I raised my son a nudist from a young age.He was more naked than clothed.In his teen years like all boys,even in his pre teens sometimes got aroused,especially watching the divas wrestle.He always lay in front of the tv nude of course, and had erections most of the times watching them wrestle.Occasionally he would fondle himself and masturbate with me present.I did not bother with it,and never fussed about it.I later suggested that if he needed to relieve himself, to go to the bathroom or his room, close the door,and masturbate until he was done.We had an open door policy.No closed doors at any time except in private time(masturbation).He used this policy often.When the door was closed I knew not to disturb him.His arousal was obviousely visible because he was always nude,and remained so after his private time.But he occasionally still masturbated in the lounge while watching tv.I was not bothered...neither was he.Just a curious question...does that make me a bad parent?I was not aroused by it,neither fussed about it.We had an open view on sexuality...and we both also slept naked and saw each other in the mornings with erections and all.So this was no strange thing for us.
Hey Bernard, Im a woman, relatively far removed from your situation, but always promoted my daughters being naked as often as possible at a young age, and let them decide when and where they wanted to be clothed pretty much as hey, you just can't do it from a certain point. I don't see anything wrong with what you did/do personally. Boys are different from girls, and get aroused probably earlier and of course more obviously! Probably in my personal opinion, all I would say is that sexual arousal is not something one usually shares with their family ... whether they are involved, or aroused by it or not, so perhaps actually masturbating is something that should be private from said family ... in my opinion ...?
1-When friends come around...consider putting on a short.His response simply was(aged about 11-12)"Dad...I don't want to wear clothes...and if they don't like it,they are not worthy of our friendship.I and you ...we are nudists, and nudists are supposed to be naked!"Well, that settled that...
2-I suggested that he should also consider being less open when it came to masturbation, and suggested the closed door idea.His second response were..."Daddy...I am a boy...I have a penis...It gets hard and stiff...deal with it.If I don't mind people seeing me...why are you worried.I am in charge of my willy...others can look...but may not touch!"Well that settled that as well...but he would thereafter excuse himself when he got aroused,and always being naked, one could easy see it,then he would excuse himself...go to the room, close the door, and when done come out again ...But occasionally I would walk into the lounge and find him busy, and never fussed about it.
I am not saying any of this to make you feel bad truly I am not. Children do mot come with manuals, and either do our minds.
Your son is learning nudity is fine. Yes it is fine, between married couples. Even in the Bible it says we should not see our family members naked.
Except from learnthebible.org for lack of a better way to put it.
Genesis 9:22-24
"And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brethren without. And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's nakedness. And Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done unto him.
The family of Ham received a curse because he went in, looked on his father's nakedness, and went and told about it to his brothers. Notice how carefully the other two sons (Shem and Japheth) are to cover their father without looking on him. There are other places where this is taught in scripture, but this passage should settle the issue. We are not to look on the nakedness of family members."
I don't know if you believe in the Bible, or anything it stands for. But I tell you now, the curse your son will receive is mental instability and the curse you recieve is the anguish of your son masturbating in front of you and the unrest that goes along with it.
1)I was gratified by it
2)I was not gratified
3)and my son was not bothered.
You are contradicting yiourself here.But that's besides the point.Ham SAW THE NAKEDNESS OF HIS FATHER...note the order...and in general, the term SAW means sexual relationships.
My autistic bro does that all the time of course to him he does not know. It just feels good.
I do applauded you for being so open with your Son . There should be no shaming of the human body amd all it bodily functions That goes for masturbation too, it is a natural sexual process that will last him through out his life It is good that you let him masturbate freely. Now you said you had an open door policy, I would have kept that policy and jst explained to him that it would be better that he masturbate in his bedroom or bathroom and no mention of the door. Let him decide if he needed to do that..You are sort of conveying to him that there is something wrong with masturbating that for some reason it should be hidden.
No I don't think that you are bad parents, quite the opposite. For a young boy to feel free to be naked in his home most or all of the time is a good positive thing. You are teaching them to not be ashamed of his body and it is also good that he see his parents naked as well. As far as his masturbating he probably should do it in private but I think it is in some ways good if and only if he is with his father and the both of you are naked and he gets interaction I think it's okay that he masturbate, both of you being of the same sex. I'm not a nudist but I personally have always taken every chance I got to be naked. In my home I also allow my two boys since they were talkers that they could be naked if they wanted to and of course they wanted to. Little boys love to be naked and then being able to see their father naked is also a very good thing it enforces a good body image and does not promote sharing. When my boys, when they were in early puberty, 111 years old and the other 12 and they both would sleep together naked. They get erections and come to me with all kinds of questions. Masturbation is a good thing for boys to so I was glad to be able to teach them just how to do it and at times like when we would go camping, and of course were naked, and they both would have erections I have no problem with them masturbating with me looking on. In fact more than once I also masturbate with them. It's all about teaching boys about sexual issues, about not being ashamed of their nakedness and just creating a good positive body image, naked or otherwise
More guys should give it a try, or consider doing this with their son(s). In a household with all males it should be allowed, and a non issue. Your sons will always remember your positive attitude - regarding nudity and jacking off. I'm sure this is more common, a lot of guys don't like talking about it. Doing this with your two sons had to be extra special. As their father, you're their ultimate role model. Thanks, for sharing your story. More fathers and sons need to do the same. Later, bro. Corey Haines in Ohio.