Hi im 14 and Ive never had my first kiss but i was fingered for the first time yesterday , am I too young for that !!
Oh dear. Giving a guy access to -that- part of you, before you kiss...can leave you feeling pretty lost. Rush rush rush. You get so excited that you are getting attention from a boy, that you let him take the lead on where and how fast your sex life goes. Dont let that happen! You deserve to feel like your first encounters were romantic, consensual, and not rushed. (Sex stuff CAN be weird, but in the beginning, if you want it to be slow and sweet, then DO that!)
Practice saying kindly "Gosh, I'm not ready for that", "This is hot, but I feel rushed. I dont want to do this tonight. I would be interested in Making out with you though, if you want to kiss me!" If he's pushy, then there's nothing wrong with pushing him away from you and speaking up. DO THAT. Dont let ANYONE ever get pushy with you when it comes to your sex life. That's not the norm hun, and I know this is all new to you. I dont blame you for wondering why you dont feel psyched. You should slow down. That boy doesnt know what he's doing- and knows probably way less than you do about what kind of regrets you might both have later. It didnt feel "right", because it is indeed, unusual, and unromantic to skip kissing, skip "dry humping", skip everything- and let him go right in there. If I remember correctly, it makes you feel more like a social/science experiement than a romantic interest! There's no rush honey! This guy might not see you romantically, and just wants to get busy with some hot girl parts. (sorry, but true). Go find a sweet boy, who is a nervous as you are, work your way up to a kiss on a porch swing or something, enjoy that for a few weeks. And remember, if you DO end up having mouth-to privates, or privates-to-privates contact. USE PROTECTION! Good. Girl. ;)
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If you enjoyed it, then dont feel to bad about it. After all it's not like you gave him your virginity, you just fooled around. If you dont feel comfortable just say so, but if not, have fun