Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

Here's a solution. Women, while dating, if your boyfriend has a PC for gaming or any video game console or gaming cards or tabletop game books and other paraphernalia..... RUN. Do not marry these men if you value your health and future family. I didn't listen I didn't know. I was native. I married a gamer and if it weren't for vodka, I would have gone complete and utter ducking BONKERS listening to him talk all sparkly eyed non stop about his games and absolutely NOTHING NOOOOOOOOOTHING NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOTTTHHHHHHING ELSE.

What makes it bad is that he compares work and doing something and accomplishing something and reaching goals in real life on the same tier as his make believe gaming. JUST FRICKIN INFURIATINGLY INSANE. Enough to make me knife a kitten to death. I don't know how much more I can take.

I need vodka.

I know what you mean. My husband eats his meal downstairs and plays all day and night on his online video games it's so annoying. He will play it until 3 or 4 am. Never spends much time with me and the the kids.

Me and my husband are getting a divorce because of gaming. We are both addicts and neglect our kids 24/7. Recently, we would live stream and yell at each other and our kids on the stream while people were watching. We don't cook dinner or clean the house. We are going to spilt up our family because we game so much instead of fixing our relationship.

My husband started playing Game of War a couple years ago. At first I didn't think twice about it. I like playing games now and then. But in the last two years, he's increased time spent playing the game. You can guarantee that if he's home, he's on his phone. We don't really have conversations anymore. Even when we're "hanging out" (watching a movie, going out for dinner, etc), he's on his phone.
He started talking to women in the game, which led to him getting accounts on dating and porn sites. We go months without having sex, where for 11 years we had sex 4 - 7 times a week.
We have 4 children, and when they're trying to get his attention while he's playing he gets really snappy, until finally he yells at them and sends them to their room.
He has spent thousands of dollars on this game. He used to make really good money, so while it frustrated me, I ignored it. A few months ago he lost his job, and is now making a third of what he used to. His GoW spending hasn't stopped. I've had to max out the credit card and borrow from both our parents just to cover rent and buy groceries. He yelled at me for buying Lysol wuoes, telling me it was an "unnecessary" expense, and that I shouldn't be so selfish with my purchases. I returned them the next day and got a refund. Two days later, he bought 2 $99.99 packages in the game.
I finally told him I can't take it anymore. I want him to close his account and stop playing the game. He told me that's never going to happen. That I don't appreciate the things that are important to him. He would rather play his game then stay in our relationship. We decided at the end of this conversation that we'll be getting a divorce. 13 years and 4 children, and we're getting a divorce over a game.
I feel so lost, lonely and broken.

Extreme amounts of stress may have caused him to play games at a constant rate, so that he could reduce his stress. Try to reduce his stress.

Just because a husband needs an escape goat doesn't give him the right to volate his responsibilities far as having a balance with his wife. No woman wants a man after giving his time esle and all she is good for is the bedroom. I'm at the point I dislike being married because it's mental abuse! Lady you are not alone!!!

Wow your story is exactly my life !! And the girl he was talking to he flew in from Ireland and had sexual relations with. These games ruin people's marriages . I was with my husband over 20 years. It's so sad . Now I'm with three kids alone :(

Hello all...my situation isn't as bad as a lot of yours by the sounds of it. I have been with my husband for 6.5yrs and his always been into his games, which obviously I didn't mind as it made him happy. He works hard and is supportive but he isn't sociable at all and hasn't got any friends apart from a few he has made online (known for 10yrs) which I have met a few times myself and they are god parents to our daughter as they're his only friends. I worked shift work, mainly nights for the last few years so never realised how bad his gaming had got. But we have just relocated and I'm currently not working and being a stay at home dad until I find employment (his working) so no more nights and his playing this game Paragon I think, pretty much every night. Fair play our 16 month old is always in bed asleep when he plays..but that's meant to be our time. I don't know anyone here and I'm really trying to make friends but with a baby it's hard to get out and mingle especially in the winter and it frightens me how much happier he was when I was working nights as he could play every night with no interruptions. Makes me think he doesn't want me around anymore which is so so sad. He has his head set on and occasionally will mute it when I talk to him for 20 seconds before he flicks the switch again. The final straw was our daughter has had a D&S bug (first time in her life) and we were a few days in and I was exhausted as it had really knocked her for six, I went to bed at 10pm as I thought she'd settled and he was playing his game.but she was hysterical till 2am finally going to bed at 3.30am, all the time his ignoring us and playing his games! I just feel so alone and like we are a inconvenience, I have told him several times myself and my daughter will leave and he can play as many games he likes whenever he wants to after that. It's so hard as the only friends he has are gamers so he asks their opinion about it and obviously they agree with him.
It's like banging my head against a brick wall, I really don't want to break up our marriage over something so ridiculous as this and take my daughter out of our family home but we are drifting further and further apart and I don't won't to cry about this anymore.
But I feel like his already made his choice with the games, he said it's his escape, to let of steam. I don't get anytime for myself what so ever but isn't that marriage with a small baby, I know it gets better as they get older but I don't know how much more of this I can take!!!

read this and feel like everything you said is exactly how I feel. Its somewhat comforting to know I am not the only one that is going through this

SO sad. you guys are choosing a virtual world over your kids... your own flesh and blood!!! If you guys can't stop yourselves from playing (which you realize you can't) then fill that void with an addiction to save your family. You guys are indirectly telling your kids that the game is more important then they are, your marriage, health, home, act. SAD

my heart is broken for you. I got married at 18 to a 21 year old that wanted to go into the marines. The love story was perfect. Until we moved off and he and his dad started communicating through a game called destiny. I'm in college and study a lot as I plan to be a nurse so I am busy which unfortunately is a petty excuse he uses for playing so much. I had a family intervention with the in laws and a few months later his ad buys him an expensive computer...talk about a slap in the face... I know my worth. I am pretty, smart, and have a wonderful family a state away that would let me live with them until I finish my degree... but I still hate leaving him... however, I may have to continue to show him I'm not kidding. He needs to know I'm not putting up with this anymore.. so, I'm withdrawing sex. Then going to counseling, then moving out if this stays the same. I just can't be be lonely and married anymore

I'm wondering that myself I'm dealing with the same thing we been married for 19 yrs and he started with the frist game that was out 19 yrs ago now it's the playstation all of our kids is grown and gone. He comes in from work go straight up to the game never have time for me to do anything nothing. I have talk until I'm blue in the face I am so lonely sad I fell the he don't have feeling for me anymore I am planning on leaving him because I just can't love like this anymore being unhappy and depressed so I know what u feel.

hello there! I could completely relate to every single word you wrote, what did you do next? i feel stuck too, i love him, but not in love with him anymore. it hurts me immensely to see him withering our lives living online..but i cannot seem to do anything about it

A typical display of a bunch of control hungry women who are selfish and self absorbed. Oh no my husband plays some games sometimes. Perhaps you are the reason for his need to escape. The biggest problem women have Is the need to look outward rather than inward. Quit making your relationship all about you and maybe you can both be happy.

My husband is the same in the last three days he has spent 18 hours on one game then he wonders why I go out so much yesterday being a Sunday I cooked most of the dinner so was mostly in the kitchen he was in the lounge watching TV then after dinner he sat on the game for 8 hours