what is the reason why a girl would not want to open or widen her legs when a foreplay or sex is going on? am lost and wanna know.
That's a good question. My wife's been like that for 40+ years. She also insists on wearing night gowns that button from her toes to her nose. Says I'm supposed to appreciate it more if I have to work for it. It doesn't work that way for me. I could never get a job as a rapist. A girl has to show me she is as interested in me as I am in her or I just have no desire to do it. She did when we were dating. If a girl I was dating reached into my crotch, my natural reaction was to "spread 'em" and so was theirs when I went to touch them.
When I was in my 50s she suddenly remembered that her father had sexually abused her and claims that's the reason she acts the way she does. She went on to convince her younger sister that she was abused too. It took a year for her to make her sister believe that. I don't know whether to believe it or not. Her sister was only 5 when we got married so my wife wasn't at home to witness it.
My wife used to decide all of us in our family had whatever the psycho babble talk shows had for the subject of the month, and repressed memories of father daughter abuse was the hot item at the time she "remembered" it.
She might be telling the truth because she never wanted to touch me (except while we were dating) Oral sex on me was almost non existent, and only after a night out drinking. After I got a vasectomy she said it tasted bitter and that was a perfect excuse to never do it again. Cunnilingus was always a part of our sex, but after she was satiated she tried to make me feel guilty by pretending she felt it was dirty. While I was doing her though, she always held her lips open for me with her fingers.
The only time she ever took the initiative was the day I came home from the hospital after bypass surgery. That night she jumped my bones and surprised the h*ll out of me. THAT WAS GREAT. She said it was because she had been so afraid she was going to lose me. I think maybe she was hoping to kill me.
I'm really looking forward to other opinions about why a "lover" won't spread her legs.
When I was in my 50s she suddenly remembered that her father had sexually abused her and claims that's the reason she acts the way she does. She went on to convince her younger sister that she was abused too. It took a year for her to make her sister believe that. I don't know whether to believe it or not. Her sister was only 5 when we got married so my wife wasn't at home to witness it.
My wife used to decide all of us in our family had whatever the psycho babble talk shows had for the subject of the month, and repressed memories of father daughter abuse was the hot item at the time she "remembered" it.
She might be telling the truth because she never wanted to touch me (except while we were dating) Oral sex on me was almost non existent, and only after a night out drinking. After I got a vasectomy she said it tasted bitter and that was a perfect excuse to never do it again. Cunnilingus was always a part of our sex, but after she was satiated she tried to make me feel guilty by pretending she felt it was dirty. While I was doing her though, she always held her lips open for me with her fingers.
The only time she ever took the initiative was the day I came home from the hospital after bypass surgery. That night she jumped my bones and surprised the h*ll out of me. THAT WAS GREAT. She said it was because she had been so afraid she was going to lose me. I think maybe she was hoping to kill me.
I'm really looking forward to other opinions about why a "lover" won't spread her legs.
thanks for ur reply. that is one of my thoughts but i still have not relented on my efforts on finding the reasons for this. she is not the first to behave this way. my ex behaved the same. and it has been bugging me really big time.
could being a virgin be among one of the reasons for this and pain during sex be part of it. if one was sexually abused, could he have pain during sex?
could being a virgin be among one of the reasons for this and pain during sex be part of it. if one was sexually abused, could he have pain during sex?
Sounds like you have a lot of unresolved anger with your spouse.
You certainly do have a complaint if she tries to force whatever psychobabel comes across the tv onto family members.
I think you might want to speak with a counselor. It sounds like there are unresolved issues. Especially if you are serious about her trying to kill you after a heart bipass operation! (or, were you kidding about that?)
You certainly do have a complaint if she tries to force whatever psychobabel comes across the tv onto family members.
I think you might want to speak with a counselor. It sounds like there are unresolved issues. Especially if you are serious about her trying to kill you after a heart bipass operation! (or, were you kidding about that?)
Some women are raised to keep their legs closed at all times.
Some women have been taught that only "bad girls" spread their legs.
Others feel "all exposed" and vulnerable, if they spread their legs, or allow them to be spread.
I would work on giving her an all over massage, and when it comes to the legs, she just might be relaxed enough to let you spread them naturally. Of course, if she's not anticipating that you're heading for sex, then she will probably be more receptive.
But if you are constantly battling over this, it sounds like a frank talk is in order.
Good luck!
Some women have been taught that only "bad girls" spread their legs.
Others feel "all exposed" and vulnerable, if they spread their legs, or allow them to be spread.
I would work on giving her an all over massage, and when it comes to the legs, she just might be relaxed enough to let you spread them naturally. Of course, if she's not anticipating that you're heading for sex, then she will probably be more receptive.
But if you are constantly battling over this, it sounds like a frank talk is in order.
Good luck!
With increased age comes decreased flexibility and aching joints and whatnot. Ask her about it. It might hurt her to spread her legs wide for the missionary position. Try another position...
hi there my gf girl friend does not want to do any of thoes shes done alot be for i met her shes done anal with other guys and does not want to go there with me she bearly wants to have sex any more i try to make her orgasm but she wont let me go there shes done alot of things be for i met her and does not want to go there with me im not to sure why ive askd her but she just says i dont no she never gives me an answer
My ex wife (divorced 20 years ago after 20 years of marriage) would never fully open or raise her legs during sex. From front or rear it was always completely flat and with legs closed. It wasn't because I was small - she told others I was big. She'd being married before and had had a few sexual partners. She would never mount me either or do oral. In fact her sexual positions were limited to two. You might think she was sexually repressed but that wasn't really the case. In fact she cheated on me multiple times (reason for divorce) and during that period (when I strongly suspected but didn't actually know) she offered a new position - bent forwards over the bath. I suspect that was because she'd had to do it with lovers bent over a car or fence or whatever because nowhere else was available during the daytime. She wouldn't have dared bring them home to bed.
Interestingly she once told me that when she was 14 her mother was in hospital giving birth to a brother. Her stepfather, only 30 at the time, insisted that she joined him in bed because "I miss your mother". She swore that nothing happened but I cannot quite believe that.He had a habit of rather too closely holding her and daughters-in-law.Maybe that was the source of her reluctance to experiment in bed. My other lovers were mainly happy to experiment but some were, like her, limited and silent in bed. Quite disappointing.
Hi Mate,
This looks like my girlfriend. She has done practically everything and she was in a BDMS relationship where she was a total slave. Now she says she loves me but sex? It's just or depressing or nothing. She does not initiate, touch me really, even oral sex has gone. When we met she was super hot and sexy: sure she wanted only super soft and slow but at least there was connection and she was telling me how incredible will be when we live together. Well we ended living together and I have never had such bad intimacy. The worst is she told me about the BDSM guy, things they have done....wow she loves me she says, but will not do even an inch of what she accepted from that guy...really I am simple in sex, not kinky stuff, but well practically here we are at the level that I gave her oral sex and she read her iPhone! The. She orgasm ...says thanks, touch me s bit ...then my only solution is to go to the bathroom, use my phone to watch some real women wanting their men with passionate sex and madturbate. It's hell. She does the same, she keep her leg close, I need to move them when. Trying some touching. It is depressing as hell.
The issue? I love her. I am damn, I am only 43 and I cannot believe my sexual life can only go worst. She is 35 and beautiful like a model. Real torture.
This looks like my girlfriend. She has done practically everything and she was in a BDMS relationship where she was a total slave. Now she says she loves me but sex? It's just or depressing or nothing. She does not initiate, touch me really, even oral sex has gone. When we met she was super hot and sexy: sure she wanted only super soft and slow but at least there was connection and she was telling me how incredible will be when we live together. Well we ended living together and I have never had such bad intimacy. The worst is she told me about the BDSM guy, things they have done....wow she loves me she says, but will not do even an inch of what she accepted from that guy...really I am simple in sex, not kinky stuff, but well practically here we are at the level that I gave her oral sex and she read her iPhone! The. She orgasm ...says thanks, touch me s bit ...then my only solution is to go to the bathroom, use my phone to watch some real women wanting their men with passionate sex and madturbate. It's hell. She does the same, she keep her leg close, I need to move them when. Trying some touching. It is depressing as hell.
The issue? I love her. I am damn, I am only 43 and I cannot believe my sexual life can only go worst. She is 35 and beautiful like a model. Real torture.
I think it depends on you and the girl and your relationship. When you and her are intimate, are there any feelings of guilt? How comfortable is she when it comes to sex and how long have you known her?
Also, are you showing her in a non-physical way that your attracted to her? Besides the fact that you are indeed attracted to her, try telling her what you like about her. Smile at her.
The main reasons I can think of as to why she's not wanting to open her legs are:
1. She doesn't feel comfortable enough with you, at least not yet.
2. It's just an off day for her
3. Guilt or Shame associated with sex-that doesn't necessarily relate to you
4. She's not the right girl for you
Also, are you showing her in a non-physical way that your attracted to her? Besides the fact that you are indeed attracted to her, try telling her what you like about her. Smile at her.
The main reasons I can think of as to why she's not wanting to open her legs are:
1. She doesn't feel comfortable enough with you, at least not yet.
2. It's just an off day for her
3. Guilt or Shame associated with sex-that doesn't necessarily relate to you
4. She's not the right girl for you
Mmm, dump her and look for a normal lass!
A classic case of an American (or Canadian?) Woman. You should have dumped her looong ago.
The women in the old days were the very best of all compared to these horrible women today.