I have been married to my wife for 15 years. We have two daughters 11 and 8. After our 8 year old was born, my wife
pushed me away sex wise with no explanation. One year later she had major back surgery but still gets around great these days. She eats percocet and valium and has high blood pressure. Shes been on disability for 7 years but living with her makes me think shes milking the system. Me on the other hand have become very angry with the lack of attention and the house unorganized and messy, as well as the effect all of this is having on my daughters. My wife plays computer games all night and talks to some guy in NC. Last month our phone bill was over 1500 min. to his phone alone.
Lately, I get no attention whatsoever exept when she needs something. No cooking, No cleaning, ignores the kids. What am I to do??????? If I leave her, what will become of my girls?
Hi Jeff,
What will become of the girls if they continue to see what is happening now?
Can you get your wife into counseling? Would she consider Narcotics Anonymous? It may help. It does sound as if she may be addicted to the Percocet and Valium. Can you talk to her doctor about your concerns?
These drugs are very easy to get addicted to. We see it all the time in the ER and ambulance. Few doctors consider what can happen and just find it easier to write the prescription than to listen to someone complain about pain.
What do you want to do?
Thanks for replying Dan, counseling cannot be afforded at this time and if I talk to our doctor about this, I'm afraid she will go nuts on me. She is an addict, she got herself off of oxycontin 5 yrs ago but the MDs put her on percocet, better I guess but how do I prove to her that she is just using then as a crutch? As far as the girls go, if she does not change, I'll have to divorce and fight for custody. Any ideas? Jeff
I still think it is worth a visit to her doctor. He could make this a lot easier on you if he cuts back the prescription.
As you are not sure what is going to happen, I urge you to document everything. If you call or visit her doctor, document it. Document how often her pills are refilled, how many she takes on a daily basis, everything. It will likely come in handy if you do end up in a custody fight.
I'm sorry Jeff. I think you are caught in something with no easy out. You love your wife enough to help her but realize she likely won't accept help. You love your children and want the best for them, two parents, but can't see it continuing as it is now. It's not a good situation but I think you need to take care of your children first.
Keep us posted. We're here if you need us. Good luck.