I am 18 years old and still a virgin. I know that sounds strange these days, when 15 years old girls have sex. I know I must sound strange saying I cannot see any reason to loose my virginity. With my boyfriend, I have great relationship full of understanding and he told me he would wait when I am ready. I would like to hear if anyone could explain why some girls want to lose virginity so early.
I can tell you many reasons and causes why girls lose their virginity. First and the best reason are when they love boyfriend and feels sex will make their relationship even better. That is the only right and recommended cause. Unfortunately, that is rare to find these days. Nowadays, boyfriend will leave girl if she does not wants to have sex, which is sad to hear. Then, someone wants to do it because she is curious how it feels like to have a sex. There are medical causes when is recommended to lose virginity, when hymen is imperforated for passing of menstruation blood. Rape and accidence are rare, but anyway present causes why some girl could lose her virginity. I can tell you not to hurry with this; you can do it all your life. Sex will be much better when you and your body are ready, so make the only cause of your virginity loosing love to your boyfriend.
Honestly most girls do it because everyone around them is doing it but some girl with self-repect choose to wait for an appropriate age. I always wanted to be out of high school before I lost my verginity, so I didn't have a BF for 3 yrs, but then I met my now boyfriend, and after 4 months we started to get intimate. All Im trying to say is that there no rush when it comes to having sex, just make sure that when you do, It's with someone you trust and respects when your ready.
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Leilani
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Leilani
Hey girls. I would just like to tell you all that it's an optional thing, and it depends only on yourself and comprehension of yourself as a woman. You shouldn't allow yourself to be rushed into it, and should only do it when you feel to. Losing virginity is not something easy to do, or to accept. I think that it has to be meaningful, and not something you should give away to the first guy who comes along. So, I suggest you that you wait for a bit more, because, if he is the one, he will eventually understand.
i want to know if i have lose my virginity?my bf fingered me a lot of times, somtimes its very painful after?just recently we have a little penetration, he didnt really put his penis inside...i didnt bleed at all. so i want if am still a virgin or not?
Its good that you don't feel pressured. I think one should only have sex with the person they are in love with and are attracted to also. By waiting you get to realize these feelings but also learn that your partner feels the same. 15 year old girls are pressured by their friends and boyfriends, often told that it's 'cool'. They also believe it will make them an adult or that it's rebellious. More often then not, I believe that they have something lacking in their lives; they crave the attention and believe sex=love. This is also a response to the emotinal changes due to hormonal changes that occur at that age.
By waiting till your ready (not till you hit a certain age!!) you choose to do this act from your heart not from impulse or pressure and it's much more special (even if it doesn't go Hollywood-style)!! In the real world, sex is not how they show on tv - not every woman is completely promiscuous or think sex is just about personal pleasure. There are those who don't mind one night stands and there are plenty who prefer closer intimacy. Personally, I think sex is too much of a social rite of passage and should be kept between two loving people and not the playground.
By waiting till your ready (not till you hit a certain age!!) you choose to do this act from your heart not from impulse or pressure and it's much more special (even if it doesn't go Hollywood-style)!! In the real world, sex is not how they show on tv - not every woman is completely promiscuous or think sex is just about personal pleasure. There are those who don't mind one night stands and there are plenty who prefer closer intimacy. Personally, I think sex is too much of a social rite of passage and should be kept between two loving people and not the playground.
i'm 17 and in a very similar sounding relationship. my boyfriend told me he would wait, and he held to it. sometimes it was obvious that he had to hold himself back, but he did it until i was ready.
prior to losing my virginity, i wasn't sure if it was a wise idea because many girls do give in to keep the guy around. but in reality, that's not how it works. if you don't give in, you're a prude, and if you do give in, you're a w****. girls don't realize that they have the right to respect, and if the guy they're with isn't supplying it, they don't have to put up with it. anyways, my point is girls give in because they think they have to. their friends are doing it, so something's wrong with them if they don't do it too. it's a status. that's all.
prior to losing my virginity, i wasn't sure if it was a wise idea because many girls do give in to keep the guy around. but in reality, that's not how it works. if you don't give in, you're a prude, and if you do give in, you're a w****. girls don't realize that they have the right to respect, and if the guy they're with isn't supplying it, they don't have to put up with it. anyways, my point is girls give in because they think they have to. their friends are doing it, so something's wrong with them if they don't do it too. it's a status. that's all.
Personally I am 17. And I am still a virgin. I am only a virgin cause I am anti-social for the most part. And I am not a believer in God, so that has no role in why I am still a virgin. I am a picky individual. And I do not believe in conformity.
I disagree to those girls who agrees to have sex with their boyfriends at the age like 15-16, even if I am a boy and I am 21.
I had a girl friend, and I loved her a lot, I still do but we broke up, I was preparing for my masters n went to USA, me and my girl friend were so much emotionally attached to each other that she asked to to have sex with me, she was not a virgin, she lost her virginity at 17 to a 24 year old guy who was her bf then, then they broke up for some strange reason, then she recently had a boy friend, they went into relationship within 10 days of first meet and damn, they had sex for like a month, daily, and then that boy dumped her, i can say he used her, and then I met her.
Our relationship lasted for 6months but during that time, she was the one who was insisting to have sex, so the question arises is that will she ever be able to look at her self in the with proud that she slept with 3 different guys and had sex with all of 'em?
and what matters the most is this kinda thing can cause lot of probs, mainly if ever her future bf know abt her not being virgin and had sex with 3 guys, will her accept her? will anyone accept her? well, I live in India and I do believe in some good ethics that a girl sud have control over her self. I had control over my self and I strictly said no to her for sex 'cause i was afraid what if probs arise and we break up? and it happened actually, and I can not sleep at night because I wanted to marry that girl...
So please girls, don't make your life miserable by having sex at early age, look for the prefect age and most importantly the perfect partner whom you wanna spend the rest of ur life with!
rightly said.. its true and indeed a point that GIRLS today need to make a note of.
well I am a med student just graduated. Seen all your comments and the excitement of the youth. I am going to be 27 this oct and will be graduating by the end of this year. I have never been into bed with anyone. Yes firstly the religious limitation of being into extramarital relation secondly i have always expected it to happen with someone i really love. So i decided to wait till i finish my med school. Now i have been forced by my family to get married to one of my childhood friend. She is always interested in me since college and is now studying astrology. Now as the time is coming close, my over expected and over rated fantasy is turning into anxiety and fear of having a totally differebt result.
what their answer about wat u asking
like your reasoning.
yeah true.. give yourself to the one you truly love., the right guy/girl, whom to be with forever.. destiny
I want to knw i m virgin or not.. my Love had fingured me a lot of times its hard &smetyms painful.. do i hve my virginity ??