Did it help?!?!?!?!
I am the same, never orgasming from intercourse and taking 30 mins of oral or strong finger stimulation to come, but found a solution that works for me. I was recommended and bought a Womanizer toy. It rapidly suckes on the clit and the results are very quick in coming, sensational and rapidly repeatable. Its so liberating to just decide I want an orgasm and to have it within 2 minutes tops. Multiple orgasms were a dream now they are a daily reality. OK it can't sort the intercourse issue as using it during sex is a non starter but who care as I can get off easily in foreplay with the toy, enjoy being enjoyed by my man and can then have several climaxes after he comes and before he is ready for me again. The toy is all but magic.
I dont think my girlfriend has a clit I can't fing it
Wow!! My heart goes out to you!! But I am so happy you have gotten to experience it.. I had that issue up until my 30's then I met a man that blew my mind sexually.. I had already had 4 children..no orgasms.. but once I got one.. I was hooked!! Congratulations & hoping you are coming every time you have sex.. you deserve it!!..