Schizophrenic boyfriend wants to leave me over something that didnt really happen!!!

So if you took medicine would you be able to stop your thoughts and trust her. I am in the same situation with my husband. My husband has schizophrenia but in denial about. it. He says he can't trust me because I have tried to kill him and cheat on him. I HAVE NOT DONE EITHER AND NEVER WOULD. But the problem is, I want to help him but he wants me to get out of his house. So I will be moving now. I have known him 8 yrs. (2 married). He had a work accident, brain trauma and now it has caused this. I want to help him but how do I get him to understand I am not the enemy? I feel for him. But if I leave I am ready to actually give up and not return.

I LOVE THIS POST! it is so true! my boyfriend just got worse and worse! he went from apologizing to continually disrespected me over and over and over and over again. He continuously accuse me of stealing things from him but in all actuality he was misplacing things or even throwing them away forgetting what he did with the stuff. I have got so self-conscious I begin placing my own things in my bag in front of him just to show him I'm not taking stuff out the house. I could tell that he was tired and he has so many thoughts racing through his brain and he couldn't even get his own peace of mind. I tried to calm him down but it never works. There were times when he told me that he loves me and the next week he talks to me like he never loved me at all and that he's ready to break up. He talk to me as if I was cheating all the time. But when I looked at his phone he was the one cheating. I'm just so tired but I still love him although I know I have to let it go. I just don't have the strength to make him take his medication. I found out that he was schizophrenic through his own aunt he still denies having this disease. He has never told me that he has a problem I feel betrayed never told me the truth and a lot of the times I feel ashamed to even tell people all the things and he's done

Hi, I am particularly touched by your experience amwest01216221 as my boyfriend who has schizophrenia decided it was over after a few months based on some imaginary cheating. I am devastated, I knew his condition and only considered a diagnosis not the person. Of course you have to take care of yourself and for that i agree he could do better. He started to skip his treatment partly or whole since out of hospital about 2-3 months ago. I don't know what to do, on one hand speak to defend myself but feels stupid prooving what you didn't do like you have to?! He argued I cheated with his friend and then erased/block me from facebook (he has no mobile because he keeps losing it, lost one recently) and at first speak to that friend but he banned him too in the end. The frustrating thing is that he disappeared which was worrying, so I contacted his friends and look for him. And that friend came with me looking in town asking around. That's what i get in return for caring? Otherwise he 's such a sweet and intelligent person. Worrying fact he had gone missing twice in a week: first when he came to visit me (I live in another country), that day we left on 'I love You's and I don't hear for two days (neither his family). I still didn't get the keys back either. Then when he's home.. another 2 days news-less. I know these errances can be characteristics of crisis and I regret i didn't warn before when i hear him speak non sense once or twice while we spent a week together before those episodes. I really want to arrange things and i just don't see how. Last time i spoke with him because he used to answer the phone but became too agressive, i went to see in person. Sadly he ended the conversation taking me to door. He just cannot seem to take dialog while he remains with his mistrust and also he blamed that i would have been with my ex somehow because he claimed he spoke with him on my phone. He had that paranoia in my flat arguing someone may have come (obviously not). Caring advice are welcome.

I have the same issues. I have been married for 14yrs. He has been a heavy drug user for most of his life. for the last 10 yrs. I have been accused of cheating with every person I see. He hears me cheating, see had prints on my skin and clothing. Even smells another man on my skin. I have not cheated on my husband ever. I work in the health field and he has caused problems at my jobs for year. About 2 yrs ago he started on Zolft and Methadone. Which I was unsure really helped. Then after 6 months clean from drugs and all medications. He didn't hear the voices as much. He restarted the Zolft and Methadone and now he hears and see's things again. Any time I have tried to share my feelings about how he needs to see a Dr about this-he just gets really angry. I am exostied from not sleeping, being a mother of 3 kids, working and having him keep me up at night because he is so paranoid. Im ready for a divorce. I love him and don't want to live with out him. But he has taken a toll on me for 10 yrs. Have ran out of ideas. It is nice to know that I m not the crazy one. Others have this problem also.
Crystal

Hi Cristal, seems like a journey. It seems treatments you describe are more about addiction. Maybe I should add cannabis addiction but he had stopped. For I guessed it was brutal stop. My bf had spent nights sleepless either smoking cannabis or after stopping or taking a break still heavily smoke cigarettes. Clearly that may not help feeling relaxed. Well as I said we left each other on I love you before the disappearances and next week to receive Facebook message I cheated. On phone later I called and he told me his instinct tells so. Well I didn't so instinct does betray him. I feel bad for I didn't take him to the doc when he first spent smoking night while he always know I want him to reduce cannabis for it doesn't help schizophrenia symptoms. Why we feel like this. Probably I should mention I am bipolar so I know what it is to have to take care of oneself.

thank you for saying this

my boyfriend feels the same way you do. if you would be willing to talk to me, maybe you can help me? i could give you my email address...

i'm sorry, i meant to leave a reply to a specific comment.

my boyfriend of 9 months just left me today for the 5th (?) time. he believes that i lie and cheat all the time, much like all of your significant others. he says things to me like "you don't give a sh*t about me," which is soul shattering, because i love him. i do not want to give up on him. he has never been physically violent, nor do i believe he ever would be. he just gets it in his head that i've done something to wrong him and leaves. i would do anything to have him be able to trust me. i realize what i would be in for to say that i want to have a life with this person. i do. the more i research and read blogs with other people's experiences, the more i understand and am able to realize more fully what our life together would be like. i love this man and yes, this hurts me, it stresses me out, it breaks my heart, but goddamnit, when things are good, he is the most amazing person. what breaks my hear the most is knowing that he is hurting, and that i am indirectly the cause of his pain. it breaks my hear into a thousand pieces every time he tells me that he can't trust me, or accuses me of cheating on him. he can't bring himself to believe that i love him deeply and would never do anything to hurt him or to give him a reason for all the mistrust. i know that a lot of people would have given up a long time ago. i know that many people don't feel that this is healthy and that i should take care of myself etc... but i am not willing to just give up on him. the longest he has been gone is a week. but this is the 5th time. i'm not ready to give up on us, but i'm afraid that he is. i'm trying to remain hopeful, and in the mean time will continue my research and reading. he has always had a hard time leaving me alone, so we've spend 97% of the last 9 months attached at the hip. when he's gone i feel like part of me is missing. i feel empty. my apartment...our apartment... feels empty and cold. my cat won't even sit with me when he's gone. she likes him better. i know that 9 months doesn't seem like very long, but we had an immediate connection, a magnetic attraction, from the day we met. and as i stated, he had a hard time with being apart, which i believe in part was because being alone is not easy for him, so we've spent a lot more time together than most new couples do. and i realize that if this has happened so many times in such a short period that maybe i shouldn't have high hopes for the long term. but how can i bring myself to let go of this incredible person? especially knowing that he doesn't have anyone else that will support him the way i do. he isn't close with his family. i feel so helpless when i can't help him. if he does come home, i plan to reach out for a doctor for myself. perhaps they can assist me in being able to take care of him. maybe they can teach me how to talk him down when he's so upset. maybe if he sees me trying to "get help" he would be willing to come with me.
if there is anyone out there reading this that has this awful ailment, i really need someone to talk to that might know what he's really going through. my heart aches so much.

You brought children into that situation...when you knew you were marrying a heavy drug user?

shame on you

Wow this actually sounds like what I'm going through do they all do the same thing

The man i am still inlove with did the sane thing heard voices accused me of things i didnt do but i stayed cause i was so deeply inlove and happy with him he was fine majority of the time but one day out of nowhere for no reason he tried to severely murder me i cant trust him or be around him n it breaks my heart but i think as hard as it is u should let him go softly but do not see him in person anymore its not safe they need to be on medicine and even then its still scary

I know it wasnt Him cause deep down in his heart he would NEVER hurt me but HE DID TRY TO KILL ME i never saw it coming shocked the sh*t out of me he was the sweetest most loving man but i think it was simply cause i was there and he snapped looked gone u could see it in his eyes it wasnt him

My ex boyfriend told me 6 days ago that our relationship is over because he can't trust me and I don't love him. He's been accusing me of cheating and lying and stealing from him for 1 year and has cheated on me several times when we break up. I do love him but I am emotionally drained. He hit me twice during his episode and have cursed me out. Sad to say, but I don't want the relationship to be over but I'm tired. I have forgave him and taken him back at least 10 times. No more for me so I have decided to stay away from him.

Everything you just went through is my same experience with my ex. I have taken him back at least 10 times when we break up. He was the cheater in our relationship not me. He accused me of everything and even said I was drugging him and letting another man in his apartment while we both slept. I'm sorry but No more for me. I'm hoping and praying he has really moved on this time.

Yes, last year I got together with a childhood boyfriend, his wife passed in October 2015 so we started talking he has a 12 year old son, he came to visit me in S.C. and I went to Va. to visit him and that fast we decided for them to move here with me and my 25 y ear old disabled son, I am still having a hard time believing this, he had been married to his wife for 35 years so i thought prob a great guy! at the same job for over 30 years (but he had to quit to move here) he has been accusing me of cheating when i just go to work, if I go to the store he went, he would even take me to work and keep vehicle, I thought at least he will have piece of mind that im not leaving work, but when he would come pick me up he would swear up and down that i did not come out either door, hinting that someone dropped me off ?? and he really believes this! to top it off he accuses me of having sex with my own son!!I dont know whats wrong with him, i really love this man, but he did not like my son and my son did not like him so thats not gonna work, I had to send him back home which I know is the right thing to do but my heart is broke.I have been looking up schizophrenic and some other illnesses to see what could be wrong its almost like he has 2 or 3 personalities, He has drank alot in his life so im wondering if maybe he has lost some brain cells?? he also would sniff me when I came home and say i smelled like i took a shower before i came home,,well I wear white diamonds and it has a clean smell. anyone ever heard of this kind of paranoia?