cramping, nausea, and more after a miscarriage

i had a miscarriage a little over 2 months ago, and i am still going through hormonal upheavals and weight gain, in addition to nausea and exhaustion. i'm never nauseous, so i knew when i was pregnant because i felt like i was going to puke over 90% of the time. i still get waves of nausea, even though i'm not pregnant. i think it's just hormones that still want me to be pregnant so they're running amok! =)

i miscarried four weeks ago and I already had my period as of the third week and I still have it alittle. I too have dizziness, headaches, tiredness (all the time I want to sleep), nausea, bloated. I think it's a mix of hormones changing, and some depression from the loss. I had the doctor check for pregnancy and they said I wasn't. I'm confused about it all and the doctor didn't offer much advice.

i miscarried two weeks ago, i was about 5 weeks pregnant.
feeling mild nausea, a little dizziness too.
a bit of acne, but not much. i hope i get my period soon (i think its on its way, i can feel it) then my cycle can settle a bit.

I had a mc on the 17th of Jan. its Feb 13th now. I didnt even know that I was pregnant untill after I mc'ed. I thought it was my period but it was so heavy and lasted 11 days. I took 3 preg tests and they were positive but very early so the lines were hard to see, so Ive been sooo tired, nauseous, headaches, feeling pain in my abdomine, I talked to my doc saying that I was preg, he said that he thought I had a misscariage so I did another (2) and both were negative.... so Im wondering why i am still feeling so bad, it didnt even start till after the mc! Im having bad abdominal pld have pain, discomfort so maybe I have a urinary tract infection too? I even have pain when I pee, cramping in my lower abdomine. My husband is being really rude about it, he thinks that nothing is wrong with me and that I am faking! He is so rude! I just feel sick to my stomach, ill, tired, I have been sleeping a lot. My husband gets mad and tries to wake me up at all hours of the night/morning because he cant sleep so he wants me to get up, at 3am and 6am and he is being so rude and childish, he even poured water on my head and in my ear this morning! So on top of my second miscarriage in 3 months, the hormones, and feeling ill, I have to deal with the stress of a rude thoughtless husband who only cares about himself and does mean things to me when I am trying to sleep and recooporate! He tells me he hates me because I wont get up, and that I am always sick, and that he needs to get out and have some fun, so I better get my ass up and drive him to go play in the snow or I am going to regret it and he is going to treat me like sh*t all day and make me wish I never would have screwed with him... he thinks that me being tired and sleeping and not keeping up on the dishes is me "f*****g" with him... I dont know what to do. Everytime I dont feel good he is so mean to me. So I am praying that he will understand and leave me to get better, my body is obviously tired and stuff for a reason, I have had 2 miscarriages in the past 3 months! Anyways God bless you all. Im sorry for your losses. Hope you all feel better.

Nikki, wow that's terrible. Are you sure you want to start a family with this husband of yours?

If he gets like this Now when he doesn't have 100% of your attention I would be seriously worried about how he'll behave when you actually do get pregnant! Although a lot of the tiredness goes away in the middle, it comes back big time in the later stages.

You've probably heard that a lot of physical abuse starts for the first time when a woman gets pregnant. Even if you think he'd never be violent towards you, he is already showing extreme immaturity. That's really not what you need when you've got a demanding baby to deal with as well.

I miscarried 2 weeks ago, so I'm bang into my fertile period again and hoping to get preg again, but like you I'm feeling a lot of preg symptoms as well, particularly nausea and an extreme aversion to housework! My mother said it's probably the hormones - and I've heard from a few people that you are extra fertile after a miscarriage - so I'm hoping it's that, but it's bizarre feeling so queasy when I know I'm not preg.

Nikki,
I can only imagine what you are going through. I am terribly sorry. However, as bad as it may sound I can't help but feel a little relieved that your shitty "husband" didn't reproduce. As a matter of fact he's an animal that needs to be castrated and put in a cage for the rest of his pathetic life. I won't sit here and try to convince you to leave the id**t, I know you won't. But I would like to insist that you use a condomn next time he makes you have sex with him (he seems like the type that would force you). DO NOT HAVE BABIES!!!

P.S. I am not the type of person who blogs BS all day. As a matter of fact, this is the 1st time I've EVER commented on ANYTHING. I hope that you realize how sad and disgusting your husband is making your life. I would Lorena Bobbit his ass. :-D

So sorry to hear about your loss Nikki.
Your husband is acting very poorly! Immature! Maybe your husband should seek counseling. He may be acting out due to grief or feeling of not being able to help you. If he does not improve with counseling, then I too agree that you should reconsider starting a family with this man unless you have other family support to help you.
I speak from similar experience. I have had 5 miscarriages and my husband has gone through many emotions with each loss. I finally put my foot down and told him I needed rest and took the time to recover. After the loss of our twins my husband left me and asked for a divorce. He was going to go find another wife who could give him a child. While he moved out I asked him to seek counseling. He did. He returned home after 4 weeks. (While he was gone he educated himself about pregnancy, risks, options for children such as surrogacy, etc through counseling, talking to family and other couples going through miscarraiges and to our OB.)
I am happy to say that he matured through the process. We just went through another miscarraige last week and I can see his effort of trying to be understanding and he allowed me the rest I need to recover.
Don't let your husband prevent you from healing. He is your husband and he should support you. Try reaching out to family, church, or to a support group and see if you can get your husband to interact with other couples going through the same thing. Get him educated by outside sources so it isn't you telling him how bad you feel. Maybe his eyes will open and you will have his support no matter what happens in the future in any situation you face as a couple.
Wish you the best.

Nobody should ever be treated like your husband treated you Nikki. I've had two miscarriages (my last one 2 1/2 weeks ago) and now I have bloating, cramping, abdominal pain not to mention all the emotions I'm going through. I cry and I talk about it all the time and it is so difficult to be a good mom to my 2 yr old. I found out its a bladder infection. Probably from the cath tube during my D&C. Men can sometimes deal with these things differently than us women because they aren't the ones going through it. My husband doesn't talk about it and he lays on the couch all weekend watching football. He's become a slob and yes he acts like I should still be the house slave. But he at least tells me he loves me. He tells me it will get better. He tells me to forget house work, watch my TV shows and drink hot tea. I have been awful to him because I can't stand that he hasn't helped me around the house more, and I hate that he has just moved on and never talks about it. He even took the ultrasound picture off the fridge. That picture was of a baby with a heartbeat at 6w6days. I miscarried at 11w2days. Baby had lost heart beat around 8 weeks, almost 9. I had gained 12 pounds already... I thought he was awful. But hes a saint compared to your husband. Women go through so much more than men understand. At the very least he should be nice and be there for you, even if he has to fake it. But, I agree with the others who posted the question... Do you really want to have a child with someone like that? He'll treat your child like he treats you. Then your child will grow up acting like him. Find yourself a man that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. It's hard, especially because you'll be alone, but your future child will thank you. Good luck!

i totally understand, i went into hospital with stomach pains on the 17th dec, they said i had eptopic which was a big surprise, my hubby had vasectomy 10 yrs ago, he would say i had an affair so could not even tell him, i was in shock and had to keep it to myself, they said it was not unheard of for vasectomy to fail, i still normally used protection but he had been drunk an... had not missed a period, been woring lifting etc and had 5 week brownish period, on the 18th after work started bleeding heavily, very heavy with clots, attended hopital next morning got hubby to drop me off, had not told him, they scanned and could not rule out eptopic or blood clots, just said it could be fatal, kept me in hospital for 12 hours till checked on by dr, told to go home as was naturally evicting the problem but told to go back if i got more pain or bleeding. well i just carried on, immense crfamps etc lots of blood loss an returned to work, dealt with xmas, started having pains xmas day, hubby told me to sto ruining xmas as he wanted to visit his mum, got abusive, i had to take painkillers etc an pretend to smile, cramps continued even to now in my right side, still loosing blood, gets heavier when i have a bowel movement which i havent been able to do without laxatives. its painful to go toilet, sit, walk but i do it, back at work too, husband thinks i just had bvlood clots, i feel really upset then ok then i cry then ok etc dunno why i act this way, husband claims i lazy and dont love him, i agree on one!!! :-) but to say to you, dont have a child with an abusive man, its hard when u pregnant, its hard because they want the attention and if you upset them they will lash out, i know :-( i stay for my girls as they love him but if you have no ties leave while you can, i feel alone and tired and wish i could talk to him, but i know i will be accused of an affair, he takes my phone and comp to check who i talk too etc, dont let yourself get into this situation, i am sorry for your loss, but be grateful it has opened your eyes xxx positive thoughts and hugs sent your way, be strong x x x

i am in the same situation. i had a period that lasted not even a fulll 2 days then when i told him we took a test it came up as un determined. so i told him we will wait a couple of weeks and ill take another then i miscarried and told him, he said u werent even really sure u were pregnant. i said i haver been pregnant and misscarried before i know thats what it is. He ended up saying i was doing it for attention because he was going out and i didnt want him to. and i said no shyt i dont want you to i want you to be home with me i need some support. the next day i guess he tyalked to his friends wife and relized how depressing it can be especially because its not my first and this one i accutally wanted. So he's a little better.

But last time by i only really had pain and this i am kind of confused i still always feel like i want to puke, have really bad pains in my abdomin and back, im always tired. is all this ok. im only 20 so not that much knowlege of this kind of stuff.

thanks to any replies

Sounds like you need a new husband Hun he doent seem to care how you feel

nikki I'm sorry for your loss. I hate to say this but he is an ABUSER AND BUTTHEAd!! you need to tell him to either be there for you or fu+I off. I hope things get better for you but I can't see him being different. your health life and body are more important than anything else. be safe

I have missed misscarriage 10/3/2012 and stop bleeding at 10/12/2012 and menstruation at 10/28/2012 and stop at 11/06/2012, I have lower abdominal craming now,its more than a week, sometimes in left,or right or in a middle,, help me, this is a nornal or what. Thanks

Hey I need help scince you were 5 weeks pregnant I was a little less than a month when I had a misscaraige on Dec 15 im 14 I know its too early but stuff happenes anyway I know I was pregnant sorta in denial I had my p.e final & I couldnt tell my teacher because shes good friends with my family after the final I felt sooo bad I couldnt even sit cuz of the pain than the morning of Dec 15 I woke up because of the pain it was like a crushing pain horrible I went to the bathroom a ball of blood with white transparent stuff came out I had the worst cramps I was bleeding it only lasted for 3 days my period last 7 days I still have the syptoms that im pregnant havent gotten my period. Pleas help :( oh &