Narcissist or bipolar? Can you tell me what does this man have?

Good morning

I know we cant diagnose people but I thought perhaps some if you will be able to tell me your opinions based on the things I've experienced with this man..I'm very very confident something is not quite right with him. He came across very charming and positive when I met him. He was working for a neighbour in their garden for a few weeks and he showed a genuine interest in me it seemed. He told my neighbour he thought I was nice. That spurred me on to send him a friend request. 

He was 15 years older. He told me quite soon that he was just weeks before in hospital for a suicide attempt and he gave up drink that day and was now 3 months sober. 

He told me about his last relationship ending 2 years before. He described the 9 year relationship   as coming to a mutual end of friendship. But shortly more stuff came out and he appeared to have had a fling very closely after and he claims this woman caused alot of trouble for him in regards to the ex. 

Over the next couple of months we chatted loads nut he was talking alot about his depression. He had weeks when he was low and didn't seem as into me. Then the next week he was very sexual. He declared his love for me after 6 weeks which was abit mad looking back as we were only chatting. He began sending me gifts. But then 2 months in he exploded at me for the first time. He was often asleep at weekends through the day. He was on opiates back then for chronic back pain.. he'd work all week then sleep all weekend. He worried me at times when he was uncontactable. He complained of people pestering him and feeling like his phone never stopped. I didn't text him that day so he could sleep. When he was online that night I called him only to be greeted by rage. Rage that his phone had been going off all day. Rage that I was the only person who hadn't text. He started screaming I didn't understand him at all and yelling. I was shocked. I sat in bed thinking who's this person??

Somehow we ended up getting back involved and things were alright but his moods were still allover. He would make comments on how he'd prefer My hair. Or dig at my stay at home mum status. He would be allover me like a rash then the next week he was off. He'd always be having drama surrounding women. He'd claim women were inappropriate or took him.wrong. it was always constant drama. He had cut off all his family apart from 2 cousins. His adult kids had reunited with him and one had already cut him back off due to him borrowing her money and not paying back. Overtime more came out about his last relationship. It was getting more and more obvious he was lying. He had photos of her up. But he couldn't move on. Going over and over the relationship and venting at me about the issues. Her behavior due to her going off with her friends all the time. He took her for granted. She didn't understand his depression. Arguments over money. Arguments over other women. He accused her of being too involved with certain men via text. The whole relationship sounded jealous. 

After 4 months we had our first major blip. He was looking at women online and I stumbled across him liking another woman's content. He blew off and for 2 weeks he was gone. He came back 2 weeks later asking me if I ever think of him. I was confused and contacted the woman he had q fling with after his ex.  She told me she left her husband to start a new life with him and all along he was playing games. Tormenting her with his ex. Saying his ex was trying to seduce him and he still fancied her. She said after 4 months he blocked her after his ex was contacting her asking her what the hell was going on. I was shocked but put it down to him drinking back then. 

He went back off for 6 weeks as he couldn't handle me questioning him. When he came back it was strange. It was very much up and down. Saying he knew he was meant to meet me. Then he'd be distant and cold. Nothing was adding up. After 3 weeks I said look what is this? I didn't understand and i had noticed a new woman allover his stuff too. He refused to talk to me about feelings and said he couldn't force them. But he also said that he still felt the same. I couldn't handle it anymore. I asked the woman and she said they met online on tinder and had met a few times and it didn't work out. She said they were just friends now. It went on during the six weeks. My world came crashing down. 

For 7 weeks we didn't speak. Then he crawled back. This time though he sold it well. He was coming on strong. Expressed the regret he had felt. He had got too scared getting feelings for me. He was getting too close and didn't like it. He had spent the last 7 weeks thinking and realised he needed to go for it and stopped being scared. He asked me out. Told me he never stopped thinking of me and he promised himself he would give me 110%. 

So we began. But the moods were allover. 8 months of highs and lows. Ups and downs. Anger outbursts. Needing money. He had loads of problems. Just lost his job. Getting thrown out his house. Needed support. Struggling financially. Couldn't afford food. I stepped up. Paid for everything and tried my best to support him. During this time sex seemed to stop around6 weeks in..along with snogging and holding hands. It felt like we laid in bed like old people. He fell asleep early due to amitriptyline tablets. I felt unloved and alone. He turned on me often. Sometimes blocking me. He punished me with silence. He wouldn't tell me not to question him. Not to send messages about us. Then I was banned from phone calls and then even face to face got me in trouble. 

The goal post kept changing. He would  compliment me often but insult me often. He would talk about the future and sometimes it didnt seem he even had me in mind. Nothing was consistent. He smoked weed. He never had money. But always borrowed mine. Christmas, valentines and my birthday came around and I never got anything for any of the 3 occasions. Not even a card. It broke my heart. I knew how much he spoilt the ex. 

The last 4 months of our relationship on 6 occasions I was harshly kicked out. He began calling me the dreaded C word and being vile with his language. In those moments I was in shock. I'd just paid for his shopping for example. But each time I tried to fix in. He was often bullying me about my phone. He would accuse me of being on it too much when I used it less than an hour a day and when with him it remained on the side as I was so into him. He'd get so angry about phones. He'd express the hatred he was feeling for his and paced the room.  I could never understand it. 

During the last month we didn't argue. It felt more comfortable. But I knew something wasn't right. His phone use had changed. He was on his all the time. Suddenly he'd be say with it on the floor. Or taking it to scroll through with every fag. Unplugging it in the night and taking it to the bathroom. He'd say he'd call me in 2 minutes then half hour would pass and nothing yet he was online. It didn't make sense. I was feeling hurt and sad. I was spending alot of time with him yet I could feel that his mind was Elsewear. 

I nervously picked up his phone when he went out to the shop. My hand was shaking. I Knew his pin and unlocked his phone. My heart racing. I checked his fb messages. It was too clean. He had deleted absolutely everyone apart from me and his cousin. Then I went onto his wattsapp and discovered emotional messages to his ex about a song from their relationship. My heart pounded. I got my stuff and left. But 3 days later I went down on my birthday only to not have any conversation about what had happened. A few more days past and I asked him about his feelings. He threw me out at 4am. Called me vile names. I walked home In tears realising it had to stop. A few days after we were going to meet but he told me I'd made him feel so awkward and he was always waiting for me to blow off. I told him it was over. He said magic and blocked me on all platforms. I have his passport and various other stuff. People have asked him how he'd like to get it back and he just says I don't wanna know. 

I'm stuck and trapped going over it all. Anger. Lies. Women. Money problems. Mood swings. Obsession over an ex. No family or friends left. Addiction problems. Intimacy problems. Abandonment fears and commitment phobic. 

What could this be.