gay? dont want to be gay

dude, u have the same prob with my friend..here is my suggestion/s: be positive in ur life! if u r thinking that u r not a gay then u r not gay! try to have a girlfriend n talk to her/express ur feelings to her...

imm scareed fahh my bf too idkk :( i hatee that gay stuff no offense its juss really nasty to me

There is a strong possiblity that you might be bi-sexual, I know for a long time I felt the same way, would materbate to watching guys and had lots of thinking about being with guys when I did things. I think a lot of the times it is just the way guys are wired in our sexuality. Do you spend any amount of times with girls or have any that you are close with, try seeing if any of them like doing the same things that you do. You have to open yourself up with others in order to find out about your own feeling more. It is knind of like group theropy. Good luck in all you seak to do.

Most guys growing up with the expectation that they will meet a girl, fall in love,and get married. And the thought of things not working out that way terrifies people.I dated all through H.S. and things were fine until I got to the point we had sex. Then I lost total interest. It was like a game, date,get laid, move on to next one. When I double dated I was more concerned what the guy in front was doing than what I was doing in the back seat.There are many men who feel like you do. They want to have a wife and kids,and be a couple that fits into what everyone thinks they should be. But eventually the guy wants to find some one to have sex with, or they build up stress from living a lie. They love their children and care for their wife, but it doesn't feel fulfilling. I have know men who were married and came out when they were 60. There was an established family,but now they were all grown,and he wanted to pursue his feelings. I think back to things I did when I was a kid, even just beeing curious about another mans body. And 17 I stopped dating, and went to school and work and had a few friends. No one wants to be gay! ,It would make life so much simplier, but if you have strong enough feelings eventually to feel free you need to go with the way you were born. Some guys are Bi-sexual.They enjoy sex with both men and women. And that can turn out to be a lot of different situation. If you have accwss to movies, watch big Eden, or The Mulligan's. both great movies that deal with becoming comfortable with who you are. A home at the end of the world, is also a great movie about different kinds of relationships.These are not Porn. If you need to talk to someone,there is a program called the Trevor Project,that helps teens in turmoil. Some cities have other LBGT youth groups that can help.If you have trouble finding something,the Trevor Project, or calling your local MCC church, they should be able to point you in the right directions. Everyone needs to be comfortable with who they are. My friends are my Family, and I enjoy it that way. Sometimes things work out so that your family will accept you,and they can be part of your life. BUT never get depressed being unsure,and thinking it would be easier to not have to deal with it, Find someone to Talk to. It is muchless stressful today than it was when I was your age. I would go to the bookstore and buy the Advocate, Or read books that had a positive out look. The Front Runner, or any Gorden Merrick books are a good starting point. You may find a girl who you like and trust enough,that she will take you as you are. I had that chance once, and look back and think how much different my life would be today. Good luck on finding your way down the long road of life.

If that "gay stuff" is sex, there is a lot more involved in relationships than just sex. Half of all straight marriages end in divorce. I have friends wo have been together32 & 35 yrs. A commitment to someone you love is more than Sex...Love rules,You have to get power of attorney in case anything happens ,you end up at a hospital,not able to see or make any decisions,because you are not "Family". A brother or parent who disapproves, and make decisions based on the way they feel, while you know exaactly what that person would want, You can legally be thrown out the door. If the house was in the partner's name,the family gets it, even though it was your home with the person you loved. They can even be cruel enough to bar you from the funeral or memorial service. Those are the things that are nasty and wrong from the other side's point of view!

I agree you be want you want to be

there's nothing wrong with you but if you end up gay it's not bad i'm gay boy :-)

i was exactly in your position, i have known since 13 (im 20 now) that i have been gay, i used to disguted with myself and think that i was impure, unatural. but the thing is, them 7 long years of self hatred have taken its toll on me, i contemplated suicide, i pushed all my friends away because i thought i might become attracted to them, now im starting to come out of the closet i am starting to make new friends who dont care about the way that i am but if i hadent pushed my original friends away im sure they would accepted me too, if i was you i would embrace who you are, because if your gay your gay... if your straight your straight... same with bi and transgender... there is nothing we can do tou change ourselves, no religion or prayers will change you you cant rewire your own mind, just wait till your ready as soon as you know your sexuality to its full extent then you can come out or what ever. most people who are gay dont want to be gay i know i dont but ive accepted it... its who i am and who i will always be. 

There really is nothing wrong being gay, you are still human, still sane, still normal... 75% of men admitted preferring gay porn at times in their lives, totally normal