Does that mean he has wet dreams that he is unaware of?

That's too bad that he has no desire. I have more or less the opposite problem. I had heart surgery at 56, 72 now. They loaded me up with BP pills effectively killing little njoy. I still want to but he can't and my wife is fine with that. Once in a while she lets me rub her off but she refuses to let me stick a finger inside her.

Even though little njoy can't salute, he can still come. It's kind of like having a large clitoris I guess. He gets all the good feelings and he still spits, I just can't get a grip on him ---- have to use two fingers.  :-(  I keep him well exercised by making him spit several times a week.

Maybe he IS masturbating but if you were as enthuiastic as you say I don't see why he doesn't share that with you. I would love to have my wife do it for me but she has no interest in that at all. I think she's happy that I don't bother her any more, she never wanted to touch ME anyway.

Have you tried to do other methods? If my wife was into it I would love to do her with a dildo or whatever she likes. If I was operating the dildo or whatever, I would enjoy that almost as much as using my built in toy. For me, pleasing her was my greatest joy of sex.

I have gone to him, kissed him, tried to rub over him, whisper in his ear sweet nothings. But, he just looks at me and tells me he's not interested in sex, can't get it up, doesn't think about it. He doesn't give me long kisses, or even hug me sometime when he comes off the road. Says he has too much other stuff on his mind and just forgets. Forgets?? We've only been married 4 yrs. last 3 w/o sex. I am aware that planning for an enjoyable encounter w/hubby starts way, way before the actual act. He still drives over the road, rarely home, but, I need the closeness, touching, kissing and talking even if we didn't have sex. When I ask him Sunday about the stains, he just laughed and said he wished he'd enjoyed it if that was in fact stains of ejaculation or wet dreams. Some stains are quite large. But, I don't know how to tell. He was clipped yrs. before our marriage. Talking about sex does not come easy for him. I've told him in order to fulfill my desires, I masturbate & it would be so much more pleasurable if he would help me and hold me and kiss and have foreplay. But, he doesn't or won't understand that and changes subject. Am I just a dummy? Can we somehow get our personal life back on track? I'm only 65 and don't want to live like this the rest of my days. HELP!