I posted topic as below sometime ago. My bf and I going to have our 2nd time sex in few days time. Is there high chance for me to hurt like I lost my virginity? Most of my friends same it will because the his penis only enter a bit only during the first time, the remaining of my vagina still a virgin area and never stretch, they worry I will feel the tearing feeling again. Is it true?
First post:
I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick around. I thinks his size is abnormal as I expecting something about 5". I am afraid that he will find out i was a virgin if he hurt me a lot.
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) I actually bleed a lot but just told him is due to his size. Do you think that he notice that I was a virgin?
First post:
I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick around. I thinks his size is abnormal as I expecting something about 5". I am afraid that he will find out i was a virgin if he hurt me a lot.
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) I actually bleed a lot but just told him is due to his size. Do you think that he notice that I was a virgin?
1.The size isn't abnormal. my boyfriend is 1/4 inch from being 9" and hes the only one i ever done it with.
2.Any size can be done with a first timer. Just tell him to use alot of lube and be easy. Maybe you could tell him since it's been a while since you've done anything then you've tightened up again so he needs to be easier.
3.Its normal sometimes if he goes to rough with me it will have a pinching/ burning sensation but slowly fades if we dont have sex for a while.
4. If you bled but it was more that spotting like in between periods, then its possible but it takes alot to split a vagina because the skin around it is protective yet stretchy at the same time.
5. Every girl is different. Some girls have slight pain, some girls (as myself) my have pain that could make your eyes tear up so that you feel like you'll cry.the pain goes away fast. after sex is done.
6. I doubt he could tell you were a virgin. Its hard to tell unless a guy its actually looking at you vagina where you con see the hymen.
Let me help you out. Use lube. I made a bad mistake the second time having sex. he stuck his penis in my vagina which wasnt wet enough and the next day there was pain and uncomfortable feeling down there. My advise to you:
1. Foreplay and lube. Not kidding you, use both trust me.
2. Try a simpler position until you loosen up a bit. Try doing missionary cowgirl(hits great g-spot to create mind-blowing orgasms) or reverse cowgirl to give him a good view of the back. For you i would suggest you on top so u have control of the depth and speed so you will be more comfortable.
3. Don't rush into it. Maybe go see a movie or cook him a nice dinner with choices of wine. Not too much though just evough to mellow you both.
You said your 24 right? Never thought a 15 year old would be giving you this advise did you? lol
good luck and god bless. hope everything goes ok
lets get some things straight. yes it will hurt, yes, it gets better and your hymen breaking doesn't feel any more difficult than getting a pelvic exam.
Lubricate, Lubricate, lubricate!!!!!I can not stress this enough. Ask him to take it slow, moire foreplay. Even figering you for a while until you are comfortable.
Sex is not like the PORN videos, it's better when it's between 2 loving people. So I hope this helps. Be patient, I promise it will get better. if not talk to you healthcare provider, they will help you quite a bit.
Lubricate, Lubricate, lubricate!!!!!I can not stress this enough. Ask him to take it slow, moire foreplay. Even figering you for a while until you are comfortable.
Sex is not like the PORN videos, it's better when it's between 2 loving people. So I hope this helps. Be patient, I promise it will get better. if not talk to you healthcare provider, they will help you quite a bit.