I HAD A BF & HE TOOK MY VIRGINITY .
SURPRISINGLY I DIDN'T BLEED THAT NIGHT & MY BF & I GOT VERY DISAPPOINTED.
I KNEW I WAS A VIRGIN.
HE HAS SINCE NOT TRUSTED ME.BUT WHAT MAKES ME THINK A LOT IS THAT WHEN I GOT TO THE TOILET & I GOT THE SHOCK OF MY LIFE, I FELT SHARP PAIN BELOW , THEN I FOUND MYSELF BLEEDING.
I'M SHOCKED BECAUSE IT WAS SUPPOSE TO APPEAR WHEN WE WERE IN THE ACT NOT THE NEXT EVENING. CAN YOU HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND WHAT REALLY WENT WRONG. I'M DISAPPOINTED ABOUT THE DELAY!!!!! :? [/enc]
SURPRISINGLY I DIDN'T BLEED THAT NIGHT & MY BF & I GOT VERY DISAPPOINTED.
I KNEW I WAS A VIRGIN.
HE HAS SINCE NOT TRUSTED ME.BUT WHAT MAKES ME THINK A LOT IS THAT WHEN I GOT TO THE TOILET & I GOT THE SHOCK OF MY LIFE, I FELT SHARP PAIN BELOW , THEN I FOUND MYSELF BLEEDING.
I'M SHOCKED BECAUSE IT WAS SUPPOSE TO APPEAR WHEN WE WERE IN THE ACT NOT THE NEXT EVENING. CAN YOU HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND WHAT REALLY WENT WRONG. I'M DISAPPOINTED ABOUT THE DELAY!!!!! :? [/enc]
Not all girls experience the same exact thing even though you hear it a lot. You may have been comfortable with ur bf since you didn't bleed and you may have already broken your hymen which causes that as well. Personally if your bf doesn't trust you because he thinks your suppose to bleed then he has VERY poor sex knowledge and you shouldn't really date him but thats my opinion.
I agree.
This isn't a trophy for him to brag about.
Nor should you feel disappointed.
Was this all about his taking your virginity, or about the love that you two had?
I think you may want to talk to a counselor about your expectations and WHY you chose to have sex.
Also, nobody needs to know whether you had sex or not...nor if you are a virgin or not. It's your personal business, not his.
And you may find that you feel no different now, than before... except, now, you know what your boyfriend is all about....
If he cares for you, this shouldn't be a major block in your relationship.
This isn't a trophy for him to brag about.
Nor should you feel disappointed.
Was this all about his taking your virginity, or about the love that you two had?
I think you may want to talk to a counselor about your expectations and WHY you chose to have sex.
Also, nobody needs to know whether you had sex or not...nor if you are a virgin or not. It's your personal business, not his.
And you may find that you feel no different now, than before... except, now, you know what your boyfriend is all about....
If he cares for you, this shouldn't be a major block in your relationship.
Hi Sweetie,
having sex for the first time comes with SO MANY emotions and expectations. I know that in your sex ed classes in HS you are told that the girl bleeds when her virginity is lost... the truth is not all girls respond the same way and your hymen may have broken before you had sex and caused bleeding when you didn't even know it(like on your period). if you've ever used a tampon or a boy has fingered you, etc...your hymen may have been broken. The first time I had sex there was no bleeding for me either. :-)
Your first time should me AMAZING and fun and I'm sorry that this time wasn't. The great thing about this, is now YOU are in control of the next time and the next time and the NEXT Time and how you want it to go.
I agree with the people above, although none of us know your guy- it sounds like you both should do some " google searches" on this stuff so that you can both understand what happens, doesn't happen and that ALL bodies are very different.
With having said this, please use protection when having sex with anyone. :-)
You should embrace your sexuality and do EVERYTHING you can to learn about your body. It's a woman's responsibility to know how her body works and what she is experiencing and why.
Hope this helps sweetie!
having sex for the first time comes with SO MANY emotions and expectations. I know that in your sex ed classes in HS you are told that the girl bleeds when her virginity is lost... the truth is not all girls respond the same way and your hymen may have broken before you had sex and caused bleeding when you didn't even know it(like on your period). if you've ever used a tampon or a boy has fingered you, etc...your hymen may have been broken. The first time I had sex there was no bleeding for me either. :-)
Your first time should me AMAZING and fun and I'm sorry that this time wasn't. The great thing about this, is now YOU are in control of the next time and the next time and the NEXT Time and how you want it to go.
I agree with the people above, although none of us know your guy- it sounds like you both should do some " google searches" on this stuff so that you can both understand what happens, doesn't happen and that ALL bodies are very different.
With having said this, please use protection when having sex with anyone. :-)
You should embrace your sexuality and do EVERYTHING you can to learn about your body. It's a woman's responsibility to know how her body works and what she is experiencing and why.
Hope this helps sweetie!