps,
Use it for a while and while it’s desensitized stimulate it, so that the discomfort can be retrained In her mind as a pleasure like it normally would be.
If it didn’t help my other idea is restrain her. With permission of course. But full bondage. And make her pee. During the process you have to be very well Intune to your partners needs. But I believe from what was described, she needs a release of control to release that orgasm.

My girlfriend finds that it tickles, so she loses her sexual thrill. And squirms and wiggles. It’s like a shock to her nerve system that overwhelms her and makes her feel the need to pee, I held her down forcibly and kept going feeling the convulsions in her body. When she did finally break passed that point, she told me after she never had an orgasm before like that in her life. And she immediately fell asleep. When normally she goes about her evening routine after. I had done it for sure. And I think the part that helped her was that she had no control. And so she finally “ let it go” when I talked with her about it. She was happy about it, but still finds her overly sensitive clit to be very ticklish I’m not hung like a horse and I’m not mega skilled sexually either. But I listened to her body language cuz her words were not clear. And that’s what I got.
Good luck

I hate my clit being touched as well. It sucks because my bf says he loves sucking licking etc p***y and I hate it. I have to stop typing those words though and try to brainwash myself into at least being neutral about it... Anyway, I don't see why he cares so much about me not orgasming... guys act like it's some achievement of manhood but honestly I don't even want to orgasm. It just seems so weird. I just want him to focus on his pleasure and leave my poor clit alone.

Your clitoris can be extremely sensitive and uncomfortable BUT as you get more aroused it gets better and enjoyable. Just tell him to massage your clit very gently, but kissing, hugging, cuddling, nipple stimulation could be the way you can start off and when you get really aroused guide him to stimulate your clitoris.
It is great that your bf is so caring and wants you to enjoy the sexual arousal. Not many guys do that and guys can be very selfish without being aware of how they only satisfy their own needs without any concern for the girl.

I'm a woman and when I lost my virginity I had the same problem as your gf. I couldn't orgasm and I rarely felt pleasure. I've also had a lot of female friends tell me the same thing happened to them when they lost their virginity. It honestly just takes time for a woman to learn about her vagina. My advice would be to let her learn about her vagina. There's a lot of articles online that can help a women learn about her vagina. Also let her experiment by herself aka masturbate..... Also when she does start to feel pleasure during intercourse don't change what your doing. Keep the same rhythm and movement. Also remember that it takes a lot of time.