Self -Love: The Details 

Different Strokes for Different Folks 

Once you become familiar with your lady parts, it’s time to go exploring. Masturbation is an effective way for you to find out what it is that arouses you. Some women prefer soft strokes and a slow rhythm, while others enjoy full-on direct pressure contact at a faster pace, and some women vary. Begin by using you fingers to stroke your vagina; try to determine which type of touch, pace and rhythm works best for you.

You may also want to experiment with a vibrator. Pay special attention to the area around the clitoris, as you may discover this to be a sweet spot. Use circular motions to explore this area, but be aware that direct contact to the clitoris may be intense. 

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The Clitoris 

The clitoris is the one and only body organ that is specially designed for sexual pleasure. The outer rim of the clitoris has thousands of sensitive nerve endings which make it ultra sensitive and very responsive to pleasure through touch. It is estimated that nearly 70 percent of all women respond to clitoral stimulation alone as a means to orgasm rather than actual intercourse. Many women think that the top or head of the clitoris is the only part because it is visible to the eye, but the clitoris extends beyond what you see and well into the vagina. The clitoris travels from the outer part of the vagina, inside under the vulva and surrounds the vaginal walls and the area known as the G-spot. Orgasms produced via clitoral and G-spot stimulation may feel different but they are in fact connected. [4]

The G-Spot 

The G-spot is that mythical little area inside of the vagina that you may have only dreamed of finding. Have no fear ladies, all women have one and finding it just takes a bit of patience. The G-spot is located in the upper vaginal wall, up towards the belly button; it is about 1 to 3 inches inside of the vagina. To find your G-spot, lie on your back, knees bent and legs spread apart. Gently insert one or two fingers, palm up. Run your fingers along the top wall of the vagina, on the underside of your stomach area. You will notice that the G-spot area has a different feel than the rest of the tissue surrounding it; it is rougher in texture and may be ruffled or puckered. Once you feel that area, apply a bit of pressure and use a “come hither” motion to stimulate it with your fingers. Once you have mastered the G-spot on your own, share the info with your partner for a mind-blowing orgasm.[5]

One of the most popular and effective tools for female masturbation is the vibrator. It is estimated that more than 50 percent of all ladies use a vibrator to achieve an orgasm and they started using it in their 20s.[6]  The vibrations provide a powerful source of stimulation for the clitoris and can make for an intense orgasm. Plastic-made vibrators tend to work best because the plastic is a good conductor for the buzzing vibes. Latest statistics claim that the sex toy industry rakes in $15 billion a year.[6]

Many Ways, Many Orgasms 

Sigmund Freud once suggested that there were only two types of orgasms, clitoral, according to him, purely adolescent, and a G-spot orgasm. Freud didn't provide any evidence for this assumption, however, the consequences of his theory were considerable: many women felt there is something wrong with them when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse alone.[4] 

The reality of life is, of course, different. The largest study conducted about female orgasm reports: 

• less than 20% of women report that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm [7],
• more than one-third of participants claim that clitoral stimulation was necessary for orgasm during intercourse [7]
• the same proportion indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed, their orgasms feel better if their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse [7]
• 10% of women never reach orgasm, but the majority of them would like to.[4] 

However, current experts believe that women can have not only orgasms from clitoral and G-spot stimulation, but they can also experience combination orgasms in which both areas are stimulated to the point of climax. Imagine, if you will, the toe-curling intensity of a combination orgasm. 

While masturbation may be taboo for some women, many of us see it as a healthy form of sexual expression. If it is your first attempt at self-pleasure, explore first and find out what works best for you and what doesn’t. If you already engage in masturbation, try some new things, and maybe even go for that combination orgasm. Most importantly, remember that masturbation is healthy and good for you.