Painful sex for girl and no pleasure.

Is she relaxed and are you using a lubricant? Where is the pain? If it is deep in her pelvis it could indicate a problem

yep shes relaxed but we are not using a lubricant unless the lubricant on the condom counts. she doesn't think the pain is in the pelvic area, but feels that it is closer to the opening of the vagina. is there a wrong way the penis can point? because she feels that it is pointing too much downwards.
thanks for replying so soon.

Hmmm. I'd say that you should try going more up. The vagina is shaped kind of like an up-side-down rainbow (strange description, I know.) and if it's not going more upward, you're not reaching any of the g-spots and are just applying force to the wall of her vagina.

i use to have that problem, as far as i can tell from your description. try going slower, perhaps, if she likes that, and perhaps do more foreplay. does it hurt alot at first penetration? if so, she's not wet enough and you need to have some more fun with foreplay. just make sure you're not doing the foreplay with the sore intention of getting her wet enough for sex, because, at least for me, that killed it right there. it personally made me feel like a blow up doll rather than a girlfriend, and i had no chance of getting wet enough. also, you might be a bit to thick for her, and the pain she feels might be caused by over streching herself. if you think this is the case, go slower and try penetrating only an inch or so until there's no pain with that. then go a little further until there's no pain at that depth, and so on. you might also be too long for her, but i would think that would cause a pain deeper in her viginia rather than on the outside. for that problem, you might try different positions, they have amazing effects on penetration depth and such. changing position si also great to find the "direction" that feels good for her. for example, missionary might pull your penis more towards her g-spot while missionary with her knnespulled up to her chest would angle your penis more towards her back vaginal wall. try doggie style or spooning for decreased depth. also, if she's on top she might be better able to do what feels good for her. it would be easier for her to figure this out by trying it rather than trying to tell you without hurting your feelings or ruining the moment, then after she figures it out, she can tell you, and you can move onto other positions. i'm going to stop writing now, but i would sugest you check out the guide to getting it on for sexual problems and position of the day for different positions. check out the sexual health section of your local book store. the guide is spectacular on all counts, and the position a day book has 365 positions, and you're sure to find one whcih accomidates you two. good luck!

hey
i have gone thru the same with my gf.this all becase of viginismus. she is now alright .

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Hm...i dnt think she has vaginismus...she may. but that doesnt make sense cuz she doesnt really feel much during sex...and its nt hard to penetrate plus wen i insert my finger it doesnt hurt but wen i insert my penis it only hurts abit.by the way. thanku for all ur help i really appreciate it. its greatly helpd us. il try the goin slow thing and we'll address the vaginismus and see if she really has it.

i Have had the same problem with my girlfriend we bin together for over a year now n she has never felt pleasure not even on her own is this normal i mean is there something wrong or is she just not ready
she gets upset about it n i dont like it i dont no wat to do does she need a check up
by the way shes 16

This actually happened to me. I went to the doctor about it and they told me I had vaginal strep.. like the strep throat virus that either never left the body or just came out down there instead. But anyways, the doctor prescribed medication and it went away within a week or two and it hasn't been a problem since.