Hello.
ok i have looked at other posted questions on this site, looking for a case like mine. There are plenty of other guys with erectile disfunction, but none with a problem like mine. I have been with the girl of my dreams for a few years now. Right from the beginning of our relationship I have been able to get an erection immediately. I still do with ease, every time. Im sure the problem is psychological, because i lose my erection immediately when i go to put a condom on. im not sure why, but then i get stressed about it and it cant come back. then the next time we go to have sex, I can get an erection right away during foreplay, but then we are about to have sex and I remember the last time, and how embarrassed I was, and that makes it happen again!! Then I think about it the next time too!! I try so hard not to think about it, but in trying not to think about it, its the same as thinking about it! PLEASE someone tell me how to get over this!!!!!!!! thank you
ok i have looked at other posted questions on this site, looking for a case like mine. There are plenty of other guys with erectile disfunction, but none with a problem like mine. I have been with the girl of my dreams for a few years now. Right from the beginning of our relationship I have been able to get an erection immediately. I still do with ease, every time. Im sure the problem is psychological, because i lose my erection immediately when i go to put a condom on. im not sure why, but then i get stressed about it and it cant come back. then the next time we go to have sex, I can get an erection right away during foreplay, but then we are about to have sex and I remember the last time, and how embarrassed I was, and that makes it happen again!! Then I think about it the next time too!! I try so hard not to think about it, but in trying not to think about it, its the same as thinking about it! PLEASE someone tell me how to get over this!!!!!!!! thank you
Well I'm not sure if you would take my advice as similar to yours considering I'm a woman, but I kinda know how you feel. It's always been really hard and time consuming for me to climax. Also, I can't seem to climax through sexual intercourse, and it's really hard for me to even do it threw clitoral stimulation. And all this time I've been self conscious and wondering why can't I make this happened. I'm only 21. I've been with my bf for a couple of years now and we adore and love each other to the fullest. For awhile when we'd have sex he'd ask, "I can feel you squeezing onto me, but why can't you cum?". For awhile he thought it was his fault, so I explained, that ever since I was sexually active I've noticed it too. That I just couldn't do it. I felt like I could, but I could never reach the peak. I can't even cum with my hands or my toys. Only threw clitoral stimulation. And a couple of times we'd even stop having sex because I would get so frustrated with myself and just lose all interest. And it would happen a lot cause I would constantly think about it, like you said, and trying not to think about it is the same thing as thinking about it. So me and him had a talk about it. He would tell me not to be self conscious about it, and that I could do it if I wanted and one day that I would. And that he didn't like having sex with me any less than before because of it. That he just wished I would relax more coming into the bed. Blah blah blah, but basically what I'm trying to say is, if you and this girl love each other, or really care for one another, that there's always trust and support and understanding to make the psychological part about it take it easy on you physically. Ever since then I've been way more relaxed about it. Coming into the bedroom I've felt sexier and more attractive that he didn't make judgment upon my situation. Makes it a lot more fun. Being completely comfortable about it with your partner is key. Maybe if you talk about it with her, she can understand a little better how it makes you feels, and she can encourage the situation. I still can cum through sexual intercourse, but it doesn't bother me anymore and I can cum normally through clitoral stimulation now, it doesn't take centuries for me to climax anymore. It just cums natural. Try different things, explore your sexuality a little more. Try somethings outside the comfort zone and it'll open up a whole new world and bond between you and your partner. Just have fun. Sex isn't suppose to put the pressure on. And I'm sorri if this was way long and didn't help any, but communication and understanding is key in making you comfortable with yourself and your partner. -Jill