Hello,
My boyfriend is in his 15th day of methadone withdrawal. He's in chronic pain, isn't sleeping and has left my house to go to his mom's. He says he's at his breaking point and can't deal with me or anything. I realize I just have to back off, but this is emotionally hard and I'm wondering if this is common. I can't even imagine what he's going through, but it's certainly not any fun on my end. It's hard to just back off, wait in the shadows and feel so incredibly unimportant...
My boyfriend is in his 15th day of methadone withdrawal. He's in chronic pain, isn't sleeping and has left my house to go to his mom's. He says he's at his breaking point and can't deal with me or anything. I realize I just have to back off, but this is emotionally hard and I'm wondering if this is common. I can't even imagine what he's going through, but it's certainly not any fun on my end. It's hard to just back off, wait in the shadows and feel so incredibly unimportant...
Hi Hon: I totally feel for you, AND your boyfriend. Addiction affects SO many people, ESPECIALLY the ones closest too the addict! A few weeks ago I was dealing with my sick dad - when he was in hospital - and he was a TOTAL **&&%%^^^^$$##@@@!!%%))##@@@@@##$$ ;-) I got on the elevator - this close too tears - and there was a sign on the wall - "Caregivers, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!" There was a group getting together to discuss about being assaulted, emotionally, mentally ands ometimes physically! And I thought to myself "Well thank God I'm not the only one!!" And that is the same with you hon - even though you feel you are don't you?
Withdrawal off of opiates/substitutes, is INCREDIBLY hard on everyone concerned. It is physical, emotional, spiritual, mental distress!!! You feel like you are going to die! And if ONE more person asks you "What's wrong?" "Do you want anything?" "What can I do for you?" They will BLOW!! They aren't thinking straight hon! They haven't thought straight in years - through their addiction, now with withdrawls! They wonder "What was the point for me to go through this?!" They feel there is NO end to it, thus the failure rate of addicts going cold turkey. Their addicted brain, does NOT give up easy - let me tell you!!!
What you do need to do hon, is just get on with your life - as this is playing out! You have probably lost a bit of yourself, being his nursemaid, his battering ram, his physcologist, his counselor, his confident etc. So at this time, while he is trying to get through this, just get yourself back! DO NOT take it personally hon - I KNOW I KNOW :'( - But this ISN'T PERSONAL!! It is what he needs to do! So in the mean time, just get out and about, just get healthy in yourself - because I hazzard a guess that this HASN'T been a healthy time for you! And when you are feeling better, you will be more well equipped to handle him returning, just in CASE he is not totally recovered. If you love him - which you do - you HAVE to love yourself and be solid in you and put your hope in both of you and your future together.
I truly hope that your boyfriend has the strength and determination to overcome his demons. And I send you strength, love, and positive thoughts. Somewhere at sometime in history someon said "This Too Will Pass!!" And there are no better words for your situtation. If you EVER need to talk to an addict, I'm your girl! And there is NOTHING you can tell me, that I don't already know OK? I'm here - usually all the time 8-| - You see that's what some addicts do! They kick their habit and then become health counsellors on websites!!! ;-) 8-| XD Good luck hon! It will be OK!!!
Withdrawal off of opiates/substitutes, is INCREDIBLY hard on everyone concerned. It is physical, emotional, spiritual, mental distress!!! You feel like you are going to die! And if ONE more person asks you "What's wrong?" "Do you want anything?" "What can I do for you?" They will BLOW!! They aren't thinking straight hon! They haven't thought straight in years - through their addiction, now with withdrawls! They wonder "What was the point for me to go through this?!" They feel there is NO end to it, thus the failure rate of addicts going cold turkey. Their addicted brain, does NOT give up easy - let me tell you!!!
What you do need to do hon, is just get on with your life - as this is playing out! You have probably lost a bit of yourself, being his nursemaid, his battering ram, his physcologist, his counselor, his confident etc. So at this time, while he is trying to get through this, just get yourself back! DO NOT take it personally hon - I KNOW I KNOW :'( - But this ISN'T PERSONAL!! It is what he needs to do! So in the mean time, just get out and about, just get healthy in yourself - because I hazzard a guess that this HASN'T been a healthy time for you! And when you are feeling better, you will be more well equipped to handle him returning, just in CASE he is not totally recovered. If you love him - which you do - you HAVE to love yourself and be solid in you and put your hope in both of you and your future together.
I truly hope that your boyfriend has the strength and determination to overcome his demons. And I send you strength, love, and positive thoughts. Somewhere at sometime in history someon said "This Too Will Pass!!" And there are no better words for your situtation. If you EVER need to talk to an addict, I'm your girl! And there is NOTHING you can tell me, that I don't already know OK? I'm here - usually all the time 8-| - You see that's what some addicts do! They kick their habit and then become health counsellors on websites!!! ;-) 8-| XD Good luck hon! It will be OK!!!
Hi my name is John. I had my last dose of methadone Dec29 2013. I came right down to 2.5ml, even so, I knew that I would not handle the next 3 months with nothing. This is the fifth time now, since 1988. The crazy thing is, the last time was in 2000
and I swore I would never go back..and I did, last febuary. Now, here I am febuary 2014, dealing with it again! My advice is this..I agree totally with bambi27!! Next, a person can need to step down to a medication that will allow you to cope, bottom end meds are the ones. What I mean is, you need the weakest coping meds but not too weak in that they dont work However, in the end, the ferryman has to be paid, so itĺl cost something, but hopefully, not too much. Best wishes.
Hi my name is John. I had my last dose of methadone Dec29 2013. I came right down to 2.5ml, even so, I knew that I would not handle the next 3 months with nothing. This is the fifth time now, since 1988. The crazy thing is, the last time was in 2000
and I swore I would never go back..and I did, last febuary. Now, here I am febuary 2014, dealing with it again! My advice is this..I agree totally with bambi27!! Next, a person can need to step down to a medication that will allow you to cope, bottom end meds are the ones. What I mean is, you need the weakest coping meds but not too weak in that they dont work However, in the end, the ferryman has to be paid, so itĺl cost something, but hopefully, not too much. Best wishes.
Hey there ,im down to 15 mil at the moment my self ,down from 50 mil and its the thought already of totally coming off it that I cant stop thinking about,its SO hard on this stuff. This is my 3rd time to and each time coming off it is just as hard as the first.