Ok, my bf is really good in bed but the timing for both oral and intercourse sucks. It takes a while for me to climax. I like to savor the moment as well because I just like connecting if that makes sense. One thing that bug me soooo much is oral. I give him voluntarily and when he ask and im amazing a it but he doesnt. I can count on one hand the times he ate me out and we been together for two years. He told me that hes just not into it and he said hes always been that way about oral. :/ I lost my v. To him and I don't regret it but my last bf use to eat me out almost every other day so Idk what to do. And no I do not miss my ex.
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It sounds like this is not an issue of how to last longer in bed as such, but more an issue of bedroom etiquette.
This is complicated. My ex was like this as well, he just didn't like giving oral and did it only occasionally. I think a lot of guys just don't realize that it's important for women to climax as well to feel good in bed, and that good sex is a matter of sharing together rather than everything being so focused on the guy. The best I can suggest is to just tell him you love it when he gives you oral and to ask for it explicitly. Or if he doesn't want to do oral, at least stimulate you with his hands or a vibe, you know?
I'd say don't let him in you unless you've already had an orgasm, when he tries to put it in you so he can pump 10 times and cum, just tell him he needs to get you off with his fingers,tongue, or something else... If he can't last long enough to satisfy you, then maybe try bringing a toy into the bedroom.