I am a guy and I would love to date a flat chested girl. Flat chest a girls are not only beautiful but way underappreciated. There are more guys than women think we actually want and like flat-chested women. I am definitely one of those but have a hard time finding a nice flat chested girl because most are self-conscious and we are padded bras or think that guys like myself are strange for liking flat-chested women. I wish there was a dating website for flat-chested women and guys who appreciate them.
And even if you are self-conscious, that also tends to make the guy feel awkward ... and that when "we" may say the not-so-smart things (like, "doesn't matter, cause I love you" - or something like that). If you are very shy about your breasts, it requires tremendous courage and/or confidence to think that it can change your self-perception or mean that much to you what he thinks.
I don't know if that was the case with your ex, of course. But I do know that if you run into someone you really match with, then some-mysterious-how, he'll probably find your breasts much more intriguing than all the "ordinary" ones ;o)
And of course, also, after age 21 guys should become more courageous and/or confident, so they will also be able to say that yours are the best ever - which I bet you'd rather hear than "doesn't matter cause I love you".
But we all need a little time to things right ;o)
I don't think I have seen anyone with bralettes in real life, but I tried googling since you asked. And the images I that popped up looked quite nice, and I could well imagine the would be quite nice in your case.
Overall, just relax about it as much as you can. Then new stuff can happen. And don't give away that you are shy about that, cause that just makes the guy bewildered and awkward - and besides, if you mention it yourself, even an objectively good compliment wouldn't have the best effect, because you'd be thinking "oh, now he is just being polite because I said that other stuff ..."
But if the guy on his own accord musters the courage to say your breasts are wonderful, then it probably will mean something to you - and well it should, because that will probably blow him away ... (this is a little secret, but guys are actually quite defenseless, when it means something to the girl that he likes her) ;o)
Super-dear you! ;o)
I always hope I would be able to say something sensible, if someone is worried about this subject. But when you say that what would happen if your new boyfriend "feels you up", and that that's your concern ... then I must admit I almost feel like I am "on hallowed ground", even talking to you!
I'm a seasoned boy now, so this is a long time ago, but I can recall the feeling at any time of sitting with this one special girl of 16 at the party, desperately wanting to "feel her up" - believing that if I could do that even for a split-second, a hundred years of loneliness would be swept away instantly ... no well, mayby I am painting with to broad a brush here - but just make you consider that it is really not always just a question of "groping some material" to boys, but rather some intens magic emanating from a girl's breasts, some physical mode of getting in touch with or close to a basically beneign foreign force ;o)
Anyway, it was in a freewheeling city back in freewheeling times, and it usually went like: you drank a few beers, and talked to the girl about everything and nothing - like "oh yeah, that teacher is indeed stupid" or "oh yes, the universe is vast ... huge even!" ;o) And then in the course of the evening, she might let you touch her breasts and feel some access to the beneign female force ... (and if she wouldn't let you, then not that big of a deal, maybe someone else might come along some other time, who would.)
That was roughly the normal way (not that was I was big womanizer or anything, but when it now and then somehow happened, it was like that.)
Anyway, this time it was different. I felt like she liked me and all was fine - UNTIL my hands would even remote be on their way to that area. Then she would almost literally freeze up with her arms crossed tightly over her chest.
That of course wrong-footed me completely ... can you imagine how difficult it must be for a boy who isn't all that experienced to handle that situation? I think perhaps you can if you try ... you just never looked at it from that angle before ;o) Isn't that true?
Anyway, you probably guessed why she acted that way ...
The irony was that my boyish x-ray vision had already picked up that had to have breasts like yours, and I had originally noticed her exactly because of that - if you accept my explanation that boys sometimes feel a powerful beneign force meeting them via a girl's breasts, then I think you can also (if even just for a few seconds or minutes) envision how intense that force must seem to be when being channeled through ultra-small breasts?
Somewhat like, you know, a river which a some stretches is very wide and seem to have more water, and at other stretches due to rocks or whatever are very narrow, and thus from afar perhaps would seem to less water. But the moment you get interested and move a little closer, you realize that actually same amount of water per second passes through both parts of that river - only at the narrow part, the current is so much stronger.
Anyway, that was why this time I didn't just feel "oh, if she won't let me closer, the someone else at some point probably will" - but rather "this is it, this is my call, this is the ultimate" ;o)
Naturally, I must be said that I was way to impatient - you know, wanting everything to happen the first night. But it was such an awkward situation that I gave up. I really didn't know how to break that ice, as it were.
All is well that ends well, of course. And a few years later, when I had become more like a man - you know, determined to melt or break or whatever ice there might be, I looked her up again, and then it worked fine.
I'm certainly now trying to push you into having sex before you absolutely feel comfortable about, but I must tell you, that it is definitely now true, that there is "nothing to feel". On the contrary, your breasts contain cascade after cascade of feeling which they'll generously overflow with at the right time and the right person and so on. And it goes both ways, because once your breasts feel appreciated, that also trickers a lot of more feelings in you. And like I said - well perhaps one shouldn't always compare oneself to others, ideally ... but if you do, then compared to other girls with larger breasts, remember my example of the narrow parts of the river: you can let the same amount of love well from yours - the current will just be much stronger.
I think that is the best way to describe why breasts like yours feel like the best in the world for love-purposes for someone who gets to know them. Besides I think there is also usually a pretty strong correlation between liking the girl's person and liking her body more than those of others.
So I would say, take it easy about it - no hurry. I can of course not speak for someone else, but wouldn't you think your boyfriend has some idea about your "size", even though you wear the padded A or whatever? Boys do have eyes, and some feel about a girl they are interested in. I mean, I cannot absolutely guarantee that he wouldn't be disappointed if he has been with someone else recently, and perhaps is still thinking about her or something like that, and he would think; "Oh, these little things are beautiful, but Sarah's Ds used to flow all over the place .."
But if that should be the case, then you probably was a s good of a match as you hoped ... AND there are a couple other versions that I can much more easily relate to:
... that he either already has figured it all out and has some of the same feelings that I had a long time ago, in which case it couldn't be better.
... or he hasn't really x-rayed you bra correctly, and does get a little surprised. But then don't get angry at him, because it is a little unusual, as you know. And also, don't be too much: "Oh, I'm a disappointment, now it's all over"-ish - because even if he should be initially surprised, you still have up your sleeve, that if you let him in even so, he'll probably soon "get it" ... i.e. that "Hey, this is actually the part of the river where the current is the strongest, and the water is the freshest!" ;o)
So anyway, relax your fears, and don't let your mind work overtime on how you should solve the situation. I'm sure he knows it is up to him to make you feel comfortable about all that. And then reward him if you feel he is trying to show genuine affection - and a little forgiving if he is a little clumsy about it all. Like I said in the beginning, boys also have awkwardness-feelings and fear of doing or saying the wrong thing - so much so that it sometimes makes us do just that ;o)
But I think you girls are usually quite good at deciphering that.
And even more: being afraid that you would disappoint him, does not make you hopeless or self-absorbed in any way - rather it makes you very sweet and kind, if that's your concern. So no reason why you shouldn't like yoruself a little bit. That's ingredients that makes me think you'll probably be unusually wonderful to be with, and you will be just the opposite of a disappointment.
Even if he knew that that is your worry, he would probably want to love you three times extra, don't you think? But don't tell him, that would just complicate things. And boys also prefer to think they have won the bog prize with their girlfriend - so if that's what he thinks, just let him keep that belief ;o)
So, let him figure it out himself - boys also love to have figured stuff out themselves.
Sorry, it got so long - I guess I got carried away with being on hallowed ground, talking to you ;o) But don't worry, the whole point is, it is much simpler in real life. At some point you might want to pass the hurddle, and then some-magical-how at some-magical-time you do let down your guard and suddenly his hand is indeed on your breast - and a for a moment a big rush goes through the universe :o) And then after a little while, he thinks "ah, this feel so good and right" and then you also think "ah, this feels so good".
All the best to both of you from a "seasoned boy"!
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Well.... ladies... being a man i can tell you... been blessed by the lord to be in the company of wonderful women... many sharing the same feelings ... its absolutely normal... you are as attractive and hot and beautiful as any other lady... please dont ever ...ever ... in your life feel low about yourself... and for gods sake... stay away from implants... an artificial thing will always be artificial... it may give you confidence or whatever... but remember... it would be a borrowed one.. always... stay the way you are... :-) :-)
PS: Anyone who has a problem with that... tell them to FO... they aint your friends or well wishers and you want them... ;-)