Hello, long story short
I been dating a lady for a few months now, we been talking and have know each other since middle of last year. About three weeks ago she went several days without eating and was in a very depressed state of mind, I was not much help to her do to the fact I live about 300 miles where from she does right now and she would not talk to me about what was bothering her. After a few days she passes out while arguing with her x on the phone, ambulance is called she refuses treatment. The following week she ends up going and seeing a psychologist, gets committed into a metal ward for the night, the most horrible place I ever been to I went and stood by her side the whole time and was the only one there besides her sisters and mother. Next morning they let her out, following week does a bunch of test and they tell her she is Bi_polar and prescribe the pills lexapro. Shes having a very hard time coping with the fact they say she is bi-polor, all most over whelming for her.
We where getting along great up until this point, on out days off we would go meet each other, she took a week long medical leave from work and spent the whole time at my place, had big plans of moving out eventually finding a new job where I live as she is not happy with her current job and little town she lives in, loved each other lots emotions what not. Then just yesterday, day 2 of the new pills, she says she does not want to be in a relationship any more and only wants to worry about feeling good, and says she does not want to hurt me by telling me this. Frankly I am pretty upset and kind of heart broken over this and wondering what I should do. maybe time will fix things as she adjusts to the pills and what not IDK
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I been dating a lady for a few months now, we been talking and have know each other since middle of last year. About three weeks ago she went several days without eating and was in a very depressed state of mind, I was not much help to her do to the fact I live about 300 miles where from she does right now and she would not talk to me about what was bothering her. After a few days she passes out while arguing with her x on the phone, ambulance is called she refuses treatment. The following week she ends up going and seeing a psychologist, gets committed into a metal ward for the night, the most horrible place I ever been to I went and stood by her side the whole time and was the only one there besides her sisters and mother. Next morning they let her out, following week does a bunch of test and they tell her she is Bi_polar and prescribe the pills lexapro. Shes having a very hard time coping with the fact they say she is bi-polor, all most over whelming for her.
We where getting along great up until this point, on out days off we would go meet each other, she took a week long medical leave from work and spent the whole time at my place, had big plans of moving out eventually finding a new job where I live as she is not happy with her current job and little town she lives in, loved each other lots emotions what not. Then just yesterday, day 2 of the new pills, she says she does not want to be in a relationship any more and only wants to worry about feeling good, and says she does not want to hurt me by telling me this. Frankly I am pretty upset and kind of heart broken over this and wondering what I should do. maybe time will fix things as she adjusts to the pills and what not IDK
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Hey mate,
Bi-polarism is a serious disorder. What you're doing is not wrong (from what I read, you seem to be an extremely nice guy), but what she has is a severe psychological problem that can not be simply coaxed rational as though it seems. I have undergone a similar experience with a bi-polar person and all I can say is it was a 180 relationship: She was extremely nice in the beginning and then suddenly she flips a 180 on me and says she has suicidal urges. I try my very best to make her feel better and sometimes it doesn't works. Most of the time, my efforts are futile and sometimes (I should say all the time), I don't know if I'm able to reach her.
Well long story short, all I can say is if you truly love her, I guess you'll see through her disorder as just a difficult moment in her life. Perhaps she is trying her best to communicate how she feels to you but due her condition, it is hard for her. Maybe if you give it more time, IDK. Best of luck.
Hi, I was involved with a very beautiful woman diagnosed with, bi polar, body dimorphic, split personality disorder, and ADD. well all you can do is get off the emotional roller coaster, stop smocking pot with them, this triggers these episodes, distance yourself as a lover and return to a unconditioned friend, this way maybe you can save your life and hers. I had to have her institutionalized after smoking pot with a friend of hers, she tried to commit suicide. She did not drink or smoke dope for 8 years. in those 8 years, you could set your watch by the time of year and the date ie. Spring, fall, Christmas, and new year. Having said all this the good time were great , the bad times were horrid, I did not drink or drug in all the time together, Married for 3 years on meds, not me, her, they Knocked her right out at 8 o clock---My girl was gone, I asked her to talk to the shrink, to lower the meds, She went to Him and talked about me, He told her to leave me, on Tuesday, she was gone Thursday. I Divorced her Friday. She then lost her job of 14 years, live with a convicted Pedophile, moved 9 times, lost her car, she has had 6 by friends, lived in woman's shelters, Now thank god she is in assisted Housing for the mentally ill, she is still alive, smoking dope, drinking, taking her meds and reading rehab books??? she has 2 daughters and one grandson, they still love her, It is a heart breaking riddle, now if you are not prepared to be her guardian angle, run, I an still her friend and emotional rock, this has cost me thousand of dollars, over the 10 year relation ship-------the highs, very high, the lows, gut wrenching, I did anger management at a woman's transition house, I wrecked a 48 thousand dollar SUV. after a verbal fight until 4 in the morning and I had to play golf at 730am, I hit a ditch, late for the golf date. O yes she could have 4 dates at a funeral. But she was insanely jealous of Me??? I still love and care about her, but I can not car for her, she has to learn through Pain and Suffering, all I can do is support and up lift Her.---------I met her at 34yrs of age, she is now 44yrs of age, she has moved 16 times and has had 8 boyfriends, all gone bad. She is now in Social assisted Housing, and on a Mentally Disability Pension. rides the Bus and receives free meds and medical marijuana??? Now having said all this, bi polar is a form of schizophrenia, schizophrenia is a Cat Born Disease, received from the cat feces, when the baby is little, ie. liter box, Rugs, couch, etc.-------It is passed on from mother to baby. -------Her father was institutionalized at 30 with schizophrenia. all her sisters are effected. -------So be the guardian angle ----------Or Run