5 months pregnant, and 16 years old.

First, know that it is okay for your friends not to feel the way you do. Just let them know it is okay, but ask them to keep it to themselves and just be supportive of you at this time. Let them know that you need them and you know you can count on them to listen.

As for the other guy and other kids at your school....

You are now entering adulthood early. You will soon be a parent and must be able to handle these situations. As and adult one knows that it does not matter what others say or think, as long as you do what is best for you and your family. Hold your head high and have confidence. If you have confidence in yourself others will too.

As a teen mother, I am going to respond to this. I was 16 when I got pregnant, my daughter s now 14 years old and the light of my life. As a teen mother you are just entering the issues you are going to face, and I hope that you sincerely have a support group to stand behind you. That you have family and at least close friends who are there for you. It is extremely hard having a child at your age, and I sincerely hope you did not get pregnant intentionally.

As for what your friends believe... a lot of people feel that way, however on my Baby Shower cake there was a beautiful statement my mother had added "Babies are a celebration of life" and it is simply that, do not feel bad because you are now happy you are pregnant. The days of making choices of what to do about being pregnant are behind you now, and if you have accepted the responsibility of being the sole provider for your baby, and to live up to your responsibility without taking it out on the child, then more power to you. Remember, you are now entering adult hood at a pace that is mostly break neck speed. The best things you can do for your baby is to get a complete education, and it is very hard to do while trying to provide for that baby, but if you accomplish anything in your life finish high school with an actual diplomia and finish college. I wasn't able to finish college, and 14 years later, it is one of the biggest things that has not only held me back professionally but emotionally. I haven't been able to provide for my children as I wish I could have, dispite how hard I have tried, or how many jobs I have had (3 at one time in fact).

As for the boy... people are going to talk, and there is nothing you can do. People are going to create rumors and a majority of people are going to believe them. This is another part of life. You however have to be like a duck in the water, let it bead and roll off you. Who cares what others think? As long as you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, and you are living up to the responsibility that you have created and chosen to take on, then so be it. All that boy is doing is showing people who he really is, and if your friends dare believe a rumor over what they know for fact, then they weren't friends to begin with.

You are going to find these things a lot. You are going to find that a majority of your friends are going to abandon you. You are going to miss out on a lot of things that teenagers your age (and the ages you are going to come to) usually do. Also, remember, all parents fail their children in some way or another. It is the type of failure that you need to worry about (abuse or neglect is unacceptable), but when you realize that you have done the best you can with the resources you've got, then you have been more of a success than you ever thought.

Take one day at a time, and if you ever need anyone to talk to let me know. I will pass my e-mail on to you, so you have someone to talk to about things, who has been in your situation before.

You shouldn't let it get to you so much. The people who matter don't mind and the people who mind don't matter. I'm 17 years old and have a son who is a year and a half now. I gave birth to him 3 months before my 16 birthday. The whole time I was pregnant I had rumors going around about me. Mainly they all had their ideas of who the daddy was. Still to this day I have people bring that up. I used to let it get to me and make me upset but now I realize that they don't matter to me. You need to talk to your friends. It's hard for them to understand how you feel because they themselves have never been in the situation you are. It's good you are excited about it because I know I wasn't. In fact, I didn't tell anyone until I was really far along. I mean most people knew or had a hunch. After you talk to your friends then maybe they will realize just how much you need them right now. If they can't be supportive then they obviously aren't worth your time and never really were your friends. As for the rumors, people are gonna say what they wanna say and sometimes you just have to deal with it. The best thing to do is to keep your head up and ignore it because they would love to see you fall. Just keep thinking positive. Being a mother is the hardest job there is but it's also the most wonderful one out there. You should try your best to get yourself through college and get a fantastic job and then you can go back to the town you live in and rub it in everyone who ever said anything about you's face! Becoming a mother also makes you much mature than everyone else. I used to go out and hang with my friends all the time now I barely talk to any of them because none of them understand what I'm going through. They love the baby but they see him as kind of a drag because I can't do all of the things I used to. That could possibly happen to you but you realize that as long as you have your baby you don't need anyone else.

Well sorry this is so long and I don't know if it will help you any but I want to say Congratulations and Good Luck. I really hope you have some help from parents or something. My parents help me alot. I know I wouldn't be able to do it without them. I hope everything works out for you!

First of all congratualations.
Don't let anyone try to make you feel ashamed of having a baby. I'm 17 and pregnant with my first child and couldn't be happier about it. My stepmom has tried to tell me that I should be ashamed and that it's wrong. But it all goes to, that baby isn't going to care how old it's mother is, as long as it gets the love and attention it needs, that baby will be happy. Furthermore, if they get you to feel ashamed now, you're going to resent that child when it's born. Post Partum Depression. It's so much better to just be happy with what life decides to throw at you. A baby doesn't ruin your life blahblah, no matter what people tell you. Sure it changes it, but I guarantee when you look at the precious baby every day for the rest of your life you won't regret it one bit. Your friends aren't always going to be there, but that child will.

I'm 17 and pregnant with my first and everyone keeps tellings me I should be ashamed and not happy about it but I don't care how old you are,if you are have a kidyou are gonna be excited about it and when my friends give me a hard time about it I just tell them that I'm not excited about the timeing or the whole situation but I am excited about haveing my baby. Congratulations and good luck!