Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

I too have a husband like this i have a 13 yr daughter and a 1 yr old son and all he does is play games on the p.c. He has always been a gamer since i met him when i was 16 however.... i am now 37 and he hasnt changed i feel like my life has been wasted and that i have been married to a 15 yr old. It is ao unfair that he cant share his time with me or his kids. I should put up or shut up but im in a difficult situation as he has no family he can go to or not alot of money to find somewhere else to live with his computer. I am not a cold hearted witch so i am putting up with this until i cannot no more. I feel better knowing that i am not the only one who is in this situation and wish that these addictive games were never made. Technology is taking over slowly but surely and will make many people very lonely... i am not going to be one of them.

I am trying to gather courage to leave my husband who i have been with for 22 yrs i met him when i was 16 ( playing games was ok then ) but 22 yrs later he has got worse. I have 2 children with him and he hasnt got any time for us. He comes in from work straight on the computer till he goes to bed while i am doing everything with the kids and around the house and working part time while he only does 1 thing. I dont know him anymore we have nothing in common and i am upset that my children are going to blame me for leaving him through his computer addiction

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So, my hubs plays hayday all the time. He is not on facebook but I know he still is carrying on something with females because he takes his phone with him to the bathroom every single morning at 5 when he gets up. He used to never do that. How can he talk to them if not on facebook? I think she writes to him at a certain time early morning because that is when he is most protective of his phone. The "sound" is off too but turned facedown so I can't see the blinking light when message comes in. Any clues to help me with this besides jerking the phone from his hand and taking off in my car???

And so you or did you have any other addictions such as porn because most honest men will admit to a trail of addictions. I think gaming or any addiction is dangerous and if you think you are just spending 30 minutes at a time on it, how many times a day? Then are you waking up every morning and grabbing your phone on the way to the bathroom as my husband does and now he is interested in the "neighborhood" of friends of his hay day game??? Sounds kinda like when he tried meth for just one time...then he ended up doing 3 yrs for it. Not a problem? We women get us a hobby you say???? Better off without us? Maybe we need to turn that around and we'd be better off without you! Mine won't even go outside because he "works" in it all day. Excuses, excuses. I remember once he said that he could out run the police too. :)

My husband does the same thing- phone turned over while charging, on silent all the time, new password (in which I do not know), takes phone to bathroom, if he's home, phone is IN hand and he's playing that damn game (Game of War in my case). I accused him of cheating; bc if he can lie about spending $4,000 on the game, then he can lie about talking to girls on it. This game has given me so many insecurities and had me on high alert for the longest time. Though it's still a big pet peeve of me, I lost the battle. I gave up. If his stupid ass is gonna cheat, lie, whatever; he's gonna do it. Simple as that, so instead of me being in a constant state of "pissed off and paranoid", I choose to ignore it. It's not easy. Not at all, but for my sanity, I choose to pretend I don't give a sh*t. Of course I do! But instead of continuing to be a raging psychopath about it, I let him live his pathetic second life in fairytale land, while I do things In The land of the living.
The main reason he did all of those things I mentioned that he does, is because I have him such major sh*t about the game, 24/7. So, no he is very protective of it and silences it in hopes that I won't notice how addicted he is and how often he plays. Maybe that's why your husband does it too?

I have the same issue. I'm pregnant with our 4th. And he dies on the computer playing guilds of war 2. From the time he gets up to ask hours of the night to the next morning. He doesn't come to beef till 4 am something 5 or even 6am. I mentioned divorce he doesn't care. Says it's all my fault he playing. But I tried to change tried to do everything he asked. And he still didn't stop just got worse. I told him just 15 minutes ago. That he needs to cut way back or I'm done and cutting him out! That my children need a father a real father not some zombie.

Thank you for your reply - I haven't tried to resurrect the game since I posted but came back here out of curiosity to see how this debate was developing. Glad to read another positive success story - my wife was only mildly annoyed with clash of clans, but she was very happy to have me back when I ditched it!

I am in a similar situation and it is comforting to know that I am not the only one going through this . I am a 35 year old professional and my live in boyfriend is addicted to video games. He plays 18 hours a day. The addiction has caused him to be nocturnal and sleep during the day. He is currently out of work and actually lost his job due to sleeping through his alarm. He had a female "gaming friend" overnight at our house when I was out of town on business. He is angry that we haven't gotten married (I am insisting on a pre nup which he refuses) and is angry that I am not ready to have a baby (not with his level of irresponsibility. He ignores household chores to game while I am out busting my butt working full time and then coming home and cooking dinner. I don't want to break up but feel like I have been painted into a corner.

You sound like a pretty smart woman, not jumping into a marriage or having a baby until he snaps out of his addiction and proves to you that he's ready to step up to the plate. Men with gaming addictions rarely see a problem with it. It's going to be a long battle and one that you may not win so you have to decide what is important to you, also how much compromising you're willing to make without completely allowing the addiction to suffocate what's left of your relationship. If he's not willing to at least compromise, then he's probably not the one for you. Hope you figure it out.

Gaslighting and blaming you, huh? Sounds familiar. I hope you find a resolution. I almost hate technology and miss when times were much more relaxed and forced you to have relationships with the people you claimed to live outside of a little hanky panky in between plugging in to devices.

I hate that I've lost my husband to computer games. To everyone we must look like the perfect family but really I am a married singleton who doesn't know or have the courage to escape. The gaming has made him have severe anger management issues. Our last family holiday which was to celebrate his 40th in a top hotel was one of the worst times of my life. He was so angry, even to the point that my scuba equipment failed at depth and be pushed me away rather than help me. I was destroyed from that moment onwards. This was all because of the gaming withdrawal. I have lost the love of my life forever and now trapped with a man who looks like my husband but isn't him anymore.........addiction is real.

damn this resonated with me so hard. except i actually did seek attention and got it from another man. my husband expected me to be a good wife, but i couldn't even hold him to the basic standards of a husband? it broke my heart because everything we have is so good, but he'd rather lie his whole life than tell the truth. don't feel bad, it's only natural that you seek something more sufficient, more worthy and appreciative of your time. my husband litterally spends 10 hours on his game, Gary's Mod, while I sit and work. And when I mention him getting a job, he hits me.

I am have been married 23 years and my husband started playing Game of War and he totaled ignored me for an entire year and even said horrible things about me online to this friends. He said he was frustrated because I was keeping him from his friends. We have three children and when I asked him to move out the kids freaked. He stopped playing for a while and I just found out he has started playing again behind my back and spending money again. The bills are paid and he does help around the house so it always looks like I'm complaining. We both work but different shifts. I still don't know what to do. I don't want my children to grow up in a divorced household. I have been trying to hold it together but it is too stressful for me. I am going to try to talk to him again one more time and come up with a solution. At this point, maybe we can just hang on until the kids are out of the house but I certainly don't see myself retiring with someone like my husband, who is addicted to online gaming and has a gambling problem.

I've tried it all.. Nothing works.. And I'm slowly feeling distance with him.. I love spending time at work where im more interactive with people and feel like I get a reply or sense of appreciation for my existence... My finance and I only spend time together if the situation makes us.. There's I spending time out of choice... I've come to a conclusion where I see how happy playing makes him feel.. So now I'm on a search to find that same happiness in something else for myself... He will never change.. I know it for a fact.. He keeps telling me that he will but I know he won't... I just hope that one day he doesn't try and come back into my life and think he can pick up where he left Coz he has created so much distance that il never be able to go back.. I actually have realised that we're just in each other's lives because of habit and other everyday things are easier... But apart from that there is no real relationship!!!! He's under this illusion that he loves me and he thinks by saying it everyday he's done with his duty.. I'm really over it...and Moreover broken...
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