Me and my fiancee get along fine, except when it come to romance. I just have no interest in having sex. Masterbation, and things by my self i enjoy, but not intercorse, and its dampering our relations. I want to, but i just lack desire. It just doesnt feel comfortible. he said it would over time, so we kept it up for a while, and still its just not interesting to me. Advice?
Exploring the sexual desires of your partner is a avery interesting subject. What needs to be done, is what is called, "Pillow Talk" before comitting to any mroe sex you two really need to sit down and talk to one another about what really turns you on so that you can both motivate each other sexually and not have a monotonous sexual relationship...
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Anal
Foreplay
Whips
Chains
Domination
Submission
Roleplay
what ever.... talk to one another and get turned on..
-Ze Eric
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Anal
Foreplay
Whips
Chains
Domination
Submission
Roleplay
what ever.... talk to one another and get turned on..
-Ze Eric
I agree with Ze Eric, but there is also the chance that you might be more interested in intercourse with women. Ze Eric's suggestions are right in the fact that different things can stimulate the body due to a physical appeal (eg the whips and chains) or a mental appeal (eg domination and submission). Foreplay is a great way to start most things off, and if that doesn't get you in the mood, then you're either doing it wrong, or just not into it. Taboo things such as homosexuality and the ilk can cause great stimulation for some people as it takes away or adds things to the relationship and could also help an understanding within ones-self (eg. the admiration of the female form).
Hopefully of some help,
Drew.
Hopefully of some help,
Drew.
We've talked about it, and it just seems like a chore i have to do once a week or so...Or once a month how its been going. I feel really bad, Im ..just not into it. I am fine by myself, porn is nice and all, so are toys, but i just dont have a desire for person to person sex. Far was women go, Er I dont know. Never had a relation with a woman seeing as my fiancee was my first BF , and ive been with him for 5 years now. We role-played tonight, and it seemed to have some effect, but mentally i dont think i was into it as much as i was acting. =/
First of all, ROMANCE and SEX are 2 different things, so get that our of your head. Second of all, I am the same way. I am 23 and have been with my hubby for coming on 6 years, married for 2, and I have never had a strong sexual desire. I was never boy crazy when I wan growing up, so I figure it is just the way I was wired. It sounds like it is something you will have to accept as well. I think many women have a problem with this because what we usually see on tv and movies are women with crazy-wild sex drives who easily orgasim, but the truth is that they are unrealistic and give both men and women the wrong idea about women's sex drive, as well as what is pleasurable to individual women, and orgasim. Try not to feel bad about it. The truth is that if you don't feel like doing anything, you don't feel like doing anything. Your fiance needs to accept that if you plan on having a lasting relationship together.
Communication is one of the keys to a happy and successful relationship.
I think you should talk to him about it and stop masterbating.
I think you should talk to him about it and stop masterbating.