Hi there,I completely understand what your going through.I am 52 year old woman and have been in the same relationship with a 46 year old alchoholic.He was constantly accusing me of cheating on him with anyone and everyone.The most mental abuse I have ever suffered in my life,I think he got off on making me feel like garbage.But I understand how you feel,I too mourn the loss.We all want someone in our life,I lost my husband to cancer 3 years ago.So lonely at times...better to be alone than to be costantly belittled....
Wow...This really hit home. Thank you!
I understand what you are going through. I didn't realize how bad my boyfriend was until we moved in together. He has accused me of cheating for no reason. He has degraded me and says horrible things to me and now my nine year old son. My problem is where to live. This is my home and also how he will react if I try to leave. My life feels like a nightmare based around his needs. He is selfish and always blames everyone else other than him. I have given up hope on him ever getting better. I don't even drink myself anymore. I can't stand drinking just by watching him.
You took the words right out of my mouth. Ditto and this is my 2nd time and my last. Moving on is the healthiest way to be whole.
It is so terrible to go through this. I hope you are doing better now. I can't take it anymore. It's been 4 years and I'm depressed and miserable. I get severe anxiety when my boyfriend drinks, fearing what will happen to me when he comes home.
Wow, you really put things in perspective for me. Gotta get him out of my house and life.
I am in the same situation, It hurts so bad and the thought of him with someone else brings me to my knees, I know it's because I hold on to all the amazing times spent with him and I thought we were tangled up together forever just he and I we always drank together and laughed through the night ending with amazing love making but as months passed he began to be so verbally abusive and then physically abusive what happened my faith in God is the only thing that I know will get me over this and look back and go wow I really let someone treat me that way I can't wait to feel that way
Reading these posts is like my life exactly. Mine just dumped me for someone else and says it's my fault. The emotional and verbal abuse has me so damaged that I'm in therapy now. Everything yall have been thru is exactly what I have. I'm glad I'm not alone because he made me feel like I was the one with a problem. He still has power over me and he's not even around.
WOW...you took the exact words right out of my mouth!! What a horrible disease this alcoholism is and how unfortunate to have become familiar with it. After a four-year relationship with an alcoholic, I finally have stood by my convictions, and am following through with our agreement. If we were not getting along by the end 2015, or sooner, or if he had started drinking again (I'm fairly certain he never stopped), I would end it and move on. I have run the gamut on how to handle his drinking bouts, from attending the family program for rehab, to being very supportive to all-time threats, but to of no avail and I always took him back. But now I have exhausted all avenues, or rather exhausted myself, and not only need to move on, but want to move on. I also realized that something was wrong with me and why I felt the need to deal with his issue. He chose to drink, yet I chose to go along with it whether unwillingly or unknowingly. I cannot place all blame on him, but place part on me for allowing the behavior to continue on in my life as long as I did. I empathize with everyone who has to deal with the alcoholic and wish the best to all.
It's completely like I just wrote this. I was like reading about my relationship with an alcoholic who has a personality disorder. I am speechless...
Me too, it hurts so much but it hurts so much more to try and leave. Hes my best friend and we have so much fun, reading these posts have made me realise im not on my own, i cry everyday because of his drink/drug abuse. It was only recently that i even realised i am in a mentally abusive relationship. I dont want to leave him. Help :'(
What you decscibed is exactly my situation!!!! Our 2 yr anniversary was Dec 13 2015. I'm so tired of the constant drama! When it's good, it's like a dream come true. When it's bad, it's my worst nightmare!! I love him so much and I always take him back, he's so persuasive and makes me feel so bad for him, and I want to believe he will get better. He is trying, goes to AA meeting, talks with a shrink! He is and airline pilot and never drinks, always holds it together for work (when it's not an option, he isn't temped at all) which is making me very resentful!!! Makes me feel like I'm not as important as his work! I've told him over and over, one more time and I'm leaving, which I never do! I've been praying all day for God to help me have the strength to move forward and never turn back!!! I feel so defeated, but I recognize he has to do this for him, I'm sick of begging/threatening! I wanted to share, your story resonated within me!
Cheers and I hope you are well and happy
Cheers and I hope you are well and happy
I don't know who you are Giglio and I know this post was a while ago but thank you thank you thank you for this - I know completely to stick to my guns now - if you can do this I know I can! You are me and I am you thank you so much
That's horrible I hope u are ok
Hi there, I'm not sure if you'll ever see this reply but I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart about what you have written, your words are life changing for me. It has been 4 months since I walked away from my fiance whom is an alcoholic, I love her with everything in me however I can no longer watch her slowly kill herself as well as destroy my child and I. I have witnessed what has happened to her children who are older 21,20, 16, 14..they have ni respect for her, are into drugs and alcohol, cuss her out daily, I have been lied to, cheated on, blamed, disrespected, emotionally and verbally abused and yet I was still contemplating if I had made the right decision...at this time I am not able to detach with love as I have this frustration and anger still going on, after reading your reply it has been a breath of fresh air...Thank you so much..God Bless