I am about to get married to the man of my dreams but we have been having a lot of issues when it comes to sex.
I am not really interested in sex and it has been bothering him and me a lot. We have been together over 3 years and it has been an issue the whole time. I am also afraid to touch him in a sexual way. We have talked it over but nothing has really changed. I do not know how to solve this issue before we get married.
Is there anyway to help boost my sex drive? Could I talk to a doctor about this?
I am worried that once him and I get married this will not change and it may cause bigger issues with our marriage. I want to satisfy him but can't seem to get myself to. :'(
I am not really interested in sex and it has been bothering him and me a lot. We have been together over 3 years and it has been an issue the whole time. I am also afraid to touch him in a sexual way. We have talked it over but nothing has really changed. I do not know how to solve this issue before we get married.
Is there anyway to help boost my sex drive? Could I talk to a doctor about this?
I am worried that once him and I get married this will not change and it may cause bigger issues with our marriage. I want to satisfy him but can't seem to get myself to. :'(
Hi:
Here are some things to explore: Is there an event in your past that would affect your view of sex? Do you take any medication, etc. that may be affecting your sex drive? Do you find your fiance sexually attractive (honestly). Here's a real potential problem....Sex is important to men. I believe this problem will drive a wedge between you. I am going to be bold here and say that perhaps you should reconsider marriage until this problem is solved. It's big, and perhaps because sex is not important to you, it may not seem like a big issue. I'm sure that you wan to please your future husband, but realistically, it won't happen if he is not satisfied that you enjoy being intimate with him. Please consider this before you make such an important step in your life and his.
Here are some things to explore: Is there an event in your past that would affect your view of sex? Do you take any medication, etc. that may be affecting your sex drive? Do you find your fiance sexually attractive (honestly). Here's a real potential problem....Sex is important to men. I believe this problem will drive a wedge between you. I am going to be bold here and say that perhaps you should reconsider marriage until this problem is solved. It's big, and perhaps because sex is not important to you, it may not seem like a big issue. I'm sure that you wan to please your future husband, but realistically, it won't happen if he is not satisfied that you enjoy being intimate with him. Please consider this before you make such an important step in your life and his.
I was the same way...
Turns out, I am a lesbian, and would much rather satisfy a woman than a man.
Turns out, I am a lesbian, and would much rather satisfy a woman than a man.
jgb129 how are you doing? Did you think about the suggestions? Are you still going to go thru with the marriage? If so, what is your plan for satisfying your prospective husband's needs? Is he ok with all of this now? I hope that you have been completely open and honest with him. I hope that you will encourage him to consider whether or not he could live with the situation. That would be the most unselfish and loving thing for you to do. I'd really like to know what's happening now. I wish you the very best. Please update me.
a lot of prescription drugs are related to a lack of sexual desire and sensation, especially anntidepressants. as dsdesk implied before, this could be psychological, depending on your personal history. yes this is most definitely something you can and perhaps should talk to a doctor about. my guess is that it could be hormonal and a doctor should be able to help you treat any chemical imbalances or refer you to another doctor for appropriate treatment.
i also echo the idea that perhaps you should reconsider marriage. this problem could cause a severe rift between you and your partner and it would be risky to get married without solving it. a sad fact is that sometimes as much as we love people we are just sometimes too incompatible
i also echo the idea that perhaps you should reconsider marriage. this problem could cause a severe rift between you and your partner and it would be risky to get married without solving it. a sad fact is that sometimes as much as we love people we are just sometimes too incompatible
you better get help quick because if you don't, that marriage is not goint o survive. I suggest you see a sex therapist.