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Stopping weed BUT I'm loosing all of my friends. WHAT DO I DO

By Dranac186916 | 1 post, last post
Chris Smith, MD answered this Issues Related To Marijuana Use And Withdrawal Symptoms
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Dranac186916

I'm 21 and have been smoking weed for 4 years. The last 2 has been pretty much daily I have attempted to quit and I started 4 days ago... Not going too badly, I'm getting the withdrawals as in , sweating in bed, waking up a bit earlier and them main one IM ALWAYS BORED. BUT the main issue Issssss the fact that pretty much all of my mates are stoners, which Is a right pain. Reason is if I'm with em I will end up smoking it mainly because they are all smoking and it does turn out to be a bit awkward if they are all getting high and I'm not. So I'll end up having a few drags just to join in I guess. But as I say I have quit (have my reasons) and I'm on day 4 sober. The thing is that I havnt seen any of my mates for 4 days which does help to not smoke. But I'm getting well a bit depressed I guess coz I don't see them anymore AND my best mate is the biggest stoner out of all of them... (just to clarify, we were good mates before we both smoked weed). But now I never see any one and it's getting to me, coz I'm just at home, thinking of them, and the fact that I'm having to reject them due to wanting to stop. And now I'm already beginning to think I might go back to weed and stop by cutting down (like smoke 1 day and then not for a duple, and so on)... I just can't hack being on my own and by e time I have got over it I won't have my mates coz i wouldn't of seen them for so long so i, they and everything will be different.... Please some one suggest something as it's really starting to drive me insane..

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In 5 months it will be 30 years since I quit drinking and I experienced the same things when I quit. I was a very experienced bar attender. I went out every night and came home at closing time. When I met the nice man with the blue lights on his car I blew a .27 for his enjoyment. That was the last time I had a drink except for the champagne toast at a couple weddings, a retirement party and an anniversary party. I HATE champagne!!!!

One night a week or two after I quit, my wife and I stopped at the old watering hole after a movie. She didn't quit drinking, I did. That is when I realized that part of my life was over and most of those guys at the bar who WERE my friends were strangers now. The main reason I felt I lost my friends was because for many years my only friends were the people I met every night at the bar.

About all I can say is keep on keeping on. It does get better and you basically begin a new life and make new friends but you may keep a few old ones, I did. Some of those guys accepted the fact that I quit and one of them was actually proud of it. If we happened to meet in a social situation he would introduce me as "this is XXXXX, he quit drinking." Six months later I quit smoking and he was happy to add "he quit smoking". His father died of lung cancer and he was really happy that I quit smoking.

At this point I can't stand to hang around someone who is drinking or someone who is hung over. You CAN smell it. Strangely I don't feel the same about someone smoking (tobacco). I don't mind the smell of a smoker sitting next to me in a diner and it doesn't bother me if they are smoking around me, except for the smell on my clothing the next day. When I go into the house of a smoker I AM glad my house doesn't smell like that but I don't care if theirs does.

I have never had any desire to drink or smoke again. Lucky, I guess. I have a cousin who quit smoking about as long ago as me and he wants a cigarette whenever he's awake.

For me it's just great to not be doing it any more. Not because I feel superior that I quit but just because I don't do it. So don't give up.

 

 

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