getting rid of a bondage addiction

I, like many others here, was imprinted early age by television, superman to be specific, where women were tied and gagged. The helplessness was arousing. It is not a bad thing. I have met women who liked it, tolerated it and hated it. There are plenty that think it is fun. You just need to sort through and find the right one.
I used to think I was sick.
There was even a part of me that was afraid of what I might do with this obsession.
I now know it is ok to like what I like and it just has to be channeled.
Holding a woman's hands behind her while you kiss her always got me going and expressed to her this control, bondage desire. It helped things get sorted rather quickly and separated the likers from the non likers.
Safe words are important, but communication and being trust worthy are the key.
Always respect the other person. I always like to surprise the woman with a gag when they weren't expecting it. This was a huge turn on for me, but can lead you in jail and almost did.
Just get the gal to roleplay with you as if she is surprised and or afraid.
It works as well as the real and then there is trust, respect and a melding of the minds.
This obsession is alright. I have had it forever.
Online dating sites can help, although you have to get through the scammers, i lost twenty grand trying to save a slave from her woes to find out it was a love scam from the UK. Be careful of that.
Do not beat yourself up. Many many women like it.

i AM SO ADDICTED TO GIMP MASKS THAT I WORRY THAT MY GARY WON'T WEAR HIS BALLGAG ANY MORE..

Just because you have a fetish does not mean that you won't have a loving relationship!

My boyfriend and I met on a site used for kinky hookups, as we both have a major bondage fetish. We met a couple of times, had fun, and now we're a couple and live together. We've been together for over two years and still have lots of kinky fun, and also have an extremely loving relationship.

Thank you. Sanity at last. Lifelong BDSM and leather man here, and my husband is the same.

i hate myself for liking it, it's like an addiction and no matter what I do it's always there. I have had plenty of opportunities to sleep with a girl but I wriggled my way out because I couldn't stand the embarrassment, I don't want to like it. would therapy help get rid of it? It's honestly having a real bad affect on me mentally at this point, i haven't told anyone about it and I don't feel like it would help telling anyone, it honestly scares me. I've tried to condition myself to dislike it but I cant there has to be some way to cut this shitty wiring in my head.

If you're really miserable you should seek out a therapist, preferably one who is sympathetic to your fetish. But realize it's like being left-handed -- it's just the way you are. You have to learn how to live with it. And if you end up getting into a relationship that includes bondage, remember to value and respect your partner.

I am currently 14 and have the same fetish it started when I was about 6-7 and I’ve always been horribly terrified of having sex when the time comes but after reading this I feel much better about myself and I would like to thank you this whole thread also helped me realize I’m not the only one like this and that I can at some point find happiness, and this all started with you so I would once again like to thank you for starting this and all the other people who shared their experiences which were profoundly helpful to me.

I am 15 and in a relationship with a 16 year old. We've been dating for 5 months and have had sex three times. We had tried many times before that but I could never keep an erection and when we did have sex I didn't cum. This made her feel bad so I told her about my bondage fetish and she's not into it, at least not right now. I really want to get over this fetish and have been trying to for quite some time. The other night she came over and I got a huge erection, as I hadn't masterbated in over a month but she was on her period so we didn't do anything. I got blueballs and masterbated when she left. I felt extremely guilty and we hung out the next day and I didn't get an erection. I've tried watching other types of porn but they didn't do anything. When my girlfriend and I started talking I would get a boner even if we just cuddled and didn't do anything but now I can barely ever keep a boner, and she's hot and I'm not just saying that because she's my girlfriend she really is beautiful. Anyway, I'd still like to incorporate bondage every once in a while if she's okay with it but I also want to be able to satisfy her with normal sex where we both can climax and not just her. I might be kinda late to this thread but any help would be greatly appreciated.

I find this very unhelpful. You are of course welcome to have a loving relationship with bondage. It’s about finding the right partner for you. To say that it’s not good when you can’t get hard unless bondage is involved is like blaming a gay guy who can’t get hard from a woman. There are plenty of fish in the sea man, and more than you would think that enjoy getting bound n gagged as well.

Buddy, i am 34 (male) and lived trough the Exact same situation. I however do Not hide my addiction. I respectfully bring it up to a woman Before i date them... come to find out, most have at least fantasized about similar scenarios...
I always have ropes and toys under my bed. That being said: i never did this to a person that did not want to try it, as a result, i had a hard time getting erect as well.
BUT if she allows me to tie her up FIRST, afterwards i can do just fine without the restraints. Its almost like a mental blockade. I do not considder it a disorder. Were all unique. That means; what is normal for you, may be weird for another.
Dont worry, you’ll find partners that will let you explore in this world, just be open about it (not in a vulgar way)

Save it till you are married and only on your Bed since it is allowed and is the only place I know of
Chris McDonald