I have just turned 14 and i cant seem to ejaculate when masturbating. I started going through puberty pretty early. I get an erection and precum but cant seem to fully ejaculate and have an orgasm. I can ejaculate and have an orgasm while masturbating against a pillow or humping it but cant get anything when masturbating and watching porn. I am scared that when my girlfriend will want to give me head or hand sometime i will not be able to ejaculate. Is there any way i can fix this?
Hi Anon,
Not all guys can ejaculate using the "up and down" motion. Many hump pillows, as you do, to ejaculate. It's NORMAL. Everyone is different. You are NORMAL.
Since you can ejaculate, there is NO problem. I urge you NOT to worry about it when you are with your girlfriend as anxiety can make the situation worse.
Don't compare solo masturbation to that with someone else. Odds are if your girl masturbates you that you'll ejaculate.
It's a different level of arousal as you'll find out.
Hope it helps.
There are many dfferent ways for boys and men to masturbate. They are fine provded they do no injury. When I watch porn I often see movements being used that are not the same as my own, not that I always use the same one! Some movements do not work on circumsised penises, for instance. When I was 14 I would make a ring with my thumb and forefinger and thrust into that. Later, when I was 18 or so I'd put an oiled plastic bag on my penis, put that between two pillows and hump that. Later on I discovered vibrators and the interesting feelings in my anus. I can still orgasm very quickly by running a vibrator up and down my shaft.
As you get older you should start to experiment more with your methods of masturbation & when you aquire a partner you will find they use different ways to get you to orgasm and ejaculate.
In the meantime you will find it worthwhile experimenting to find out exactly what you like!