One of my friends had changed sex from male to female 6 months ago. "She" want to have sex with her current partner but she scare about the pain, this will be her first time after sex change. Will she fell the stretching pain like normal virgin girl having sex for the first time? She very worry now because she found that her partner having a very large penis, may be almost 8.5" she said. I doesn't know that whether he will hurt her bad or not. My experience is 7" uncomfortable, I had sex with a guy about 8.5" before, it hurt a lot worse than my first time and also bleed a lot, I stop having sex with him after that.
I do not know how to advise her. Any advise?
I do not know how to advise her. Any advise?
I really do not know. She likely will not feel the exact same stretching pain a normal virgin would, but I'd imagine a penis that large might be uncomfortable. There is really nothing I can suggest other than she try it and make sure they use a LOT of lube as she can't produce her own. If it hurts too much then she should just stop.
About ten years ago, I had a sex change from male to female. Though very painful, I enjoyed the physical transformation from my male self to female self. But it took a long time to completely heal up and the dilation exercises to keep my new vagina opening from becoming blocked were very uncomfortable. It took me three years after my final operation before I thought of myself as a complete physical woman and began to seek male partners more as a way to experience sexual intercourse as a woman.
A friend of mine suggested that I just let myself get picked up at an event I was going to attend to initiate myself into the world of female sex. I found a rather attractive man and at the end of the night, I asked him to come home with me.
I was very nervous and to cover myself I told him that it had been a long while since I’ve had sex and was a bit embarrassed. This made him take it easy with me and concentrate on the foreplay, which I absolutely loved.
Up until then, I’d concentrated on the act of having intercourse, which the dilation exercises were preparing me for. The foreplay was an added bonus and enjoyable.
When he asked if I was ready, I told him to go ahead. He made sure that we both had lots of lubricant and then he got on top of me and slowly began entering my newly constructed vagina (though he didn’t know that).
It actually hurt quite a bit, but it was also a very strange sensation for me to have a man’s penis entering my body. As I wasn’t a homosexual when I was a man, I had no idea what it was like to be with a man. He adjusted himself and took his time and it went much better once I got used to him inside of me.
Once he was inside of me all the way I actually enjoyed the feeling of being so close to him. I loved that he was on top of me and when he asked if he should change positions I told him that I wanted him on top of me the entire time.
Feeling him moving inside of me was wonderful and I felt like a real woman. For ten minutes he was inside of me and though I didn't even come close to an orgasm, just being hugged, kissed and feeling him inside of me was so very satisfying.
He didn't wear a condom and, as I wanted to know what it was like to have a man come inside of me. When it happened it felt very strange to me and so very surreal; like I was viewing a movie and not part of the action.
When we were done, I remember getting up and going to the bathroom where I felt his sperm dripping out of my body. As I looked at my nude female body with the breasts and sperm leaking out of my vagina, I realized that I was now "real woman."
We continued having sex for several months after that, and though I never orgasmed, it was always enjoyable if only for the feeling of closeness. His penis wasn't too big so it was bearable having him inside of me and in fact, it helped stress my new opening so that it was very flexible and no longer hurt when he was inside of me.
When we broke up, I was at least confident now that I was a "real woman" who could enjoy sex. I've talked with many women and many of them don't experience orgasms during intercourse as well, so I don't feel so out of place.
I can orgasm, but only if I masturbate myself.
I usually don't have long-term relationships so the issue of my sex change has never come up. I certainly wouldn't deceive someone that I wanted to become deeply involved with, but for relationships that are basically sexual, it doesn't bother me that they don't know my history.
A friend of mine suggested that I just let myself get picked up at an event I was going to attend to initiate myself into the world of female sex. I found a rather attractive man and at the end of the night, I asked him to come home with me.
I was very nervous and to cover myself I told him that it had been a long while since I’ve had sex and was a bit embarrassed. This made him take it easy with me and concentrate on the foreplay, which I absolutely loved.
Up until then, I’d concentrated on the act of having intercourse, which the dilation exercises were preparing me for. The foreplay was an added bonus and enjoyable.
When he asked if I was ready, I told him to go ahead. He made sure that we both had lots of lubricant and then he got on top of me and slowly began entering my newly constructed vagina (though he didn’t know that).
It actually hurt quite a bit, but it was also a very strange sensation for me to have a man’s penis entering my body. As I wasn’t a homosexual when I was a man, I had no idea what it was like to be with a man. He adjusted himself and took his time and it went much better once I got used to him inside of me.
Once he was inside of me all the way I actually enjoyed the feeling of being so close to him. I loved that he was on top of me and when he asked if he should change positions I told him that I wanted him on top of me the entire time.
Feeling him moving inside of me was wonderful and I felt like a real woman. For ten minutes he was inside of me and though I didn't even come close to an orgasm, just being hugged, kissed and feeling him inside of me was so very satisfying.
He didn't wear a condom and, as I wanted to know what it was like to have a man come inside of me. When it happened it felt very strange to me and so very surreal; like I was viewing a movie and not part of the action.
When we were done, I remember getting up and going to the bathroom where I felt his sperm dripping out of my body. As I looked at my nude female body with the breasts and sperm leaking out of my vagina, I realized that I was now "real woman."
We continued having sex for several months after that, and though I never orgasmed, it was always enjoyable if only for the feeling of closeness. His penis wasn't too big so it was bearable having him inside of me and in fact, it helped stress my new opening so that it was very flexible and no longer hurt when he was inside of me.
When we broke up, I was at least confident now that I was a "real woman" who could enjoy sex. I've talked with many women and many of them don't experience orgasms during intercourse as well, so I don't feel so out of place.
I can orgasm, but only if I masturbate myself.
I usually don't have long-term relationships so the issue of my sex change has never come up. I certainly wouldn't deceive someone that I wanted to become deeply involved with, but for relationships that are basically sexual, it doesn't bother me that they don't know my history.
You should stop worrying about this and worry about your use of the English language. You are absolutely butchering it...
I would love to have sex with you.
I transitioned many years ago and remember the first time vividly. He was normal size I guess but what is considered normal. Later I met the man I would marry and e was much larger. He realized my situation and took his time. To this day we enjoy many nights sharing our love. The only thing I miss is the ability to bear a child. Relax take it easy good things come to those who wait.