I know you all are going to say something about my age but I don't care. I am 19 and my husband is 21 we just recently got married. I want a baby so bad especially since we have gotten married I just feel like it's natural to want to start a family after getting married and everything. Also, his mom really wants us to have a baby and keeps asking me when we are going to and everyone around me is pregnant or having babies, no those aren't the only reason I want a baby it's just adding to the "baby fever" I guess you could call it. My husband sometimes jokes around saying lets have a baby and then will say maybe in a year or so. I know part of the reason he isn't ready is because he is the only one with a job right now. I have recently applied for a job and I am hoping if I get it things will change but I don't know. I also think he is scared for me because I have problems with my hips and pelvis and we aren't sure if that will be a problem. Also we have three dogs so I think he is worried about them. I just don't know how to bring up having a baby because I also somewhat hurried him into getting married so soon after getting engaged (we started dating jan 2012, engaged in nov, and married july 2013.) If i could just get some advice it would be great!
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My advice to you Maddie is to wait. You two need to get to know each other as a married couple better before adding another little life to the mix, they do complicate matters greatly and can add a strain to an already strained relationship, especially if the strain is due to money. Wait a couple of years, get to know each other really well and don't bring up the baby situation to him and see what happens in the next couple of years, you never know he may surprise you after all. The more you bring it up the more you will scare him away from the idea of a baby in the house with the dogs, and by the way the dogs is just an excuse. He may already feel pressured from the quick and hasty dating year, proposal and fast time to wedding - please, please don't bring up the baby to him already - you'll bring the flight and flee out in him, any guy would be scared, heck I'm a female and already scared.
Sorry to not side you but you have age on your side and CAN afford to wait awhile. I was 35 before I had my first child, so starting a family is never too early or too late.
Good luck and hope this helps
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