ten year old son still sleep with his mother

You are NOT supposed to retract an uncut aka normal penis! And NO woman should mutilate her sons penis anyway! HIS body HIS decision! The only person that should do this is him, when he is ready- usually during puberty! You are sick pedophiles and karma WILL bite you in the ass and when your sons are grown they will HATE you and leave you for the wives!

Well there are many strong thoughts on this subject. I would like to add I know a 6 year old boy who sleeps with his mom NOT allowing the father in the bed. The dad sleeps in the guest room. What do you all think of that?

True,Fathers are being hurt by the social thinking of the danger which comes from their side to their daughters. Only because there are much more cases of fathers abusing their children then mothers. It is generalizing, but well...we standardize our behavior to the smaller degree of any danger. We choose what's less dangerous for us, if there is no option to totally abandon the danger. Anyway, we should talk about mom-son sharing a bed... Each case is very different. It is very personal choice, very emotional often reaching the area not understood by other than a parent only ( when parent wakes up at night feeling that something wrong is happening to their child-can't explain why but the bond is there) When families are separated by the divorce there is much more need in both child and a parent for warmth and emotional stability in their life's. Because usually child's stays with their mom after the divorce, we see the situation of a child being with mom in more close relationship. When 2 human beings lives in a house, both need a love, attention, and a hug then this is what their do. Often moms feels guilty that they couldn't give a child full family expected to be by the social laws, even if they feel blessed and happy from divorcing. Woman usually blames themselves more than man does. It's in our nature, when finale is responsible to choose the right future father-the responsible male. Anyway... Children needs lots of love, each needs different attention, as long as child has own bedroom ready for him to use it at any time they want, as long they do not overuse the closeness to explore more than mom-child relationship...everything should be OK. We should not talk about the sex of the child when we talk about mom and her child... Unless there is abuse... Nowadays, when being a lesbian is not a taboo we can start thinking that mom-slighted sleeping together is sick, but we don't. Why? Because we are missing the point. It's not about the sexual emotion, it is about the feeling of love, closeness, being adjusted to someone, accepted, having deep roots... Finally during the period of 9 months and then babyhood, most of moms has the ability to calm down their babies by hug, touch, soft massage, kisses, moms hands, voice, smell of the skin is remembered by baby and it will stay with them forever. Some of us, more emotional, more gentler to the touch will feel the bliss when mothers hand is landing on their guess, arm, back. It is unforgettable feeling and why we should not use it when we can? We have the ability to put every our behavior under some social boundaries. There is so many of them that we are forgetting whom we are and what we really want. More of us needs some professional help because we can't fit into the boundaries. Because we are loosing the ability to listen to our guts. If we don't know what to do we stopping doing that unless someone will write the law for us to follow. Final answer is: check if there is sexual abuse , check it carefully and be sure that you are not streaching the reasons. Then if so-save child's life by contacting the right gevernment department -police. This way you save someone's else's life. But if you are wrong your actions can destroy the best relationship in humans life - between mother and her child (no matter boy or girl) If there is nothing but lots of emotional attachment and child's need of being close to thir mom - please leave them Aline. When child will grow up emotionally, start to feel more secure, loved by everyone... Then the decision will be made. Bad behavior is often reaction to low self esteem and insecurity - this is a way kids are getting everyones attention. Maybe you can help that child feeling better, more attached to you too, feeling important... Please remember, not everything goes around sexuality , and if one has sick thoughts - the danger is everywhere at anytime. Not a bed per se. Take care and be careful whats your real reasons of commenting ones life. Please forgive me any misspellings - Im writing from the iPhone.

I am a guy and I use to go to my dads on the weekend and only had one bed so I slept with him and to me it was a good bonding experence. We would laugh and play before and after sleep. It was like two friends spending the night at each others house. I now have two boys and a girl of my own 7,8,and 9 and when they come to my house two will sleep in the other room on bunk beds and the other with me and yes even my 8yo daughter. They like being close to me and having the alone time to bond. It's like girls wanting to sit in there dads laps and boys wanting to be held by there mom. It's natural. However the problem lies In when a child of any and i mean any age or sex HAS TO and WILL NOT or CAN NOT sleep in there own bed. If there is even the slightest fight or trouble when you tell your child they need to sleep in there own bed tonight then there is a codependent problem that will only get worse the longer it goes. Most times you will see this unhealthy codependency through out the whole day not just at bed time. Even if the child grows out of it and stops sleep in the parent bed on there own the longer it goes the more damage it does. Because there will still be that codependency in the rest of there day. My girlfriend has two boys 8 and 10 and they will fight and scream if she tells them to go to bed. Most nights I can't even spend the night because of it which is ridiculous. And even if they do goto bed they have to sleep with each other even though they have their own room. I ado have a friend who's wife has to goto bed every night at 8 because there 4yo won't sleep without her. She can even get up after he goes to sleep or he'll wake and have a coronary. In both of these cases their mother has do do everything for them noone else. They are constanly wining and crying all day to there mothers. So the problem comes when there is that must, need, or have to or else factor is there. And sleeping together can be healthy but at most it should be half and half other wise you are risking a problem.

Okay, I slept with my mom until I was 11. (I'm female) I slept with my mom & 6 year old sister. Why? Because I live in a 3 room apartment, and my aunt sleeps alone, my dad and 5 year old brother sleep together, and I sleep with my mom & sister. Before you start trolling on me, I wunna tell you that we tried to rearrange and see who sleeps with who. I can't get my own private room, so my mom insisted that we divide it by 
"Genders". So the girls sleep in one room, and the guys sleep in the other. I slept with my mom for around...I think 5 years. I kinda got used to it, but now I sleep by myself. Storage room isn't the only problem why I slept with my mom, it's because when I was younger, I got addicted on reading scary stories, scary movies, and imagining spooky stuff too. So that's why I was okay to sleep in the same room with my mom. So there is nothing to worry about when a son/daughter is sleeping with their mother. The mother gave birth to the child, fed the child, bathe the child, helped the child, and gave shelter to them. If it's the mother or the kid's choice for them to sleep together, then it's okay. And you know it's NOT okay when the parent is harming or molesting the child, OR when the child is turning into a teen. Well, the parent shouldn't sleep with the child when they turn into a teenager, because the teenager needs to learn how to care for themselves when they leave the nest and wander into the world alone. so that was MY opinion..and I love my mom, she was always there for me. It kinda makes me sad when people say that a kid over 5 years old can't sleep with their mom and make it sound like a disease. It's a natural way, a lot of mothers sleep with their child. So don't be ashamed..

Hi, I have a 1 year old girl.  I have co-slept with her since she was born as she was 4 wks premature so for the first 6 months I had to demand b/feed her. The only problem with this setup now is that I am now trying to get her into her own cot and for her to sleep on her own. I am finding this difficult to do as she is very stubborn and is used to being with me. I love sharing  cuddles with her and I know she loves it too but it is affecting my love life and personal life with my hubby and we now have separate beds. I wouldn't like it if she was 10 years old and still sharing my bed all night. I want to have my freedom back and not have to worry if she is going to roll off the bed in the night or cry. Mums need their own space too!! :-D

If it is urgent ok but it is ok.

Dear John,

 

Upon reading your post, I noticed two completely incorrect and unrelated statements in it. For starters, Lesbians are NOT in any way shape or form related to pedophilia. Leave them out of this you fuckwit. Also, if you knew a thing about Feminism, which you obviously don't, you would know that it does not stand for women being above men, or seeing themselves as superior, because Feminism actually stands for the belief that women and men are equal. You, sir, are a misogynistic douche bag. You also know nothing about this topic. I suggest you go back to your creepy little bible studies classes and spew your bull-sh*t there.

You shouldn't feel ashamed of yourself. I am in a similar boat, and it frustrates the hell out of me when the child is so needy and my husband gives into it. This child I'm speaking of has severe dependency issues, and lack of discipline etc. This is mostly from the mother who he is with most of the time. And I get it, the child needs his father, and he missed him. But he also needs to learn to be independent, take care of himself, entertain himself, and learn discipline. I guess there wouldn't be anything wrong with co-sleeping in a normal family situation. But when there is already behavioural problems, I think it needs to stop. Also, I personally think 12 years old is way too old to want to sleep with your parents. The child needs to learn how to sleep on his own. It is a fact of life. My husband and I fight about this and we are seeking counseling. He wants to give in to the child to make him like him, but it really isn't helping the child. We are trying to obtain custody so we can deal with issues more thoroughly (the mother is an alcoholic drug addict who severely neglects him, and you think it would be easy to get custody, but not so, the courts a really biased) but, what I try to make my husband realize that it is effecting OUR relationship too. I'm not trying to be the evil stepmom, but I've taken early childhood education and I've worked in child care, and I can see behavior problems a mile away. The people who are blood related to this child tell me that I'm being heartless, but I'm being realistic. I'm not saying neglect the child and never spend time with him. I'm saying, set boundaries, because that is what this child needs. And it is extremely difficult to be a stepmom anyway, things like this just compound the problem. The fact is, it doesn't really matter how things were done in the past, this is now, and now, children need to learn to live in this world. Not the past. Maybe that sounds heartless, but it isn't. I love this child and see to this child's every need. In fact, I would argue that I'm being a better parent than all of the above by realizing and following through with boundaries and discipline. Children who are allowed to be needy, bratty, codependent, back talkers, and spoiled often grow into a miserable adults. They need to learn how to work with others and take care of themselves to make it in this world, and it is our job as parents to give them the tools to do so. And I'm sorry, sometimes that means making the child do things they don't want to do.

Hello everyone, well, I'm 31 years old and as far as I remember, I slept with my mother, she died 3 years ago now, but the real reason why sons still sleep with there mother is cause they are so close, so loving to their Mum, the just feel more save and they must have had a bad experience when sleeping on there own, till I slept with mum until I where 12, I've never ever felt any sexual desired, literally. People should know how close a mother and son as a family can be.

Plus my mother has never touch me or even said anything sexual to me.

I'm with you John, how is it okay for a mother and son to sleep in the same bed together, but if a father and daughter do, OMG he will be in trouble and go to jail.

My husband is in this same situation with his 12 year old son.  He has an 11 year old son and a 14 year old daughter with his ex.  They live with their mom, she lives in the basement of her parents house.  It's not a crowded house.  Just her parents, her and her two kids.  I know that sleeping with your mother isn't as ridiculous as it sounds but let me tell you about this situation...it's a little different.

She and her 12 year old son share the basement area of her parents home.  For some reason they gave the daughter a room of her own, which I do understand, teen girls need their space.  But wouldn't you think they would give the son a room and the mother and daughter share an area.  Anyways, up until a year ago, when my husband took her back to court, they were still sleeping in the same bed together.  Both lawyers immediately told her to stop it and that he needed his own bed.  Well he now has his own bed in another corner of the room BUT, yes there is a but!  She begs him to sleep with her.  The daughter only recently told us that her brother was still sleeping in the bed with their mom.  He felt embarrassed and began to tell us that when he crawls into his own bed, his mother begs him to get in bed with her.  When he says no or that he doesn't want to, she begins to cry, according to him.  The teen daughter confirmed this when she said that one night when her brother went to stay with a friend overnight, she then asked her to sleep in the bed with her that night.  Is this 34 year old woman afraid to sleep alone?  I so do not think she is in any way trying to molest him or anything like that, I do think it's about her and only her.  I am very concerned that he is 12 years old and will begin puberty if he hasn't already.  It would be very disturbing to a young man to awake suddenly with an erection from a wet dream and turn over to look at your mom.  I myself have tried to talk with him about this and even at 12 years old, he agreed with me that it bothers him.  He feels as though, if his friends knew this, they would all laugh at him and it's not even his fault.  My husband has even told his son that it is time and he is old enough to simply tell his mom "no" when she asks him to sleep with her.

 

Any thoughts???

I have a question about the mother and son situation. My five year old step son came home saying that his mom got a new room mate so now he has to share a room with her and sleep in the same bed as her. He also said that she sleeps naked. He did say he wears pajamas so I wasn't really concerned about him being molested. At the same time he told me it made him feel weird so his father and I asked her about it and she denied it. This made me think there was a problem. It's one thing if you do it and don't see a problem with it, it's another if you deny it. Of course there was also the chance that he was lying. So I told him we had spoken to his mother and she said that she didn't sleep naked with him. He then told us that yes she did, and that she told him we were only trying to get her in trouble and if we asked or if the cops asked him that he should lie and say that she was wearing clothes. I have already spoken to the authorities, they told me that there is no law against his mother sleeping in the same bed as him naked if she is not molesting him, and he already told us that she doesn't touch him and he doesn't touch her. My concern is that she is telling him to lie about it, to me that says there is more going on than we know about. Am I just overreacting?

i disagree with it, i believe it causes dependency problems. im dealing with a similar situation with my daughter, she has always loved her own bed, own room and has always had it. now when staying with her mom, she doesnt even have the option of her own bed, but it is her mom, and obviously she loves her, and her mom is screwed in the head. and now my daughter is starting to have issues with going getting to sleep in her own bed. her mom is pushing her dependency problems on my daughter, and it creates a screwed up relationship that a screwed up parent can use to manipulate the child in multiple different ways. some of the stories i read are great stories, but you guys are talking about real, loving, caring parents with the childs best interest as 1 priority, thats not what im dealing with.

wow ur good moth to clean his penis my mom did the same for me we used to sleep naked also

Mom you are a useless pervert and your son is destined to be useless also if he can't wash his penis at age twelve. Imagine the thought of a Dad washing his twelve year old's vagina and then getting in bed with her. What a disgrace to parenting you are.