Hey, I just needed some help in trying to figure why my girlfriend feels like a failure because everytime we try to have sex, lets just say it doesn't work. We've been dating for quite a few months now and I love her and hate to see her get so upset about this. I tell her that its no big deal but she is still upset. She is a virgin and keeps telling me that she is tight and I understand that, but I guess I just don't know what else to say or do. Anyone...any ideas?
You tried lubricant>? ?
You know, everytime I bring that up, she tells me that she's done. That shes sorry but she's tight and nothings getting in...Like I said, I don't find it that big of a deal but she's really pushing for it. But next time I'll mention the lube first.
Legend
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Hey,
Probably she’s scared about the first sexual experience. Some persons need more time to realize that this is just a simple natural process. Of course, you need to give your best to make this happen. You need to be gentle and kind. Don’t hesitate with this, just try to make her hot enough. She should relax and just think on a great sexual experience. Some persons have something to hide, and this could influence their first or every sexual intercourse. For men, this could be a small penis, and for women this could be large labia lips or intense vagina odor or similar.
Try to relax with her. Drink a glass of wine to relax ... Try easily to finger her vagina and to penetrate. Play around with her labia and then try to get in, but easily. Do not talk about lubricants, because it’s not natural and she’ll think only about that ...
I hope this will work! Let us know how was gone this time ... ;-)
Pseud0
Probably she’s scared about the first sexual experience. Some persons need more time to realize that this is just a simple natural process. Of course, you need to give your best to make this happen. You need to be gentle and kind. Don’t hesitate with this, just try to make her hot enough. She should relax and just think on a great sexual experience. Some persons have something to hide, and this could influence their first or every sexual intercourse. For men, this could be a small penis, and for women this could be large labia lips or intense vagina odor or similar.
Try to relax with her. Drink a glass of wine to relax ... Try easily to finger her vagina and to penetrate. Play around with her labia and then try to get in, but easily. Do not talk about lubricants, because it’s not natural and she’ll think only about that ...
I hope this will work! Let us know how was gone this time ... ;-)
Pseud0