Last night, July 2nd, my girlfriend and I had gotten intimate in the back of my car. First she had oral sex with me and she swallowed, as always, when I came. After she pretty much got rid of whatever else she could through that, we were kinda just lying there and talk for close to an hour and cuddling. A little after the conversation, we got back into the mood again and had unprotected sex, since she had to leave soon and we figured a quickie wouldn't be a bad idea since we had kinda planned on having sex before the night is over. We usually use condoms, but we've had sex unprotected about two or three times prior to that night in a certain scenario where time was of the essence for us. Before I penetrated her, I gave myself what I call an "insurance wipe" and wiped the tip of my penis as well as squeezed it to see if anything would come out. After that we were having sex, and just like the other few times I had had unprotected sex, the moment I felt a slight sensation, not even right before I came, I pulled out, and wiped myself again just for extra assurance. Then I reinserted and kept going till I felt the sensation you feel right before ejaculating, and then I pulled out, but I didn't actually ejaculate and was kind of confused. I told her and she asked if we should keep going, I gave it a second, gave it one more wipe as thoroughly as I could, before reinserting one last time, and I went until I felt I was going to ejaculate again, then pulled out. Now the thing is, the other times I had had sex unprotected, it was a similar situation where I would pull out at the slightest sensation, wipe myself to reassure myself, and then reinsert and keep going and just pullout at the right time. Every time before, I've been just fine without incident, but for some reason even since last night, I was just thinking about the possibility that I messed up, and I've been telling her into today that I'm extremely nervous and I can't shake the feeling, even though she's promising me that everything is fine since everything was as normal as other times we've had sex. But I just can't shake the feeling and wanted to know if this time around, I have every right to be paranoid. She isn't due for her period for another two weeks and I'm just sitting here hoping that she gets it and I can just go on with my life. So does anyone have an idea of the possibility that she can end up being pregnant? Btw, we're both 19 and in college, and the idea of having a kid absolutely terrifies me, especially if I won't be able to care for him/her, and I'm also scared it could change the dynamic of my relationship with mt gf for the worst, and I really don't want to lose her. Neither of us believe in abortion, so if she ends up being pregnant, it's likely we will keep the child.
Hi 19,
There's a chance of pregnancy. How high depends upon where she is in her cycle.
You can't "squeeze" your penis clean. A portion of your penis is in your body so you can't clean it out. Any semen from your prior ejaculation would still be in your urethra.
That feeling you describe may be "precum" from the Cowper's gland. It could push any remaining sperm out and into her vagina just as inserting your penis might.
ALWAYS use protection. The odds, if everything was perfect, would be about 1 chance in 5 of pregnancy.
Good luck.
Thank you so much for your insight. My girlfriend has been saying since last night that everything was perfectly normal like the other 2-3 times we went unprotected, so she tells me I shouldn't be overly paranoid about it cause I may be psyching myself out. If we get through this baby free, it'll probably be a very long time until I go unprotected again. And if I do I'll be sure to urinate after each ejaculation at least. Also, her period isn't due until July 14th, so being this was 12 days before, what effect does that have on the probability of pregnancy for her?
12 days before means she's around day 16 of her cycle. She is very near peak fertility.
The chances would be high, near 1 in 5, if there was any sperm.