hi
i don't know whats wrong with me. i've been with the same partner for nearly six years. we have two beatiful boys together. our eldest is nearly five and our youngest is 8 months old. well, after the birth of our first child my sexual desire went down a little but was still okay. we were trying to concieve our 2nd child for sometime and it took almost two years but I was over-joyed when we found out we were going to be parents again. both my children where born vaginally and didn't have any problems. however with my second child, i did need stitches. sex for the first few times was uncomfortable but then everything seemed fine. however, the last couple months, sex has been painful and now is at a point where it is unbearable. i cant even stand him to finger me... i just find it too uncomfortable. it's not that i don't want to.... okay, sometimes i don't want to.... but there's times where i do want to and my body wont allow me to. my partner says my cervix feels low and my periods have been slightly irregular the last couple months, which is when the pain has become more unbearable. i've been ingoring this hoping it would go away but there is no improvement. and I was wondering what everybody would advise. should i be very concerned and get my self into my gp as soon as possible.... or leave it bit longer and try different lubes, postions, etc. my partner does say i'm still wet enough, so he is also confused why i'm experencing so much pain during sex .
please help mumof2 x
i don't know whats wrong with me. i've been with the same partner for nearly six years. we have two beatiful boys together. our eldest is nearly five and our youngest is 8 months old. well, after the birth of our first child my sexual desire went down a little but was still okay. we were trying to concieve our 2nd child for sometime and it took almost two years but I was over-joyed when we found out we were going to be parents again. both my children where born vaginally and didn't have any problems. however with my second child, i did need stitches. sex for the first few times was uncomfortable but then everything seemed fine. however, the last couple months, sex has been painful and now is at a point where it is unbearable. i cant even stand him to finger me... i just find it too uncomfortable. it's not that i don't want to.... okay, sometimes i don't want to.... but there's times where i do want to and my body wont allow me to. my partner says my cervix feels low and my periods have been slightly irregular the last couple months, which is when the pain has become more unbearable. i've been ingoring this hoping it would go away but there is no improvement. and I was wondering what everybody would advise. should i be very concerned and get my self into my gp as soon as possible.... or leave it bit longer and try different lubes, postions, etc. my partner does say i'm still wet enough, so he is also confused why i'm experencing so much pain during sex .
please help mumof2 x
Yes, I would schedule an appointment with either your GP or the OBGYN as soon as possible. If sex is painful, why put yourself and your partner through it any longer than necessary?
I would suspect that you might have torn something, and the stitches may be an indication of some shift... however, I am NOT a doctor, and should not comment on any of this without a full GYN exam.
You would do well to experiment with different positions, and with some lube, if only to help advise the doctor which positions are most painful.... that could be a clue to what's changed and what it might be.
Also, I would share which positions you two have used successfully in the past...so the doc can see the change.
Also, there are other expressions of love and lust that can be done with full vaginal intercourse. You might try getting a sexy book of self help positions and advice, and try some other things on "date night".
Also, things change with the birth of a couple of kids...demands, energy, meaning of sex, etc.
Also, try showing your partner what you really want out of sex or in which positions you want it, and see if you do some things for him (massage, etc) if he wouldn't be willing to do some other things for you.
good luck.
Let us know.
I would suspect that you might have torn something, and the stitches may be an indication of some shift... however, I am NOT a doctor, and should not comment on any of this without a full GYN exam.
You would do well to experiment with different positions, and with some lube, if only to help advise the doctor which positions are most painful.... that could be a clue to what's changed and what it might be.
Also, I would share which positions you two have used successfully in the past...so the doc can see the change.
Also, there are other expressions of love and lust that can be done with full vaginal intercourse. You might try getting a sexy book of self help positions and advice, and try some other things on "date night".
Also, things change with the birth of a couple of kids...demands, energy, meaning of sex, etc.
Also, try showing your partner what you really want out of sex or in which positions you want it, and see if you do some things for him (massage, etc) if he wouldn't be willing to do some other things for you.
good luck.
Let us know.