I have experienced the same problem described here by many others. It has happened to me perhaps once a year for the last 5 years. I can't relate it to any common causal factor. I did not wet the bed as a child. The few times I have done so as an adult it has been when I am dreaming that I am on the toilet! Perhaps I just haven't figured out how to use this site, but I see many people posting the same problem -- is there any place to see responses which could be helpful?
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I wanted to address you specifically because you mentioned the daytime accidents your wife was having. Do you have children? I'm a 39 yo mother of two and ever since giving birth, I've had to wear panty-liners because if I sneeze, cough, laugh, or do exercises such as jumping jacks, I leak urine -- this is VERY COMMON among women who've given childbirth. However, lately it's become worse and especially after having a bout of bronchitis a few weeks ago. Kiegal exercises have helped alleviate the problem somewhat and I've been able to do jumping jacks lately without leaking. But--sometimes my bladder feels full even after urinating and I feel the need to haul butt to the bathroom and sometimes I leak while trying to get there. :-(
Last night, for the first time since my teens, I wet the bed. Like many here, I had a dream that I was on the toilet urinating and woke up mid-stream and then finished on the toilet. I was devastated to say the least--mostly because I wet as a child and teen (no dreams though). Needless to say, I didn't go back to bed. My husband was up late watching television and of all the times he decided to come to bed it was after my episode. I was crying and he said, "What happened?" I said, "Nothing. Could you please go out a minute and give me a moment."
As soon as I put a new sheet on the bed, he came in again and asked, "Honey, what's wrong? Did you pee yourself?" Reluctantly I replied "Yes" and then told him about my dream and why I was a wreck. It was then that he smiled and informed me that the same thing happened to him a few years ago--the pee dream and catching it mid-stream--he was not a bed-wetter as a child.
None of that matters this morning because I'm still too paranoid to go back to bed. However, I'm thankful for this forum and other sites because now I know this has happened to others too--not that I'm glad it does though.
BTW, all of you spouses and partners on here deserve a huge round of KUDOS for being so understanding towards your loved one whether they've had an accident once in awhile or often! I do feel sorry for the guy whose wife is treating him like a baby though, how awful!
Last night, for the first time since my teens, I wet the bed. Like many here, I had a dream that I was on the toilet urinating and woke up mid-stream and then finished on the toilet. I was devastated to say the least--mostly because I wet as a child and teen (no dreams though). Needless to say, I didn't go back to bed. My husband was up late watching television and of all the times he decided to come to bed it was after my episode. I was crying and he said, "What happened?" I said, "Nothing. Could you please go out a minute and give me a moment."
As soon as I put a new sheet on the bed, he came in again and asked, "Honey, what's wrong? Did you pee yourself?" Reluctantly I replied "Yes" and then told him about my dream and why I was a wreck. It was then that he smiled and informed me that the same thing happened to him a few years ago--the pee dream and catching it mid-stream--he was not a bed-wetter as a child.
None of that matters this morning because I'm still too paranoid to go back to bed. However, I'm thankful for this forum and other sites because now I know this has happened to others too--not that I'm glad it does though.
BTW, all of you spouses and partners on here deserve a huge round of KUDOS for being so understanding towards your loved one whether they've had an accident once in awhile or often! I do feel sorry for the guy whose wife is treating him like a baby though, how awful!
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Aha! I knew I wasn't the only one with this dream. its so weird. I'd have that same dream too: I'm standing in the bathroom infront of the toilet peeing and then i realize its coming out all over me from someplace close to my navel and i try to make it stop and it gets everywhere and I wake up and I'm wet but the thing is just recently It happened and it hadn't in a couple years since i realized the connection with the dream. I told myself to "watch out" for that dream and then I woke up the other day wet after having a dream that I was peeing. Not and ordinary pee dream either. I was peeing in a toilet but for a very long time I mean in this dream I could tell that hours were going by.
If it's so common then why....I don't know. It doesn't happen to me when I'm sick - more than normal and it has rescinded for the past couple of years. I'm 20. I've decided to just meditate on watching out for any dream in which I'm peeing, setting my alarm clock and to stop drinking 2 hours or more before bed which is not really feasible(the last point) cause I'm an insomniac:<
The only good thing about my plan is that fluids go through me like a sponge. I mean if i drink a bottle of water now, I have to go to the bathroom in 20-40 minutes afterward. But really, it had stopped and now for no particular reason its back?? This just isn't good for anyone's psyche.
That's something I wanted to ask too. I(strangely enough) have an affinity for fluids. I'll just sit down and drink a whole lot of water and juice cause I like drinking and I'm not talking alcohol here. A second thing is that fluids go through me fast. My question is, is this a "me" thing or is this a common trait amongst "us"? If you're wondering, from what I've noticed my liking to drink and drinking loads has nothing to do with my enuresis cause when it happens I had usually not drunk anything before sleeping for a couple hours well.
Curious to hear your thoughts on this. ~.~
If it's so common then why....I don't know. It doesn't happen to me when I'm sick - more than normal and it has rescinded for the past couple of years. I'm 20. I've decided to just meditate on watching out for any dream in which I'm peeing, setting my alarm clock and to stop drinking 2 hours or more before bed which is not really feasible(the last point) cause I'm an insomniac:<
The only good thing about my plan is that fluids go through me like a sponge. I mean if i drink a bottle of water now, I have to go to the bathroom in 20-40 minutes afterward. But really, it had stopped and now for no particular reason its back?? This just isn't good for anyone's psyche.
That's something I wanted to ask too. I(strangely enough) have an affinity for fluids. I'll just sit down and drink a whole lot of water and juice cause I like drinking and I'm not talking alcohol here. A second thing is that fluids go through me fast. My question is, is this a "me" thing or is this a common trait amongst "us"? If you're wondering, from what I've noticed my liking to drink and drinking loads has nothing to do with my enuresis cause when it happens I had usually not drunk anything before sleeping for a couple hours well.
Curious to hear your thoughts on this. ~.~
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I have also had bedwetting dreams for all of my adult years. In my dream, I am always in the bathroom, on a toilet, and just let it go. I am 39, and can't remember more than a few months going by without this happening. My husband wants me to wear adult diapers to bed, because he hates waking up in a cold, wet bed. Since the wetting doesn't happen every night, I am reluctant to waste money on diapers, but as soon as we wake up wet again, my husband is furious at me and insists that I wear them. He's making me feel so bad about myself, I tell him I can't help it.
Should I just give in and wear them every night?
Should I just give in and wear them every night?
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Thanks for the response on my wife. No, we don't have kids yet, we may start trying in a year. We are at about the same point pretty regular bedwetting and some daytime accidents as well. She is now wearing diapers to bed which helps considerably in terms of our quality of sleep. I told her not to feel like a baby, she can't help it. It's amazing how much this flu has affected her control; we have gone to a doctor twice and everything is okay. The doctor said given her history as a child of day and night wetting that she wasn't surprised but that it should eventually get better. My wife told me that as a kid she tended to wet herself from waiting too long to get up and go, and that seems to be what is happening now. She seems to have a lot of her daytime accidents at night after dinner and on weekend mornings. So I have gotten her to "get ready for bed" after we eat dinner, which consists of her getting into a diaper and pajamas to watch TV for the night. Probably 4-5 nights a week she is okay, but 2-3 times a week I catch her squirming and she has an accident. On weekend mornings I try to get her to change early so that she won't think of changing out of her jammies until after 11 or noon. She has an accident almost every single Saturday and Sunday morning, so it's better is she is wearing a diaper at that point. She simply waits too long and I think it's because since she was about 15 she had such great control that she could go forever. And now that this flu wrecked her control, she just isn't adjusting to not being able to hold it forever. And she has accidents at other times. She was watching Dora the Explorer with our little nephew and soaked the carpet under her; our nephew explained how she "did the potty dance but didn't pause the DVD" as he had been taught. Then two hour later at Chucky Cheese she peed her pants playing some of the games.
These happened while she WASN'T wearing a diaper, and they happen quite a bit. I just don't know what else to do; she is very embarrassed every time so I don't want to embarrass her more. Any advice, please let me know.
These happened while she WASN'T wearing a diaper, and they happen quite a bit. I just don't know what else to do; she is very embarrassed every time so I don't want to embarrass her more. Any advice, please let me know.
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Hello, I like many of you, have experienced the dream along with wetting the bed. I am also a medical student, and may be able to shed a bit of light on the phenomenon. When we reach the stage of sleep where we dream (REM), most of our body becomes paralyzed, this is a safety mechanism because while we dream, our brain "feels," that our dream is actually real, and we will act/react to the dream if it were not for the paralysis. Control over our urinary tract is not one of the areas that becomes paralyzed, and thus, while dreaming about urinating in the toilet, we actually act out what we are dreaming.
The dreams will often recur in specific settings, for example when we are not at our own homes, the best thing to do in these cases is to avoid heavy drinking of fluids prior to bed. Avoid caffeine and alcohol, as these act as diuretics and make us have to urinate more often. If you find that you have a small bladder, setting an alarm for periodic times throughout the night, in which you wake up and use the restroom is a good way of avoiding the dreaded bed wetting.
Hope this helps.
The dreams will often recur in specific settings, for example when we are not at our own homes, the best thing to do in these cases is to avoid heavy drinking of fluids prior to bed. Avoid caffeine and alcohol, as these act as diuretics and make us have to urinate more often. If you find that you have a small bladder, setting an alarm for periodic times throughout the night, in which you wake up and use the restroom is a good way of avoiding the dreaded bed wetting.
Hope this helps.
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Hi - I am soooo relieved to find out that I'm not a complete friek, or if I am - that I'm not alone!!
I too have struggled with wetting the bed - starting when I was a child. I am female and now 26 years old. Since my early-mid teen years, I haven't had the occurrences as often, but they still seem to surface here and there. I've done it twice in the past two weeks alone! And every time for as long as I can remember, with the exception of this last time - I have had the delightful toilet dream. Thought it was kind of strange, but never thought to tell anyone. This last dream that was different for the first time involved getting in a bathtub - (causing the muscles to relax as in real life). First bathtub dream for me. Anyway, it gets rather embarrassing in when you're laying next to your significant other - he's really great about...but still. And after this last time I decided to google it - and voila. I thought I was the only expert on this way of life. Thank you every one for sharing your story!
I too have struggled with wetting the bed - starting when I was a child. I am female and now 26 years old. Since my early-mid teen years, I haven't had the occurrences as often, but they still seem to surface here and there. I've done it twice in the past two weeks alone! And every time for as long as I can remember, with the exception of this last time - I have had the delightful toilet dream. Thought it was kind of strange, but never thought to tell anyone. This last dream that was different for the first time involved getting in a bathtub - (causing the muscles to relax as in real life). First bathtub dream for me. Anyway, it gets rather embarrassing in when you're laying next to your significant other - he's really great about...but still. And after this last time I decided to google it - and voila. I thought I was the only expert on this way of life. Thank you every one for sharing your story!
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Hi - 23y/o female here, this has happened to me twice - once years ago, during a school camping trip (luckily, on the last day) and last night.
What I thought might be interesting to mention is something I noticed last year - toilet imagery is actually pretty damn important when it comes to a healthy person letting themselves 'go'. I spent a little time in hospital, and had to use a bedpan for the first time ever (pretty mortifying, but if you can't leave the bed, what choice do you have?). I found it was actually impossible to let myself 'go' without closing my eyes and actively thinking really hard about using my toilet at home - for some reason, that made it easier to relax my bladder muscles.
So... my thought is that maybe the toilet is a stronger psychological trigger than we give it credit for. After my experience in the hospital, I really don't find it at all strange that dreaming about a toilet can trigger urination. Now we just need to find a way to stop ourselves from dreaming about toilets ;-)
What I thought might be interesting to mention is something I noticed last year - toilet imagery is actually pretty damn important when it comes to a healthy person letting themselves 'go'. I spent a little time in hospital, and had to use a bedpan for the first time ever (pretty mortifying, but if you can't leave the bed, what choice do you have?). I found it was actually impossible to let myself 'go' without closing my eyes and actively thinking really hard about using my toilet at home - for some reason, that made it easier to relax my bladder muscles.
So... my thought is that maybe the toilet is a stronger psychological trigger than we give it credit for. After my experience in the hospital, I really don't find it at all strange that dreaming about a toilet can trigger urination. Now we just need to find a way to stop ourselves from dreaming about toilets ;-)
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I´m so happy finding out that I´m not the only one with this problem! I´m 28/fem, and tonight I was waking up in the middle of a "pee dream" - wich was not only a dream...
I have bed wetting accidents every once a while, maby 2-3 times a year over the last years it happens, often after drinking alkohol or having this dream.
Do I have to see a doc, or is this something that can happen as long as it dosn´t happen very often?!?
I´d love to come over it, but I have the feeling that I have to live with this as I have had nightly accidents - normally with months of distance between - for many years, maby my hole life...
I have bed wetting accidents every once a while, maby 2-3 times a year over the last years it happens, often after drinking alkohol or having this dream.
Do I have to see a doc, or is this something that can happen as long as it dosn´t happen very often?!?
I´d love to come over it, but I have the feeling that I have to live with this as I have had nightly accidents - normally with months of distance between - for many years, maby my hole life...
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to the guy with the wife, you are the sweetest guy in the world to be helping her through all this! i also have daytime and nighttime accidents from time to time, and they all started after i had bronchitis 6 months ago. i am 24 years old and have wet my pants more in the past 6 months than any time since i was probably 5. it's happening maybe 3 times a week at night and 1-2 times a week during the day. today i was at the park with my mom walking her dog and i really had to go. i told her i had to go (she knows that i've been having problems) and she told me we'd be at a bathroom in 10 minutes or so. i did the potty dance to the best of my ability while we were walking, but i didn't make it and peed in my pants. i felt horrible, but then my mom pulled a spare pair of panties and sweats out of her backpack and said she prepared for an accident. i felt 3 years old....my mom brought a change of clothes for me. but i was very grateful too, of course. this sucks and i want it to go away!
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This is the funniest story ive ever heard! Im wetting my pants right now!! (just kidding!) But seriously man are you serious?? Wow.. I am a BWA too and belong to this forum now called (BWA) "bed wetters annonomous"
Heheh!! really i think this must be it! So here is my story, im 32 and female.. bedwetter as a kid, and still am.. have seen many doc's and eurologists, cant seem to pin it down to a particular food, but let me tell you... eating asparagus doesnt make it any easier when you wet the bed.... Hell does it smell bad!! so I have three mattress protectors and one is always on the mattress and two in the linnen closet (if its not in the wash) ... I wet the bed this morning and had to sneak awaw from the new man and chalk it up as a heavy night sweat.... Gross.. I mean how do you really tell some on... "by the way, ummm, im a bedwetter?? NO it doesnt work so well. in fact ive always played the card: Oh my! what the heck? those damn dreams...
but in reality, i have the toilet dreams too... used to somhow convince myself to "pinch" my self every time i went to the bathroom.. Then in my dreams I actually started to pinch myself to wake up but when you are dreaming you can pinch yourself but you dont feel an actual pinch since you are basicly only dreaming......
I dont get it... i really dont know what to do.. I can go months without wetting the bed.. then all the sudden I will wet 3 nights in a row or 3 times in 1 night.. this means i have to change my sheets 3 times....
What am I going to do?? does ANYONE have any clues relating to food??
I can not see a pattern in the events..
i hate this more than anything... Just glad I dont wet the pants in the day time... or at least not yet..
I do feel sorry for you but at least your wife laughs.. I know its humilliating but well................there isnt any but's........ it just plain sucks.
Heheh!! really i think this must be it! So here is my story, im 32 and female.. bedwetter as a kid, and still am.. have seen many doc's and eurologists, cant seem to pin it down to a particular food, but let me tell you... eating asparagus doesnt make it any easier when you wet the bed.... Hell does it smell bad!! so I have three mattress protectors and one is always on the mattress and two in the linnen closet (if its not in the wash) ... I wet the bed this morning and had to sneak awaw from the new man and chalk it up as a heavy night sweat.... Gross.. I mean how do you really tell some on... "by the way, ummm, im a bedwetter?? NO it doesnt work so well. in fact ive always played the card: Oh my! what the heck? those damn dreams...
but in reality, i have the toilet dreams too... used to somhow convince myself to "pinch" my self every time i went to the bathroom.. Then in my dreams I actually started to pinch myself to wake up but when you are dreaming you can pinch yourself but you dont feel an actual pinch since you are basicly only dreaming......
I dont get it... i really dont know what to do.. I can go months without wetting the bed.. then all the sudden I will wet 3 nights in a row or 3 times in 1 night.. this means i have to change my sheets 3 times....
What am I going to do?? does ANYONE have any clues relating to food??
I can not see a pattern in the events..
i hate this more than anything... Just glad I dont wet the pants in the day time... or at least not yet..
I do feel sorry for you but at least your wife laughs.. I know its humilliating but well................there isnt any but's........ it just plain sucks.
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Hmm... I am male and a proud 22 years young. Like pretty much everyone else who posted here... I found this forum when I couch-wet myself last night :-) I also bed-wet once when I was 17 both times were due to the dreaded "Pee-Dream."
I was having a dream that I was back in college and that I excused myself from my buddies to go upstairs and pee. Except it all looked different in the bathroom and while I was revealing the one eyed monster a girl walked in and went to the bath (?!?) and started bathing and talking to me. Well who was I to simply RUN out of there? So I stuck around and kept peeing and chatting. Except the pee kept splashing back at me since the damn urinal was weirdly designed - like one of those new air hand driers, not to mention I kept having to start peeing again to get it all out since for some reason the pee didn't come out in one stream like normal. Then a guy walked in and was looking at me, he was naked and I was kinda freaked out by all this so I left without finishing my pee.
Note to self, when bathrooms look different, women start coming in and bathing and looking at you, don't keep peeing - do something else with your tool ;-) At least that would have stopped the golden rain from falling! Further more, all that splashing back at me, urinal looking like a hand DRIER, bladder stopping and starting, those were signs!! Stay dry!! Don't keep peeing!!! But who am I to listen to my own body's natural signals? Finally my bladder and brain fought back and created a naked, curious, man to stop me from emptying the last ounce of shame onto myself and the couch.
All in all I blame this episode entirely on myself, since I had the bright idea to NOT take a wizz before sleeping since I wanted to wake up earlier than normal and thought a full bladder would wake me up. The take home lesson here folks is simply, don't use your bladder as an alarm clock. When it rings... ehhh you get the idea...
I was having a dream that I was back in college and that I excused myself from my buddies to go upstairs and pee. Except it all looked different in the bathroom and while I was revealing the one eyed monster a girl walked in and went to the bath (?!?) and started bathing and talking to me. Well who was I to simply RUN out of there? So I stuck around and kept peeing and chatting. Except the pee kept splashing back at me since the damn urinal was weirdly designed - like one of those new air hand driers, not to mention I kept having to start peeing again to get it all out since for some reason the pee didn't come out in one stream like normal. Then a guy walked in and was looking at me, he was naked and I was kinda freaked out by all this so I left without finishing my pee.
Note to self, when bathrooms look different, women start coming in and bathing and looking at you, don't keep peeing - do something else with your tool ;-) At least that would have stopped the golden rain from falling! Further more, all that splashing back at me, urinal looking like a hand DRIER, bladder stopping and starting, those were signs!! Stay dry!! Don't keep peeing!!! But who am I to listen to my own body's natural signals? Finally my bladder and brain fought back and created a naked, curious, man to stop me from emptying the last ounce of shame onto myself and the couch.
All in all I blame this episode entirely on myself, since I had the bright idea to NOT take a wizz before sleeping since I wanted to wake up earlier than normal and thought a full bladder would wake me up. The take home lesson here folks is simply, don't use your bladder as an alarm clock. When it rings... ehhh you get the idea...
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Hmm... I am male and a proud 22 years young. Like pretty much everyone else who posted here... I found this forum when I couch-wet myself last night :-) I also bed-wet once when I was 17 both times were due to the dreaded "Pee-Dream."
I was having a dream that I was back in college and that I excused myself from my buddies to go upstairs and pee. Except it all looked different in the bathroom and while I was revealing the one eyed monster a girl walked in and went to the bath (?!?) and started bathing and talking to me. Well who was I to simply RUN out of there? So I stuck around and kept peeing and chatting. Except the pee kept splashing back at me since the damn urinal was weirdly designed - like one of those new air hand driers, not to mention I kept having to start peeing again to get it all out since for some reason the pee didn't come out in one stream like normal. Then a guy walked in and was looking at me, he was naked and I was kinda freaked out by all this so I left without finishing my pee.
Note to self, when bathrooms look different, women start coming in and bathing and looking at you, don't keep peeing - do something else with your tool ;-) At least that would have stopped the golden rain from falling! Further more, all that splashing back at me, urinal looking like a hand DRIER, bladder stopping and starting, those were signs!! Stay dry!! Don't keep peeing!!! But who am I to listen to my own body's natural signals? Finally my bladder and brain fought back and created a naked, curious, man to stop me from emptying the last ounce of shame onto myself and the couch.
All in all I blame this episode entirely on myself, since I had the bright idea to NOT take a wizz before sleeping since I wanted to wake up earlier than normal and thought a full bladder would wake me up. The take home lesson here folks is simply, don't use your bladder as an alarm clock. When it rings... ehhh you get the idea...
I was having a dream that I was back in college and that I excused myself from my buddies to go upstairs and pee. Except it all looked different in the bathroom and while I was revealing the one eyed monster a girl walked in and went to the bath (?!?) and started bathing and talking to me. Well who was I to simply RUN out of there? So I stuck around and kept peeing and chatting. Except the pee kept splashing back at me since the damn urinal was weirdly designed - like one of those new air hand driers, not to mention I kept having to start peeing again to get it all out since for some reason the pee didn't come out in one stream like normal. Then a guy walked in and was looking at me, he was naked and I was kinda freaked out by all this so I left without finishing my pee.
Note to self, when bathrooms look different, women start coming in and bathing and looking at you, don't keep peeing - do something else with your tool ;-) At least that would have stopped the golden rain from falling! Further more, all that splashing back at me, urinal looking like a hand DRIER, bladder stopping and starting, those were signs!! Stay dry!! Don't keep peeing!!! But who am I to listen to my own body's natural signals? Finally my bladder and brain fought back and created a naked, curious, man to stop me from emptying the last ounce of shame onto myself and the couch.
All in all I blame this episode entirely on myself, since I had the bright idea to NOT take a wizz before sleeping since I wanted to wake up earlier than normal and thought a full bladder would wake me up. The take home lesson here folks is simply, don't use your bladder as an alarm clock. When it rings... ehhh you get the idea...
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May not be funny to many others, but I really don't think this is a serious issue. I too have had the pissing in the bed thing which seems to be linked to a dream that i'm having. I noticed that this occurs in the winter for me, and when i'm really tired. I was pissing in Michael Jackson's neverland ranch the other morning, and the piss was just not coming out fast enough, so I heaved a little and then realised that I was really in bed. I'm 35 yrs old now and this has happened to me about 3 times in my adult life. Nothing serious, really.
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Yes, I had the same problem this morning! I am a 29 year old Woman and had the same problem when I was a kid, I wet the bed until I was about 7 years old. Well, I had this dream this morning that I was peeing on the toilet and infact, I woke myself up because I pee'd on myself! I have been under a great deal of stress for a long time so I think that might be it. I've also been talking a lot in my sleep too.
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