Extremely Painful, Unbreakable Hymen...

You are right and hymens can mend especially if it has been a long time. Talk to her about your concern and try to build up to having sex. The hymen can be stretched or ruptured with fingers too. Try using lube and when you decide its time it may be easier for her to be ontop so she has control. This way if she is was in too much pain she can adjust, though keep in mind a bit of pain is common even if she isnt a virgin

I have the same problem. I just deal with the pain and not tell my bf causing its not normal

I have the same problem. I just try to deal with the pain but some positions hurt more than others but at least she told you because I haven't told my bf because it's unnormal and embarrassing. Just go slow and gentle. I went to my gynecologist and she said "it's open but not broken " so yes it's painful but the more often you guys do it the less pain it is.