Hi, I am 25 years old girl and I can't establish normal relationship. It is because of my emotional anxiety. Every time I have a boyfriend the same story starts. I feel anxiety like they do not provide me with enough emotions. I start to criticize him, to be nervous and the boy goes away. I can't help it. What to do?
You should know that the anxiety is closely attached with fear. Do you have some bad experience of losing someone in the past before you have started to feel emotional anxiety? You could be frightened to lose someone so much that in the end you push him away yourself. Try to calm down in relationship, and to give your boyfriend a chance to show himself. Also you could go to psychological consulting to ease the anxiety.
you write that you feel your boyfriends aren't providing you with "enough emotions" - it could be that you are expecting some huge emotional highs and lows with your relationship. Maybe you even crave that drama as part of the relationship process. I would re-think your connection to the men in question. Maybe they liked you just fine, but didn't want to experience unneeded emotional extremes along with you. Remember that the best relationships don't feel like you're riding the proverbial "emotional rollercoaster" - they're calm and feel like smooth sailing.
Also, remember that you cannot force someone to feel, or experience emotions in a certain way. Even if he is head over heels for you, he may express it less dramatically than you expect him to.
Also, remember that you cannot force someone to feel, or experience emotions in a certain way. Even if he is head over heels for you, he may express it less dramatically than you expect him to.