recurrent single episode bed wetting accompanied by dreams

Guess I should post here. Happened to me last night after not happening for almost over a year I think. I don't really remember all of the exact times it's happened, I'd say it's happened maybe about 10-12 times now since since I was 15? I'm not sure exactly. But it's definitely been a problem and it always happens when I begin going to the bathroom in a dream. Sometimes the dream is normal but then I'll end up wanting to go to the bathroom in the dream and then it happens. I'm 24 now. If I had any guess it tends to happen a lot in the winter time when it's cold. But I couldn't be exact. Also, what really sucks is that I can honestly say smoking weed will prevent this from happening. When smoking becomes a few times a week thing for me, it suppresses my ability to experience my dreams, therefore not allowing me to have a "urinating dream". I quit at the beginning of this year, and just last week I started to experience some really vivid dreams again. At first I thought, hey this is nice, I miss waking up and trying to remember all the crazy dreams I have. Until this morning when it reminded me that "f**k, now I'm going to have to worry about wetting the goddamn bed". It really sucks, as this makes the 5th time it's happened while with my current girlfriend. Thankfully she's been very understanding when it happens.

 

My only plan going forward is to remind myself every night that I'm going to have dreams so I have to remember going to the bathroom before bed. I was never very good about that but I also don't really drink many liquids late at night either.

 

::sigh::

 

This whole thing sucks.

I was a bedwetter as a child and I was always in trouble about it, my parents didn't handle it as a medical problem but behavioral so I was reprimanded and so ashamed that I wouldn't tell anyone and grab old clothes and towels and put it on the wet spot and go back to bed.  I think the neurological shame of it made it worst.  I eventually grew out of it by 13 or so. 

I started bedwetting again as an adult of 25 and had multiple accidents, sometimes 3 times a week, all while I'm dreaming that i'm going to the bathroom, sometimes I can wake myself up midstream, sometimes not. So i began researching, as a background: non smoker, no medicines, no health problem like diabetes. No caffeine or alcohol.  The only thing I can account for is that it happens when I'm close to my period and when I'm stressed out or anxious. 

The only thing I found helping is setting my alarm at different times at night to go.  I didn't want any drugs for this or any surgery or testing.  Hopes this help. 

For you younger people, it doesn't get better.  I am now 53 and every time I have the dream I am in fact wetting the bed.  Sometimes I can wake myself early on but the older I get the harder it is to wake up until bladder is almost empty.  One thing I have found that helps is the very LAST thing at night is to go to the bathroom and then have absolutely nothing to drink after that.  I have spoken to Doctors (who think you are nuts) and to a psychologist over the years.  I tried hypnosis but that didn't help.  I never did this as a child and didn't start until after age 30.  It was originally very infrequent, every year or so, and the older I get the worse it gets.  The dream started occurring a few times a month and was increasing.  I now religiously go to the bathroom and it is infrequent and if I do have the dream there is very little to come out.  That's better than waking up to a totally soaked bed at 3:30 in the morning.  I thought I was just crazy until I found this site and see that it is more common than I thought.  Too bad the Doctor's don't see this site and stop making us feel stupid for asking.

I have had this problem too -- once every year or so throughout my life. But I accidentally found something that seems to have helped me. I got interested in lucid dreaming, and one of the tricks you learn to train yourself to do it is to ask yourself regularly whether you are awake. I do it many times every day. Whenever something "strange" occurs, or just when you remember, you say to yourself "am I dreaming?"

 

There are a couple of ways to check... I usually try looking at something printed. If it is a dream, the text will move while I'm looking at it, or if I read and look away, when I look back the writing is totally different. You can also look at clocks (especially digital ones, they go crazy!), or run through your day backwards to see if you can easily remember why you are where you are. If it's a dream there may be blanks. My pee dreams always have obstacles between me and the toilet... there are people watching, or no toilet paper, or physical barriers between me and the pot. So that helps me notice that something might be strange.

 

Just last night I had what really should have been a pee dream, but I realized something was strange and managed to wake myself up. I tried to read and couldn't, and then I started trying to really feel gravity; since I was standing in the dream, once I started to concentrate on where I could feel "down" the whole thing started to feel very weird, and then I could finally pull myself out of sleep. It's not the first time that I've done this... haven't wet the bed in maybe 3 years? I was feeling so grateful this morning that I realized I should probably go see if anyone else had this problem so I could tell them about it.

 

(As a nice extra, if you realize you're dreaming during a normal dream, you can consciously explore or even control the dream. That's why I originally started trying to learn.)

37 almost 38 and still doing it every once in a blue moon but that doesn't bother me. Embarrassing to see the big stain on the mattress is a problem. Don't worry about it. Nobody is perfect.

 

same thing happend to me last nite. i just cant understand why. im 34 for gods sake not 4. lol

Wow... I'm 43 and has had this same problem since about age 16. It also happens to me about 6 times a year. I agree it is embarrassing, but at this point of my life I just share with people what happens. I keep water proof bed pads on my bed to protect my mattress and when I stay at people's houses I take a pad w/ me for their bed. I just say I don't wanna mess your bed up of I have an episode. At this point I just joke about it because obviously there is no cure.

I can_ relate! As a "tween", I wet my bed frequently!  Only problem, I was so docile and ridiculed by my peers at school, my older sister was ALWAYS perfect and smart, and why couldn't I be more like her.........I always___ dreamt that I was sitting on the pot, heard the pee and heard it hit the porcelin....and oh c**p, not again!!!  My mother took me to the family dr. and he informed  Mother, that I was "Just lazy". She told me that when we got back home....she never asked me, nor did I try to tell her about my dreams.   Now that I am reaching my near 60's, it is starting to happen to me again.....I honestly believe that it is a type of stress in my life.  Stress, and perhaps unresolved issues in ones life, or just new stressful situations , which I can assure you, that I have. I have been fine since I left the house, grew up, got assured of myself, now have brand new issues of my new husbands health problems, trying to get my art work off the ground, etc.   perhaps it is NOT_ all physical. all my love, fellow wetter.

I am a 39 yo male and I have had this problem off and on for as long as I can remember.literally!! Well,at least since I was a teenager.Yes,very embarrassing,not to mention I too have had this happen while visiting other peoples houses.thanks for sharing your story,good to know I'm not alone.

Married 31 year old Alpha male here, no known medical issues or past, wetted as a child as most of us do, and have been waking up 1-2 times a night to pee in the toilet since i was a teen. bed wetting didnt really happen to me as a teen at all but started having the "going to toilet" dream around the age of 25 or so. And now I wet the bed 1 or 2 times a year since then. like most once I beging to wet the bed I can wake up instantly and make it to the bathroom. I have also noticed it happens to me when I am super tired, like after working a 18hr shift or after a 10hr drive etc. Was looking for a cure, but after reading all of the posts up here it looking it not gonna happen.

 

 

 

I am 52 and this is only about the 2nd time this has happened, but the 2nd time in about two or three years. I was thinking menopause, but who knows

This was useful. I actually started setting an alarm in the middle of the night usual around the time I know the accidents happened and that seems to help too as well....

i have the EXACT same problem, im not sure what it could be & im always on the toilet in my dream when it occurs

This happened to me this morning. I had a dream that I had to go reeeeally bad, so I opened the opening spot on my boxers and started to go but every time it started to go the boxers would close and make me feel like peeing on myself. It happens to me quit often but I have managed to actually force myself to wake up before I start peeing in the dream most of the time. This has never happened around my girlfriend before and she isn't exactly being supportive of my embarrassment. I'm a 24 year old male just to clarify.

Just found this site and realise that I'm not the only one with these dreams.  In mine, the toilets are either communal and open, ie not in cubicles, or they're disgustingly dirty (unflushed, wet floors, or filled with rubbish).  In the dream I've often had to walk a distance to get there and have to go despite the horrible toilet.  Sometimes I wake up just as I'm starting to pee, other times I just wet the bed.   I had these dreams as a child and at intervals throughout my life.  I'm now in my mid-50s and have had more frequent episodes.  I'm seeing the doctor to make sure there's nothing wrong.  My wife was initially just annoyed with me but is now very supportive.  After wetting the bed 4 times in a week I've started wearing a diaper at night.   It's not the most attractive night wear but it's better than waking up wet and having to wash the sheets.