I recently bought some condoms as I am planning a night in with my girlfriend this Valentines, and I decided to try them on to see how they fit. The answer? Not very well at all.
I'm assuming that these are the 'medium' sized ones which I hear are the most common, but they just won't fit on my penis. When applying it onto the head it takes some stretching to get it over (and I end up feeling suffocated) - but I have quite long foreskin and it is a hassle trying to roll it down while pinching the top, while pulling the foreskin back. As I do this, my foreskin just has a mind of its own and rolls straight back up, so I try to progress into rolling the condom down further (at this point I am about 1/3 way down my penis) and it just wont budge. I end up have to pull the sides of the condom to try and stretch it over but it's just too tight and I end up going limp pretty quick.
I'm not a heavily overweight guy, but when measuring my girth it comes back at 6.5inches whilst my length is just under 7inches. I'm not sure whether or not I may need to next size up...because I never thought I was 'that' big. I've had to tell my girlfriend that I can't promise anything for the night because of how hard it is to put on, and in the end how limp it makes me. I've tried a few brands now and they're all the same, and those which I tried last night had extra lube for more comfort - but I also dampened the neck a little just so I could try glide it on better. Even with them 'partially' on I try to masturbate but there is no sensation there, and I loose all my arousal.
We are both virgins, and she is quite tight so I don't know whether that will make it more difficult for me. I've suggested she should get the implant to make things a bit easier (or some other form of birth control) but she's not having any of it.
Does anybody have any advice? I was looking forward to time alone with my girlfriend, but at this rate nothing will happen.
Hi JJ,
You do have a large penis. You're longer than average and also much wider in girth.
Get a bigger size condom.
As to the foreskin it just takes practice to deal with it. Maybe she can help! Have her pull down on the shaft as you apply the condom.
Good luck.
Thanks Dan. By the way, if this is considered large then how would I go about dealing with my girlfriend? She's extremely tight (apparently), and I wouldn't want to cause her any pain if I am so wide, could it cause her any pain?
Cheers.
Yes it can cause her pain, especially the first time.
The key is patience. Don't think you're just going to go ramming your penis right in. Make sure she's really wet and consider using lube, like KY (water based!!!!). Then just go gently. Let her get used to you. You may not even get in all the way - that's OK. Just TALK to her. Ask her how it feels, if she's OK, and if she's ready for more. Don't assume. Good communications in bed makes for a great experience.
Sex, especially the first few times is a clumsy and awkward affair. Don't think it'll be like what you might have seen from porn.
She'll very likely be sore afterwards. That's normal. You're both just doing things you haven't before and the body needs time to adjust.
Good luck JJD.