I am 38,i am a social drinker and smoker.I was married and have two kids.Since the divorce ,after four years i haven't had a proper intercourse.I had a girlfriend but i am disappointed in my body function.I think i dont enjoy sex like i used to be or i am working long hours at work and i am not relax enough.I get turn on but i cant hold it longer.Is it lack of exercise or don't rest enough.I know is something to do with my blood flow through body and my mind.I am not particular keen to take medication.What would you recommend the bst way to go about it?
sounds like you have a variety of things that together are causing the problem. first, both drinking and smoking make it harder to hold an erection. 4 years without intercourse would make you desensitized to the female body since men use a stronger grip than the vagina can (this problem goes away after awhile, just get used to it again). stress is the main culprit of erectile disfunction, and lack of exercise can also contribute. if you have an unhealthy diet, that can also be a factor.
smoking on its own isnt too big of a deal, and alcohol has the most effect while you are drunk. your best bet would be to have sex on a night that you are NOT drinking. try taking a walk together after dinner, then have a relaxing bath together. you may want to use some sensitizing lubricant and a penis ring the first few times to help maintain the erection. if you are relaxed and healthy, after you get used to the feel again the problem should go away.
smoking on its own isnt too big of a deal, and alcohol has the most effect while you are drunk. your best bet would be to have sex on a night that you are NOT drinking. try taking a walk together after dinner, then have a relaxing bath together. you may want to use some sensitizing lubricant and a penis ring the first few times to help maintain the erection. if you are relaxed and healthy, after you get used to the feel again the problem should go away.