My girlfriend and I of four years are frikkin finally going to try anal shes scared. what will relax her ? I'm really excited and want to try.
I think you're wrong to force that on her. There are plenty of gay men who'd love to have that, why force it on your gf, who obviously doesn't want it?
My prediction: she won't be your gf for much longer.
Saying to her, "thanks for agreeing to have anal sex with me but I realise you are really scared and don't really want to. I respect that and don't want to make you do something you don't want to do. I love and respect you too much for that so we won't do it". Man up and grow up and realise that you both have to want this or it shouldb't happen. She has very real fears. Rather than putting pressure on her to do something she is not into listen to her and respect her wishes. How would you feel if she insisted in f&*%*%g you anally with a strap on? if you are not willing to go there respect her and don't pressure her. And even if you are, she isn't so leave her alone. Anal sex is not your right. I have nothing against anal sex. I'm a woman and love it. I do have a problem with boys who think they have a right to coerce their unwilling partners into it. Life goes on without anal sex. If you care about her you won't pressure her.