Male stimulation are physical. Female stimulation are more emotional. We have to take an action AND have mental/emotional stimulation. We can play around all day long but if we aren't thinking about what we are doing step by step, we aren't going to get to our end result. I strongly recommend allowing someone to learn your body. Someone you trust to not only build a relationship with, but that the two of you can feel open enough with each other to teach and give positive criticism in the ways of love making. When you bring down the walls and stand naked in front of someone, and they do they same, without feeling ashamed, setting off on a new exploration... it's WONDERFUL! Don't be afraid :O) There maybe times that you don't reach climax, but he may not either. When you don't, let him know so he can will know what doesn't work for you or if it did where he can concentrateon next time :O)
But for now... For a clitorial stimulation: massage in a circular motion, rotating clock-wise to counter clock-wise. After doing that for a few minutes, try probing the tips of your third and fourth fingers in your vagina massaging your ovulation back up to your clitoris for lube while continuing the massage a circular motion. Massage to the very top (towards the stomach) of the clitoris. Repeat to the vagina.
Having legs spread wide open tends to tighten then clitoral skin making the area more sensitive and makes the area more "wet". Tightening the skin above the labias (poutch, fupa, etc), tightens the clitoris as well.
I hope this helps :O)