I'm in my late 20s. I masturbate a different way. On my stomach grinding into my hands with my boxers still on. Able to cum while its soft. Without realizing it seems it takes alot to get my penis hard then it used to. Ill wake up in the middle of the night of sleep and it will be hard, but not as hard as it use to be. I really cant traditionally masturbate to get it hard. Sometimes, when i'm relaxed at work thinking about certain girls it will get somewhat erect but not totally hard. All this makes me gunshy about females because i'm not confident that when the time comes that my penis wont get erect. messing with my head. i know much of this is mental.
anyone have any thoughts about how i can get improve my stimulation? is it a mental thing? is it a physical thing?
This is like the last big obstacle in my life I'm trying to break, so any help would do.
anyone have any thoughts about how i can get improve my stimulation? is it a mental thing? is it a physical thing?
This is like the last big obstacle in my life I'm trying to break, so any help would do.
Well, you have asked a couple of questions here.
First, you're asking if your style of masturbation has hurt your ability to become erect or will be a problem in the future.
No, it won't, provided that you don't obsess over it.
Second, you ask for tips on how to improve stimulation.
That's about mental conditioning and how you "treat" yourself. If you want to see larger reactions to mental stimuli, back off on the frequency. You'll find about ever two weeks, you'll be busting to come, if you haven't already. And the erections will come easier and harder, when you are rested and fully comfortable with bringing yourself to climax yourself... in a more traditional manner.
As for how you will respond with a woman in the future? That's between you and her, and impossible for me to predict, except that most men find they will be able to rise to the occasion when it presents itself. And those who don't maintain an erection for whatever reason the first time... find that they will the second time... as long as they don't obsess about it.
yes, your worst enemy is your fear and fixation upon this... worrying that it will be a problem. That will make it a problem. If you let it.
First, you're asking if your style of masturbation has hurt your ability to become erect or will be a problem in the future.
No, it won't, provided that you don't obsess over it.
Second, you ask for tips on how to improve stimulation.
That's about mental conditioning and how you "treat" yourself. If you want to see larger reactions to mental stimuli, back off on the frequency. You'll find about ever two weeks, you'll be busting to come, if you haven't already. And the erections will come easier and harder, when you are rested and fully comfortable with bringing yourself to climax yourself... in a more traditional manner.
As for how you will respond with a woman in the future? That's between you and her, and impossible for me to predict, except that most men find they will be able to rise to the occasion when it presents itself. And those who don't maintain an erection for whatever reason the first time... find that they will the second time... as long as they don't obsess about it.
yes, your worst enemy is your fear and fixation upon this... worrying that it will be a problem. That will make it a problem. If you let it.