I masturbate average twice or three times a week. But Ive never cum. I cant, i have to stop. Its not vaginal penetration, its clitoris stimulation. I must be doing it wrong, because i rub my clit and such until its so bad i have to pull away and let my body relax. I dont understand it. Ive had boyfriends and I have the same problem, i dont tell them because i try to fake it before i rlly get into it. so i dont know if its just me or what...Help? is it normal? what can i do?
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Many women have this complaint, that direct clitoral stimulation is too intense.
There are a couple of things you could try.
Try less direct contact with the clitoris. That is, rub, stroke or vibrate the areas immediately surrounding the clitoris, and see if that doesn't provide less intense stimulation.
I wouldn't recommend that you continue to fake orgasms with your partners, as this could produce suspicion and mis-communication with them as to what you like and prefer. Perhaps you DON'T want to climax. Perhaps you don't want direct stimulation. That's OK. The important thing is that you feel comfortable enough with them to let them know what you DO want...and when you don't need any more.
Finally, (and I realize this goes against what I just said) have you considered that the highened sensitivity that you are experiencing might either: 1) be just a little short of reaching an orgasm, or 2) might be the highened sensation that comes after an orgasm?
Only you can answer these questions. I hesitate to suggest that you continue your self-stimulation to the point of pain. If it hurts, don't do it. But consider other means of reaching this level of excitment and perhaps an orgasm will occur.
Ladies, any other suggestions for her?
There are a couple of things you could try.
Try less direct contact with the clitoris. That is, rub, stroke or vibrate the areas immediately surrounding the clitoris, and see if that doesn't provide less intense stimulation.
I wouldn't recommend that you continue to fake orgasms with your partners, as this could produce suspicion and mis-communication with them as to what you like and prefer. Perhaps you DON'T want to climax. Perhaps you don't want direct stimulation. That's OK. The important thing is that you feel comfortable enough with them to let them know what you DO want...and when you don't need any more.
Finally, (and I realize this goes against what I just said) have you considered that the highened sensitivity that you are experiencing might either: 1) be just a little short of reaching an orgasm, or 2) might be the highened sensation that comes after an orgasm?
Only you can answer these questions. I hesitate to suggest that you continue your self-stimulation to the point of pain. If it hurts, don't do it. But consider other means of reaching this level of excitment and perhaps an orgasm will occur.
Ladies, any other suggestions for her?
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Might i suggest a battery operated toothbrush, the flip side obviously (or whatever :-S ) You will have ability to lay the vibrating head along the side of the clitoris, sort of against the labia majora, but still putting slight pressure on the clitoris. As you start to build toward a climax you will be able to lighten the pressure of the head of the brush letting you build up to a slow orgasm. Then when your just about to cum, place the head of the brush almost directly on your clitoris. Yeow..........sigh :-)
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Thank you, thank you.....Hey Kirk, how the heck are you? Where have you been hideing? Hope you hand around a while, you keep going MIA on us, you devil you :-S
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