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Okay, so, I realize this topic was posted several years ago, but I've been reading all of these comments, and I just can't help myself. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 23, we've been dating AND having sex for 6 years! Which means I was 15 and he was 17 when we first had sex. Big surprise to lots of you, we don't have children and we don't have any sort of stds. It's called being educated and knowing how to use a condom and birth control. We both know that we love eachother, we want to get married, and we want to have kids. But in the right order for us. I know plenty of people who had kids at a young age and I knew I didn't want that for myself. Some people are happy with that life, so let them be. I grew up in a home with two parents who met at a young age, had a baby at 17, four by the time they were 32, and struggled until two of my siblings and I moved out. I never wanted to live like that. So although no birth control is 100% effective, there's a reason why they're still around. USE YOUR RESOURCES! Think about what you're doing before you do it... It was very brave of all of you to post your stories on here for the world to judge, and more importantly to decide what was right for you. Whether it be keeping the baby, aborting, letting an unfortunate couple adopt, saying no to sex, or saying yes and using protection. So sorry people had to bash you for your decisions... no one knows how you feel except for you, so just don't pay attention to the negatives and focus on what you want for yourself in life. As for the original post, anything I might have to give for advise will no longer be of any use to you as this was posted in 2009. =P
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I am 18 and I started having sex when I was 14 and if I had someone like you back then tell me this, I would of most likely waited just as long as you did to have sex.
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But at the same time, maturity and experience makes a huge difference in the long and short term effects of a relationship
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Hey here's a great idea, how about you not have sex, I mean you're only 16 and what if you are pregnant? then you will just ruin your life.. You have high school, friends, partying that you won't be able to do because you'll be too busy taking care of a baby; I mean you're just a kid.. Girls need to be smarter, and the boys for that matter
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I also started having sex with my boyfriend when I was 15 and he was 17, I am 16 now, and I think I made the right choice because before we had sex with each other we were both virgins and I'm in love with him. We always use protection no matter what, I don't want to be a teen mom.
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I am having tender breast, they are darker, and i am felling sick all the time, my mother is the one who asked me if i was prego, and made me think about it, i am over a week late on my period, and i spotted alittle earlier this month. I took online prego quizzes and it said i could possible be. Plz tell me waht you think
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In a way, you are right, because teenagers are not fit to raise a child, then again, so many teenagers have sex and some are responsible and would live with the outcome of having sex. Others that would abort or give it for adoption shouldn't be having sex if they can't handle what might come out of the act.
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well it didnt matter about condu, it can make you perganat during condum is broken. if ur period late it can be neither too much stress or perganat. just wait see if you still missing period for three to four weeks then make appt. go to doctor for test pee and blood work to see if you are perganat or not. it happened to me the story that i will tell u about mine. when i was 19 years old we had sex with condum couple times then after a month i felt sick gags and eats more and tired as so easy. i use store pee tests as five times and it saids negtives as always. i was stills had brests sore. then next month i missed period for long time. i told my husband to made call to make appts with doctor. they took my blod and pee to test and they come in the room told us that i was perganat for 9 weeks old. we was sooo shocks and then i calls the wic from health departments. they help me to learn how to take care of our very first baby. but for ur age whew i hope you and your boyfriend help each other when it born. when it first born you have to feed it every two hours and no good sleep at all for two to three months. it happened to us it was very hard for our first time. for your age and school will be rough time for go to school and take care of your frist baby as if you are really perganat but i hope you are not. if you are then just be strong to make it. good luck. i am 22 years old and my name is katy.  i hope it helps. smiles 
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I agree with ICEQ... I was 16 when I lost my virginity to my high school sweetheart. I knew the risks but was as careful as I could have been. I'm 28 now and looking back... I would have waited!!!! 16,15...younger...doesnt matter--its way too young!!!
Your a kid so be a freakin kid!
What happens if you get pregnant?? Your arent ready for it, trust me.

Kids should not be having kids...
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Hi,
If ur bf put it in for a few seconds the chances of u being pregent is super low. Precum only has sperm in after the guy cums. Just so u no
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Your with child
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we arent trying to belittle you but you do need to be aware of the facts... no you arent undiginified but as 15/16 y/o its a really "confusing" time.. i got pregnant at 16 and had a miscarriage... it has destroyed me sence.. everyone just wants you to be careful...

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Sharon02 wrote:

I was making out with this guy Mike. I was 16 years old and he was 15 years old. I was wearing a shorter skirt. He kept trying to get in up my skirt, some guys can be forceful and that is how I was feeling at the time. I kept telling him, 'no, I didn't want to do this, I don't want to get pregnant'. He stuck it in me only half way once and I was freaking out feeling as though I had no control of what I was doing or saying. I got him off me finally and told him and his 2 friends to leave and also a friend of mine to leave. Then 3 weeks later I had my appendix out. But just before the doctor's asked when is the last period I had, I told them I was supposed to start a week ago. They asked me, 'do you think you could be pregnant?' I thought about Mike sticking it in me half way once. Then I told the doctor's, 'absolutely not'.

I still wasn't getting my period and we are talking 4 months after being with Mike. I just turned 17 years old. My thought was because the doctor's must have done something inside of me when I had my appendix out. Then one morning I started to get sick. I went to a health clinic, did a pregnancy test. The next day, the person at the clinci told me that the test read positive. I was so naive, I said, 'what does that mean?' They told me I was pregnant. They asked me to come in the following day. So I went in to see them, feeling all messed up inside, as I barely knew what sex was. They told me that because of being so young, having my appendix out and some partying that I did, the baby would probably not be normal and I should have an abortion. I listened to what they told me, I had the abortion. This was almost 22 years ago in 1986. I am 38 years old now. There is hardly a day that goes by that I don't think of that unborn baby. It never had a chance, I took that away from him or her. I had an abortion when the unborn baby would have been about 4.5 months pregnant. I feel like I gave the order to murder inside of me. I go through an amazing amount of guilt, poor little one who I never even gave a chance to. The reason why is because I was a kid, I had no idea about life, I didn't even have the right sense to know I was pregnant. How could I have gotten pregnant from Mike sticking it in only half way once, unprotected. Why did I listen to those people at the health clinic, it was my only direction at the time, because my parents had no idea. If I could turn back time, I would never have gotten in the situation of even making out with Mike. Something else I wish someone would have told me was, I could have gone somewhere and given life to that baby and given it up for adoption.

I have 2 boys now, 3 years old and 18 months old. How could I have ever had an abortion. That baby today would have been 21 years old. I will regret that choice until the day I die.

So if you think you can let a guy stick it in you for even a feel of a second, think again, you can get pregnant. If you are a teenager and think this is cool to be a young Mom, you are not doing yourself or your baby any favours, take precautions. I will tell you, you probably will end up on welfare and the boyfriend and you will probably end things at an early age. But if you do get pregnant at a very young age, tell someone you trust, I didn't. Have that baby and put it up for adoption, there are so many husbands and wives who can not have babies and would show that baby a real good life.


what a powerful story (for lack of a better word). Kudos to you for sharing this.


I feel for you, Sharon and the difficult decision you made. If you told him "no" and he carried on forcefully, that is against the law!
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What you said about the fetus is c**p... obviously newly born is meant literally for the situation of being newly born... but do not try to tell anyone that a fetus is not a baby. Try telling that to the mother who aborted a "fetus" and heard the screams of a crying baby. Do NOT tell me that the cells forming are not a baby because they don't have ears and toes yet. Those cells will only ever develop and form features. A seed of a maple tree is without a doubt a maple seed, and that seed will only ever become a maple tree. It is the same thing with the "fetus" aka a BABY! ha it doesn't matter how deformed the body is when it is newly born... it is a baby and the fetus that God might bless you with is exactly that. A BABY!!!!!!! A NEW BORN!!!!!!

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im actually going through the same thing, but my boyfriend calls himself the "pull-out master" and there were a couple times where he almost slipped up, and i think the last time which was yesterday. and the time before that was about 2 weeks ago and some days...
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