Hi, I'm 16 years old and had labiaplasty last Wednesday - 28th November.The first few days I was perfectly fine, the third day I woke up with pain and a cold, but painkillers helped a lot with that. On Monday 3rd Dec I woke up and went to the toilet to have a wee - as soon as I started weeing it stung so much! I just stopped and went downstairs, made myself a drink of water and went to take a painkiller... and passed out. I went to the Doctors and she took a look for me - she said it was healing fine and to pee in the shower. Peeing in the shower made no difference, it still stung SO MUCH! And I don't mean stinging like a water infection, it was much much worse than this. So Tuesday 4th (The next day) i went back to the doctors, I was given antibiotics for a water infection (although I was pretty sure it wasnt an infection) and told to pee in the bath, yes I know lol!. The antibiotics have made no difference, peeing in the bath is easier than on the toilet or in the shower, but it still hurts so much. For example, this evening at 8pm I ran myself a cool bath. I sat in and tried to pee, it was EXCRUCIATING!!! I have to pee in little bits, I can't just sit there and pee. I was in the bath for 2 hours, crying my eyes out. Has anyone experienced anything like this? Please please help me, I'm really scared and feel I have little/no support at all. I'm worried somethings gone wrong. Thanks!!!
Hi Sue, sorry I haven't been on in ages, I actually have a phone consultation with Dr Alter next week, I won't have the money to do anything this year but I am hoping he can make me look sort of normal when I do save the money to see him, I have been living a miserable existence since I got this done, I just want my life back, hopefully he can perform a miracle.
They key to a good labiaplasty surgery is choosing the right doctor. I saw Dr Alter but had surgery with Dr John Di Saia in nearby Orange County. He does a modified wedge surgery and I am thrilled with a pretty and happily functional set of lips after surgery. Dr Alter is well known but Dr D was about half the price with awesome online reviews. Something to consider and good luck to you. :)
It is a pretty awful surgery in some ways. You can think of it as voluntary FGM. If you think you will enjoy much about sex without your labia minora etc. Then you are wrong. I don't ever want to be intimate anymore or bother dating. There is really no point, sex is pretty ruined. So if you care about your nerve endings like don't get them all amputated!
I feel terrible for the women here who have pursued this surgery and had such awful results. For all the research and preparation everyone does, it still seems to be a crapshoot in the end. I'm glad women are speaking up and warning other women about how, sadly, things can and do go wrong. I'm so sorry to hear that sex is ruined for you. Is a reconstruction possible? And I don't ask that flippantly. I'm sure more surgery is not on your short list of fun things to do.
I agree with you, it's pretty much voluntary FGM. It really is. And you are right about needing the labia minora, etc to enjoy sex. I read in a post somewhere on this site, from a woman who had a botched job, that considering the role the inner labia play in female sexual function, there is no way that this should ever be considered a surgery that will have no ill effects on sensation and response. Which is what the docs seem to tell women--that it won't hurt your sensation and your sex life, and it may even help! How? How can severing and cutting off nerve endings possibly help? How can disconnecting the labia from the clitoris improve sex? How can adding scar tissue to the area make it more enjoyable? Makes no sense whatsoever. There are just too many of these unhappy stories coming out. It's sad and wrong.
I have large, thick inner labia that I feel very happy to have, and frankly, I feel like I dodged a bullet. I'm sure to the plastic surgeons that I am the perfect candidate for surgery. But I've never wanted to have them reduced. My experiences going thru puberty and in my teen years added up to me being comfortable with my large lips, and I know that I am very lucky in that regard. It could have gone the other way, and then I'd be seeking surgery. Women need to hear more about how the labia affects sex and pleasure, and less about how it looks. That's one of the things that helped me. My aunt saw me change into a swimsuit when I was about 12, and being the outspoken, caring woman that she was, proceeded to tell me how lucky I was, all the positive ways large inner lips impact sex (burned my virgin ears!), and to never feel embarrassed or ashamed of them, as she had been about her own when she was younger. From there, having to deal with the occasional pinching in my swimsuit; or wearing a leotard for gymnastics or dance class, and knowing the other girls probably could figure out what I had if they looked while I was practicing (but also knowing some of them surely looked like me); or (much later) having to part my lips to allow a lover access inside, or whatever issue came up, was no big deal. I've also been lucky that I've never had physical discomfort in horseback riding, or in just having them at all, which I've read many women seem to have.
I'll stop my rambling. I sorry that the surgery is causing complications for even one woman. I can't imagine what it must be like, to seek the surgery and end up even more unhappy.
I agree with you 100%--it is not the appearance, but the sensation for the owner and her partner that counts the most! That's what's most important...how it feels, how it works. I am not a man, but if you look around this site, you'll see plenty of men stating that they love, love, love how fleshy, meaty labia feel during sex, and many also state they love how it looks. Seriously, some practically wax poetic about it.
As for your boyfriend, are you saying that large lips are new for him, or that he thinks (wrongly) that there is something wrong? Educate him, if you can. Large labia are normal and common (and according to many men, a gift from above!).
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I had the same! I'm from Poland, u can contact me
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Voluntary FGM? I had the procedure by a very experienced doctor in Southern California US and couldn't be happier. This can be a good thing. You people always just look at the bad.
Please say who did your surgery if possible or how you checked out the reputations of surgeons who do this op. Thank you.
Hello, are you in Ottawa, Ontario. If yes and you got your surgery done, could I ask you some questions?
So I just had this surgery done on 4/15/15. A week ago. My results so far seem better than before. Two days later I went tto work in a restaurant and it was unbearable to I had to take the next couple of days off. The doctor said no anal sex for six weeks no anal or vaginal sex. But, I couldn't wait and five days after the surgery I had sex with my bf. Unfortunately, I should have asked google before I did and not afterward. I read that it could cause trauma to the vagina even if you have anal. And on top of that my is black and has a huge penis. Soooo I hope and I pray that there is no trauma done. Im so paranoid. I have an appointment tomo morning though with my surgeeon so hopefully he will look at it and notthing will be wrong. Im not planning on telling him I had anal unless he can tell on his own. I see some bruising down there but I am hoping thats from the surgery and not the anal sex. I am super paranoid rn. But I will let u all know if this caused trauma tomo if my doctor asks me about it. Most of the swelling has gone done just the middle inside of my lips still seem a little swollen. The outside lips were super swollen but have gone almost completely down. the pain is bearable, it hurts but Im not gna die. I still have sensation in my clit ive rubbed it gently and it feels amazing. And I have been icing it alot even tho they said to only ice the first day or two. And I have also been taking epsom salt baths.
Ok I went to that appointment today with my surgeon and he checked everything out for me. I didn't tell him that I had anal sex. But he said everything is looking as it should and that I am healing well. So thank God that anal sex didnt cause any damage to me. I had the surgery done last wednesday and then on Monday I had the anal sex. My bf went really slow tho it was a long process of even just getting his penis in my ass. And then he went slow on top of that. Everything is ok tho ladies.